To be absolutely livid!

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I have been seeing a man for the past couple of months. He has been distant a few times throughout this and each time I've spoken to him and he has changed his behaviour. He knows he's on his last chance.
We have been friends for a
long time and he knows I am not a jealous person.
Last night he received a text from a mutual female friend of ours and I saw and read it (it flashed up on the iPhone screen) he was out of the room.
The text was along the lines of "I didn't call back blah blah" when he returned he saw it and said "I'm not going to fix your fence blah blah"
Now for perspective, throughout our time seeing each other he has told me how frustrating this woman is and how she always nags him to do house work for him.
Last night he lied, the moment he saw the text so now I don't trust anything he has said relating to her.
I am livid! I can deal with most things, but lying is a line I will not have crossed. I want to walk away and tell him to go fuck himself.
I realise reading back this sounds so petty, I think I've included everything so I don't drip feed. I'm also donning my hard hat as I type.

Sorry I don't understand what the texts meant?

What was the lie?

I'm not sure I understand this. So he lied and said the message was about her fence when it was about something else?

What happened?

I want to walk away and tell him to go fuck himself.

Ok. So do that then.

Eh? I think you are so livid you didn't make sense. Been there!

Actually, I think if a "relationship" is this fraught after just a couple of months it's not worth sticking with whatever the lie or misunderstanding/misinterpretation was.

I haven't explained it at all well.
The text was about her saying she didn't call him
He started saying he wasn't going to fix her fence
Whenever she texts and he's with me (or any female friend) he shouts about how he isn't going to do housework for them (or something similar) and then proceeds to tell me how these women are clinging onto him etc.
When he said it was about the fence I became angry because it was a blatant lie (and I couldn't say anything) and made me doubt everything he's told me in the past.

Your post is slightly confusing, I'm not really sure if there is a deeper issue here rather than him lying?

The text was along the lines of "I didn't call back blah blah" when he returned he saw it and said "I'm not going to fix your fence blah blah"

Don't really understand what his lie was based on the above?

At the end of the day, if you're not happy with his behaviour, then get out now. If it's only been a few months, then things aren't likely to improve .

Still no clearer.

Was it a lie though? Maybe he knew the phone call was going to be about the fence? I've done that - ignored a call but still been able to tell DP what it was about.

I still think it's not worth the aggro though.

I'm still a bit confused.

So, do you think, he is seeing other women, and when they text him and you're present, he uses the excuse that they want him to do DIY, and won't leave him alone ?

Maybe he was meant to call her back about fixing the fence, so wasn't actually lying.
sounds like you want out of the relationship anyway

Ahh ok so you reckon he only started talking about the fence because you were there. Yep, tbh if he's lying about stuff like this he sounds untrustworthy and not worth it. I wouldn't spend any more time and energy on him.

I'm glad I'm not being unreasonable, he can go fuck himself and I'll go find a better man.

Still a bit confusing! You say he has a history of "being distant". I think you're drip feeding here OP!

I don't really get this, maybe she's been asking him to do the fence, he saw the message and knew that it would be related to that, even if not specifically mentioned in the text.

He sounds flaky though so I would probably dump.

I'm not sure that the text does or doesn't mean that he is lying, but you don't need a reason to dump him anyway. Specially not after two months.

If you want to tell him to fuck to the far side of off and take the long way back again, that's your prerogative.

I don't get. Might the first text re: calling back be fence-related?

I read it as he has called her and she hasn't answered for whatever reason, then she's texted him to explain why she didn't ring him back straight away. I think the whole fence thing is a smokescreen and he is possibly seeing other women.

He sounds like he enjoys having all these women "needing" him. If he wanted to, he could delete their numbers, tell them that he is no longer available to resolve their gardening/DIY/household issues, and focus on his relationship with you. But he doesn't sound like he wants to do that.

In your shoes, I'd ditch him. Onwards and upwards.

Ummmmmmmmm, what?

I still don't understand either of your posts. But if you don't want to be with him, don't.

OK, so if the relationship isn't making you happy, end it. It's not like you've been married for a couple of decades. You've only been seeing each other for a couple of months. If it's not working now, you have no happy future together.

What on earth is going on?
"I am glad I am not being unreasonable"

Unreasonable about what?
You're making no sense OP.

Maybe we should ask Jeffrey what on earth this is all about.