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AIBU?

..to think that this is not acceptable in relationships??

53 replies

patch123 · 21/08/2015 14:38

Aibu to think that texting members of the opposite sex whilst in a relationship is wrong?

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JeffsanArsehole · 21/08/2015 14:39

Eh?

Wot like his mum? Sister? Female friends?

Don't be daft Smile

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DurhamDurham · 21/08/2015 14:40

Is that a blanket ban including ALL females? How odd.

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TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 21/08/2015 14:40

Uh? It depends what the texts are! You don't stop having friends or relatives of the opposite sex when you're in a relationship..

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QuiteLikely5 · 21/08/2015 14:41

You are being unreasonable.

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schlong · 21/08/2015 14:41

Are you Sicilian?Grin

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MrsTerryPratchett · 21/08/2015 14:41

Sexting - yes, texting - no.

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flanjabelle · 21/08/2015 14:43

What?


Huh?



What? Confused

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TheRealAmyLee · 21/08/2015 14:44

It depends what you are texting. We both have friends of both sexes and we both text them. We also have family of both sexes that we text. Usually I have to text everyone because DH cba so I often text male friends/family.

Unless the content is inappropriate I don't see the issue. With regards to friends we live by the rule that if you wouldn't say it to them in front of your partner then don't say it. It works as an idea.

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TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 21/08/2015 14:44

Out of curiosity OP,is it just texting you have an issue with or are phone calls and face to face interactions 'wrong' as well?

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readyforno2 · 21/08/2015 14:45

Really op? I text members of the opposite sex all the time. In fact, one of my best friends is a guy who quite often comes to mine for a wine night when dh is away offshore

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DoJo · 21/08/2015 14:45

There are no rules as to what is acceptable in 'relationships' other than those agree by the parties involved in the relationship. If you are concerned about your partner texting members of the opposite sex, then that is the issue to address, not whether other people would accept it. If you want to say what has happened, OP, then it will be easier for people to respond in context.

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SaucyJack · 21/08/2015 14:45

Whassup OP?

I'm assuming this isn't about your partner sending his mum a text to arrange time for Sunday lunch.

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SurlyCue · 21/08/2015 14:46

Yes you are being unreasonable. Texting anyone is fine. Not trusting your partner is not fine.

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googoodolly · 21/08/2015 14:48

On the face of it, YABVU.

However, I have a feeling this isn't about your DP texting females about shift swapping or what was on TV last night. Care to elaborate any further?

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Backforthis · 21/08/2015 15:04

Texting them what? Dick pics, not ok, cat pics, fine.

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patch123 · 21/08/2015 15:07

Obviously not family. I mean flirty messages. I also don't understand if you are in a loving relationship why you would need any interaction with "friends" on a regular basis..

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RachelZoe · 21/08/2015 15:09

You can't talk to your friends of the opposite sex if you're in a relationship? Confused. What do you mean by flirty?

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Theycallmemellowjello · 21/08/2015 15:10

I actually think it's a harder line to draw than is always acknowledged. Personally I do have straight male friends - but mostly from my uni days. To be honest, these days I probably wouldn't make close friends with a straight guy - not that I have a 'rule' against it, but I wouldn't feel right hanging out one on one, texting often, confiding in a straight bloke in a way that I would feel fine doing with my close female friends and a close friend of mine who is a gay guy.

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GamerCh1ck · 21/08/2015 15:11

You don't like your bloke texting his friends?

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RepeatAdNauseum · 21/08/2015 15:11

I also don't understand if you are in a loving relationship why you would need any interaction with "friends" on a regular basis..

Wow, that's a red flag and a half...

Having friends is good for you. You don't ditch them because you're in a relationship. Of course you should still interact with them...

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LargeGoldCunt · 21/08/2015 15:11

I also don't understand if you are in a loving relationship why you would need any interaction with "friends" on a regular basis..

What? Confused

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MrsTerryPratchett · 21/08/2015 15:11

I also don't understand if you are in a loving relationship why you would need any interaction with "friends" on a regular basis.. I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who thought that.

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Backforthis · 21/08/2015 15:11

Flirting is obviously crossing a line but

'I also don't understand if you are in a loving relationship why you would need any interaction with "friends" on a regular basis..' Hmm

If you're not trolling you need help.

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MaidOfStars · 21/08/2015 15:12

What type of "flirty message"?

"You're not fat/old/whatever and as gorgeous as ever" to an old friend - OK.

"I thought of you last night while shagging my wife" to anyone - Not OK.

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Shutthatdoor · 21/08/2015 15:12

I also don't understand if you are in a loving relationship why you would need any interaction with "friends" on a regular basis

The idea that you shouldn't interact with friends regularly seems very unhealthy to me.

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