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To think my nephew is underdeveloped?

72 replies

WantToGetLost · 15/08/2015 16:26

Not sure if underdeveloped is the right word but he is just 8months and he cannot cruel or even sit up on his own. He just learned to roll over but gets stuck sometimes.
He uses his bouncer just fine as well.
I don't mean to sound judgmental im just curious and wondering if there is anything his mum can do?

OP posts:
Findtheoldme · 15/08/2015 16:28

No

He sounds perfectly fine. There are average ages for doing things for a reason.

TidyDancer · 15/08/2015 16:28

Have they asked for your advice?

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 15/08/2015 16:30

Not all babies crawl at 8 months.

Are his parents concerned?

Totality22 · 15/08/2015 16:32

God my daughter is 7 months and can't sit up yet (she can roll but isn't close to crawling or anything else). MY DS didn't sit up until 10 months granted he was crawling though

You sound nosy, over involved and yes very judgmental OP. Sorry but I would butt out if I were you.

callamia · 15/08/2015 16:33

I wouldn't expect most babies to be crawling at 8m, some of my friends' children weren't sitting independently at this age either, and there's nothing at all wrong with them. Will he have a 7-11m check? Not all authorities do it, but it would flag any cause for concern. If his other development seems ok (babbling, social engagement etc), then I wouldn't worry for now.

Pinkball75 · 15/08/2015 16:34

They don't all do everything bang on cue at the age they're meant to. A child who can't move around yet might be very advanced in other ways, such as dexterity. My DD didn't bum-shuffle until just after her first birthday or walk until her second, but she could count and recognise numbers up to 20 and recite the alphabet by 18months. Focus on his strong points and he'll do everything else when he's good and ready Wink

DirtyMugPolice · 15/08/2015 16:34

Yabu - all within the realms of normal. I slept through the night at 6 weeks and my son slept through at 16 months. Both developmental milestones but vastly different and have no relevance to the other!

mrspremise · 15/08/2015 16:35

He cannot cruel? You seem to have him covered on that score, OP... Fwiw, one of my sons stood up at seven months, the other didn't sit until after that age. HTH

MrsAukerman · 15/08/2015 16:36

I have an 8.5m old. Obviously he has lots of friends of similar ages. The variety is astounding. Some are nearly walking, some roll one way but not the other, some are crawling, others happy to sit and watch. If anything the bigger ones seem less mobile.

seaoflove · 15/08/2015 16:37

My DD was only just sitting at that age. Didn't crawl until she was 10.5m.

So no, he's not unusual at all.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 15/08/2015 16:38

Do you want any tips his dad can do or just breast related ones? Seeing as that's the only difference between mum and dads.

He sounds fine.

Bellebella · 15/08/2015 16:38

All babies are different, have his parents asked your opinion? Because as a parent of a child who is a very slow talker I would be pretty miffed if my sister or my sil told me my child seemed underdeveloped and perhaps there was more I could do.

If the parents are unconcerned then your nephew is fine.

Zeitgeistic · 15/08/2015 16:39

My perfectly normal DD lay on her back for 9 months. She didn't roll over, sit up or attempt to crawl. GP told me she was still within the normal range. She was right. DD is nearly 4 now and developmentally normal in every respect.

You sound judgy and ignorant. Have his parents asked for your advice? If not, keep out of it.

Lurkedforever1 · 15/08/2015 16:40

Yabu. Babies and children don't follow a defined development timetable where they achieve dead on a certain age. If dns parents are concerned they should speak to a professional, although no reason they should be.

Zeitgeistic · 15/08/2015 16:40

Rather a lot of the word 'normal' there - sorry!

FenellaFellorick · 15/08/2015 16:41

www.babycentre.co.uk/a6476/milestone-chart-one-to-six-months
www.babycentre.co.uk/a6477/milestone-chart-seven-to-12-months

have a look at that

Are his parents concerned?

If so, they can always have a chat with the health visitor.

I wouldn't be concerned about an 8 month old not yet sitting or crawling. If it's the average then that obviously means there are some doing it and some not.

Sirzy · 15/08/2015 16:41

What a horrible way of voicing concerns underdeveloped is.

PresidentTwonk · 15/08/2015 16:42

YABU - you can't spell 'crawl' so we obviously all develop skills at different ages...

RabbitSaysWoof · 15/08/2015 16:45

Why do people run off wearing the aunty badge badge like it's an actual responsibility that their sibling had a baby.
If you don't know enough to know that all babies are different then you are not really the person to voice concern for someone else's child.

Bunbaker · 15/08/2015 16:47

Just to reiterate what everyone else has said, it isn't anything to be concerned about and it isn't any of your business. Do you have children or know anything about them?

DD sat up unaided at 10 months, crawled at 12 months and walked at 16 months. We were all late walkers in my family so I wasn't in the least bit concerned.

Micah · 15/08/2015 16:50

Mine couldn't sit up or crawl at 8 months.

She got up and walked before 10 months.

Friends child could sit at 6 months, didn't walk until 23 months.

They're all different.

BackInTheRealWorld · 15/08/2015 16:50

God this reminds me of a cliquey baby group I joined. My son didn't crawl properly, would just drag himself on his elbows commando style and he didn't walk til he was 16 months. When he started walking one of the cliquey bitches came over and said 'so glad he is walking, we were getting very concerned about his lower body strength'
Oh fuck off and get back to your parquet flooring chats you massive bitches! Angry

Blimey, that was 17 years ago, you'd think I'd be over it by now! Shock Grin

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WantToGetLost · 15/08/2015 16:52

His parents are concerned, they asked me but I had a baby ten years ago I cannot remember I think my dc started at 7-8 months

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FenellaFellorick · 15/08/2015 16:53

If they are concerned, they would be better off asking their health visitor.

That is what you should advise them.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 15/08/2015 16:54

If they're concerned tell them to visit their GP or the Health Visitor.

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