I need to know if IABU and spoilt or if I'm within my right to be upset.
I have 3DC, who all have OHs and children of their own. I divorced their dad 25 years ago and we all have a great relationship with each other. I'm single and exH remarried a few years ago.
DD has told me that for ExHs 60th next year they are taking him away on holiday to Greece, all the kids, OHs and grandkids. I'll admit I felt a pang of jealousy - due to locations and busy lives it's rare all my DC and DGC are under one roof let alone together for a week! But I kept this inside. They are paying for his flights and accommodation, as well as his DWs, as his present.
DD then said "I haven't forgotten you either" and TBH I fully expected her to say that they were gonna do the same for my 60th - which is 14 months after ExHs.
But she said that I could come along to the holiday they are having a couple of months after the Greece one, with her OHs family (his mum, dad, siblings and nieces). Id have to buy my own flights but can go in DGCs rooms with them so I don't have to pay for accommodation.
Problem is, her OH is a relatively new BF and I've only met his family a couple of times. Also I lost my job a while ago and currently working for minimum wage, and catching up on payments I couldn't make whilst unemployed, so not sure if I can afford a return flight in half term.
I asked if my other DC and their little ones would be coming and she said she hadn't mentioned it but probably not as its really a thing for her OHs family.
I don't think it's a money thing - all my DC have decent jobs and holiday twice a year usually - but even if it was, I'm thinking - why him? Why does he get the big holiday, and not me? Selfish I know, but particularly with my DD, for the purposes of not drip feeding I will give a bit of background. She has 3DC, and for various reasons has often struggled raising the older 2. There's been a few occasions where I've taken them in to live with me, sometimes for months, whilst she gets her head together. She now has a 1yo, who sleeps over at mine at least once a week so DD and her OH get a break. I also watch 1yo DGD on Fridays so they can work, and spring clean her house on Friday nights (she's v busy and would live in a pigsty otherwise). I have never taken cash off her for any of this. So you see I feel as if I'm owed just a little bit of gratitude and it would have been nice if they "picked me".
DS and DDIL are coming for tea tonight, I don't know wether to mention it or live and let live. I just feel kinda short changed by it all.