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To be absolutely livid!

34 replies

Peoplekeepstealingmyusername · 21/08/2015 10:07

I have been seeing a man for the past couple of months. He has been distant a few times throughout this and each time I've spoken to him and he has changed his behaviour. He knows he's on his last chance.
We have been friends for a
long time and he knows I am not a jealous person.
Last night he received a text from a mutual female friend of ours and I saw and read it (it flashed up on the iPhone screen) he was out of the room.
The text was along the lines of "I didn't call back blah blah" when he returned he saw it and said "I'm not going to fix your fence blah blah"
Now for perspective, throughout our time seeing each other he has told me how frustrating this woman is and how she always nags him to do house work for him.
Last night he lied, the moment he saw the text so now I don't trust anything he has said relating to her.
I am livid! I can deal with most things, but lying is a line I will not have crossed. I want to walk away and tell him to go fuck himself.
I realise reading back this sounds so petty, I think I've included everything so I don't drip feed. I'm also donning my hard hat as I type.

OP posts:
Pigeonpost · 21/08/2015 11:45

I don't understand the fence/housework references either but he sounds like a twat anyway, move on!

whichcolour · 21/08/2015 11:51

What makes you think he's lying about the fence? Have you caught him lying before? I agree with surly by the way.

MaxieMouse · 21/08/2015 11:55

What's so difficult to understand? Woman sends text saying "I didn't call you", OP sees the text. Then man comes and pretends this woman is asking him to fix her fence, obviously a lie as fence wasn't mentioned in the SMS.
The DIY is a story the man has told lots of times before and now OP suspects it's been a lie all along.
YANBU, OP, give him his marching orders.

PuppyMonkey · 21/08/2015 11:59

Perhaps he'd tried to call her to say he wouldn't be coming to fix fence.

She didn't answer and later sent text sorry I couldn't call.

He sees it and thinks oh FFS not this about the fence again and rants to you " I'm not fixing her fence grrr."

Lord knows. Grin

DawnOfTheDoggers · 21/08/2015 12:02

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YourFredIsBoring · 21/08/2015 12:02

Maxie, I get that, but what I am trying to understand is how she knows the whole thing isn't regarding a fence, despite it having no mentions on the text message? Perhaps OP's partner could have arranged to fix the fence so he knows that's what the text is regarding?

OP isn't really explaining how she knows for sure that it is a lie. If she doesn't know for sure, then she is being unreasonable.

19lottie82 · 21/08/2015 12:06

YourFred.....

Exactly. It seems like the OP is really drip feeding here!

Dynomite · 21/08/2015 13:14

No clue what you're on about, OP, but if a relationship is this messy after only a few months and he actually complains about how much other women want him then you should just dump him. He sounds like a twat and you sound like a bit of a mess. No point sticking around. Move on and find someone who doesn't make you feel this way, he'll never change and probably enjoys winding you up.

elbowsdontsing2 · 21/08/2015 14:32

if i had drunk a bottle of wine i could have a really good chat with you but as i have nt ..............( walks off scratching head)

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