..to think that this is not acceptable in relationships??

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Aibu to think that texting members of the opposite sex whilst in a relationship is wrong?

Eh?

Wot like his mum? Sister? Female friends?

Don't be daft

Is that a blanket ban including ALL females? How odd.

Uh? It depends what the texts are! You don't stop having friends or relatives of the opposite sex when you're in a relationship..

You are being unreasonable.

Are you Sicilian?

Sexting - yes, texting - no.

What?

Huh?

What?

It depends what you are texting. We both have friends of both sexes and we both text them. We also have family of both sexes that we text. Usually I have to text everyone because DH cba so I often text male friends/family.

Unless the content is inappropriate I don't see the issue. With regards to friends we live by the rule that if you wouldn't say it to them in front of your partner then don't say it. It works as an idea.

Out of curiosity OP,is it just texting you have an issue with or are phone calls and face to face interactions 'wrong' as well?

Really op? I text members of the opposite sex all the time. In fact, one of my best friends is a guy who quite often comes to mine for a wine night when dh is away offshore

There are no rules as to what is acceptable in 'relationships' other than those agree by the parties involved in the relationship. If you are concerned about your partner texting members of the opposite sex, then that is the issue to address, not whether other people would accept it. If you want to say what has happened, OP, then it will be easier for people to respond in context.

Whassup OP?

I'm assuming this isn't about your partner sending his mum a text to arrange time for Sunday lunch.

Yes you are being unreasonable. Texting anyone is fine. Not trusting your partner is not fine.

On the face of it, YABVU.

However, I have a feeling this isn't about your DP texting females about shift swapping or what was on TV last night. Care to elaborate any further?

Texting them what? Dick pics, not ok, cat pics, fine.

Obviously not family. I mean flirty messages. I also don't understand if you are in a loving relationship why you would need any interaction with "friends" on a regular basis..

You can't talk to your friends of the opposite sex if you're in a relationship? . What do you mean by flirty?

I actually think it's a harder line to draw than is always acknowledged. Personally I do have straight male friends - but mostly from my uni days. To be honest, these days I probably wouldn't make close friends with a straight guy - not that I have a 'rule' against it, but I wouldn't feel right hanging out one on one, texting often, confiding in a straight bloke in a way that I would feel fine doing with my close female friends and a close friend of mine who is a gay guy.

You don't like your bloke texting his friends?

I also don't understand if you are in a loving relationship why you would need any interaction with "friends" on a regular basis..

Wow, that's a red flag and a half...

Having friends is good for you. You don't ditch them because you're in a relationship. Of course you should still interact with them...

I also don't understand if you are in a loving relationship why you would need any interaction with "friends" on a regular basis..

What?

I also don't understand if you are in a loving relationship why you would need any interaction with "friends" on a regular basis.. I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who thought that.

Flirting is obviously crossing a line but

'I also don't understand if you are in a loving relationship why you would need any interaction with "friends" on a regular basis..'

If you're not trolling you need help.

I also don't understand if you are in a loving relationship why you would need any interaction with "friends" on a regular basis

The idea that you shouldn't interact with friends regularly seems very unhealthy to me.

What type of "flirty message"?

"You're not fat/old/whatever and as gorgeous as ever" to an old friend - OK.

"I thought of you last night while shagging my wife" to anyone - Not OK.