To feel a little sad at having very big children

[Purplesky2]

Ds is 7.7 and 139cm tall and Dd is 3.6 and 109cm tall. I sometime feel sad the way people speak to them. Not so much Dd as she has a toddlerish face and mannerisms and also looks about 5 which is still young but Ds get treated much older by other family members. My BIL was teasing him for his teddy bears the other day which he play with at home. He also loves playgrounds and soft play still but I fear people will tell him off for being too old and big soon. I know it's a first world problem and I am incredibly lucky that he is healthy but really inside he is just a small boy but looks so old on the outside.

Your BIL is a twat!
On a positive note, taller people are more successful, apparently. Sorry can't remember where I read that, but definitely have.

justme yy on the not at school issues.
And whoever said soft play height- we had that once, I got the manager asked why they had a height limit, and as it was to stop larger older kids squashing small ones said 'oh that's great then as she is younger and clearly is smaller weight wise than many in there, thanks so much'.

Definitely agree about the choice of clothes.

Dd is 4yrs old but wears 7-8yrs size clothes. Clothing with her favourite characters on seem to end at a 4-5yrs size.

Bert what I used to do is buy a character top, cut round it and stitch it onto a plain t shirt. We had lots of Charlie and Lola stuff like this!

Try Next for character type clothing in larger sizes.

www.next.co.uk/girls/older-girls/characters/1

www.next.co.uk/boys/older-boys/characters/1

The My Little Ponies legging are not available. Nooooooooo.

You are a Wanker raising my hopes.

I so get this! DS is 6.11 and 129.5 cm (fractionally too short to go on Legoland rides alone) and did is 3.10 and 106 cm. DS is taller than a friend of his who is (a diddy) 10!

Lots of assumptions made about their behaviour and expectations. Getting increasingly difficult to get DS age appropriate clothing (he wants a "7" t shirt for his birthday, but wears age 9-10. Thanks to David Beckham 7 might be easier than 6).

When DS was 3 (looked 5) a very earnest lady approached us in a cafe on a week day lunchtime to ask about Home Ed. She assumed we were as DS looked school age and wasn't at school during school time.

I was totally gutted when DS wanted Fireman Sam wellies age 3, and his feet were bigger than anything I could find.

Oops!! Sorry :( keep looking though 'cos stuff come in and out of stock - also worth looking at ebay - people buy stuff in the sales and sell it on and character stuff in bigger sizes usually ends up in the sale as there is a smaller market for it (mainly just odd ball adults and teens, giant children and the mentally handicapped (not sure if that's a PC way of saying it - sorry if it causes offence) who sometimes get into characters a bit older)

YANBU i was a big child, tallest in my year group and often got comments from adults and teased by other children. Quite why adults think its ok to comment on a childs appearance I don't know.

Off topic but... Bikerunski How about waking him up with a plain white tshirt (£2ish from amazon fruit of the loom etc) with a 7 you've drawn on it and some fabric pen and he can design his own.

I know exactly what you mean. It's other people's perceptions that are hard. I have a 5'7" getting curvy 11 year old dd. She has always been big as her dad and I are. It's actually harder now I think than it was when she was younger because she is adult sized in every way. Has started secondary school this week but is still a little girl inside.

www.amazon.co.uk/Am-Birthday-Childrens-T-Shirt-Royal/dp/B00CYC3QUI/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1440279036&sr=8-1&keywords=i+am+7+tshirt

DD1 got asked out by a 6th former when she was only 12 - he was mortified when she told him, bless him.

A similar thing happened to me. She was one of the leads and about 24, and we were at an after-show party. My DF intervened to inform her that I had just turned 14. She requested a song on the radio for me a few days afterwards, which was sweet.

My 3.5 year old is very tall for his age too - most people think he's about 5 or 6 when they look at him. It doesn't help that my middle child (6) is really very petite and so isn't very much taller than him. Many people think that they are twins. He tends to get treated as though he's being really silly and immature when in actual fact he's just being a 3 year old little boy! Even my husband expects him to behave 'better' than he does. I find it quite sad and feel very sorry for him.

Thank you Wanker, but the 7 number comes on an age 7 size top, and DS really needs 9-10 size.

Bikeski
Have a look at Crystalsrus iron on numbers on Amazon - lots of scope to design a personalised tshirt for less than a fiver!

My dd was always very tall for her age, generally in clothes sizes a couple of years older. It's less noticeable now as her growth has really slowed down but she is almost 6ft at 14. It's not been a major issue, apart from the clothes thing. She was a very girly girl when she was younger and finding dresses in tween sizes that looked nice on a eight year old was pretty hard.

Her brother found it a bit annoying to be mistaken for being younger than her (although he is only 16mths older). Much worse was when at a family wedding dd was given champagne (at 12) and her (short in stature) cousin who she was with was told he needed to check with his dad - he was 21!

It is hard - my DS3 is tall and hit puberty very young, so there was this ridiculous period where he was sporting the start of a 'tache and looking like he was 15 when he was still playing with his Lego before bed. He hated it, and while I gave him many talks about how you can't hold back nature, I didn't blame him for hating it. And even now at 13, his best friends look like little boys and he looks like he should be sitting GCSEs.

My boys are both tall for their age, my 5 year old is bigger than some of his 7 year old cousin's friends and my 2 year old is bigger than some school kids and above 100% on the height charts here (and his feet are only one size off his brother). I've found other kids to be pretty good, mainly as it seems to be normal here for them all to ask each other's age when they start playing but I've seen a few do a double take. My cousin's daughter was very tall for her age and although now 16+ it caused them issues from when she was 12ish with people presuming she was much older and she was banned from high heels until recently.

We have this too. DD is 3.3 & in 4-5 clothes. Because she's tall, energetic & confident, & has lots of long hair, people assume she's 5 or 6. Until they speak to her & she's clearly still much younger.