To think you should not have to present an appointment letter to get holiday to take DC to hospital?

[MammaTJ]

DP works in a non critical role. Not saying his job is not important, it is in that it provides a roof over our heads. The world is not going to collapse and no one will die if he doesn't go. He would not have been able to have any time off for the previous fortnight as he steps up and does his boss's job when he is away. There were no issues with anyone else being on holiday at the same time.

We had a really important medical appointment for DS the other day, so DP duly booked holiday. This holiday was OK-ed as long as he took in the appointment letter, which I had lost by that point.

I had to ring the hospital and get them to send me another letter. I get that losing it was my fault but really do not understand why a full grown adult would need to take in a letter when they are using holiday time anyway!

Sock it to me, AIBU?

Quite a few years ago I used to work in a job which involved monitoring attendance and when people hadn't turned up and were asked where they were 9 times out of 10 they would say "hospital appointment." It was a clear "catch-all" excuse for skiving in those days, although of course some of them must have been genuine. Nowadays they would be expected to show the letter. I expect that is why kippersmum had to show hers.

I also expect that your DH's boss, MammaTJ, just got his wires crossed and didn't realise you don't have to show it for annual leave. Your DH probably said conversationally "DS has got a hospital appointment" and the boss thought: "Hospital apointment = letter" and asked for it as a knee-jerk reaction. If your DH had said "Um, no this is annual leave, why do I have to show you a hospital letter" the boss would have said "Oh yes sorry, right you are," because as others have said, he had absolutely no right to know what your DH was doing on his day off.

I think you should be annoyed with your DH for a)not correcting his boss and b) making you go to all the effort of getting another letter.

Glad it went well.

I think you should be annoyed with your DH for a)not correcting his boss and b) making you go to all the effort of getting another letter.

I have much better things to be annoyed at him about than this!

The money he cost by throwing away the loose top of the car key for one. You know, the top that contains the chip that starts the car! admit I didn't know this until the car would not start

Still didn't give him aggro though, what would have been the point? He won't do it again, of that I am sure.

Still didn't give him aggro though, what would have been the point? He won't do it again, of that I am sure.

Your DH is a very lucky man ....

As the DH had booked this time as holiday in plenty of time, by the sounds of it, then the boss absolutely didn't need to see the letter. The letter contains someone else's medical info, and the boss isn't entitled to see it at all.

Surely under data protection act they cant have access to anything medical, be it appt letter or medical file without written permission off you first? I'd be onto HR about that and about having to give 'reasons' for Leave. But I am stroppy mare.

He is a secret rebel, he didn't take it in and his boss didn't ask for it today!