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To think my nephew is underdeveloped?

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WantToGetLost · 15/08/2015 16:26

Not sure if underdeveloped is the right word but he is just 8months and he cannot cruel or even sit up on his own. He just learned to roll over but gets stuck sometimes.
He uses his bouncer just fine as well.
I don't mean to sound judgmental im just curious and wondering if there is anything his mum can do?

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 15/08/2015 20:34

I didn't see any other threads, if the OP was a dick then they were a dick. It's never acceptable to use the language you and others have described. However, if someone is genuinely looking for advice regarding a baby then I would hope that people could perhaps offer advice and tell the OP not to be a knob rather than just writing them off as a troll.

Ignorant people have nephews too.

PresidentTwonk · 15/08/2015 20:36

I think if the other posts on the other thread had been here it would be clear the OP is NOT after advice or genuinely worried about their nephew but as others haven't seen those posts I'll bow out as you don't have all the info you need to reach that conclusion :)

StrattersDairyProductPervert · 15/08/2015 20:47

I saw the other thread, it was vile. And it's a bit much deleting my previous comment about it, why shouldn't I quote something said that is seriously out of order, if you're going to make repugnant remarks like that, expect others to remember and give others the heads up.

morelikeguidelines · 15/08/2015 20:51

Not helpful or relevant, but I thought "underdeveloped" sounded a bit like a town with little going on, or a quiet beach resort.

A bit like Benidorm (or similar) is overdeveloped.

Findtheoldme · 15/08/2015 21:04

tricky - the op to this thread started another asking why this was deleted. I only saw her initial post so don't know what happened on that thread.

ouryve · 15/08/2015 21:04

So this is where RTFT isn't sufficient and we now need to RTOT, then.

Whatever.

grannytomine · 15/08/2015 21:12

BackInTheRealWorld, for some reason your post reminded me of my DD and a very different set of parents. DD was very bright but behind on physical stuff. Dyspraxia was suggested but we never had her assessed. We decided to do lots of physical stuff, tumble tots, dancing, swimming, she was 3 or 4 at the time. Her swimming was so awful she was enrolled in a SN group for extra help, teacher on the side and one in the water and usually 2 to 4 children in the pool. When new children joined mums would always chat about the childs needs and diagnosis and compare information, obviously can be hugely useful. Well everyone would wait for the question that would eventually come, "What exactly is granny'sgirls diagnosis." Everyone would chorus, "That's what we all want to know." and disolve into hysterics. Sounds daft now but became a real tradition.

The nicest group of parents I ever came across, no bitching, no back biting. Why can't everyone be like that?

murderedbystress · 15/08/2015 21:15

wantogetlost

I am really sorry you have come across some very nasty posters on MN. Pot calling the kettle black when some accuse you of being 'judgemental'.

Some good advice (babycentre milestones) but in all honesty, i wouldn't worry about sitting up and crawling at 8 months. My DS was 11 months when he crawled and 8 months when he began to sit up unaided. he is aged 3 and very active!

Yarp · 15/08/2015 21:17

Your nephew's development is within the normal range

Hamishandthefoxes · 15/08/2015 21:23

It's perfectly normal, you could suggest the parents did some research instead of assuming their child was underdeveloped. Or even re....d (given that you appear to think that word is acceptable ever.)

VixxFace · 15/08/2015 21:25

How old are you and you can't spell crawl?

Findtheoldme · 15/08/2015 21:36

Granny, they laughed but you say they were nice?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 15/08/2015 21:47

I do love watching people berate spelling on a thread they don't like, or by a poster they don't like. Especially since everywhere else on Mumsnet that behaviour is seen as cunty. I don't agree with what the OP has said on another thread (?) but seriously, she is asking for advice on a child and some people are more concerned about slagging her spelling. Pathetic.

Findtheoldme

I think they sound like nice women. Did we read Granny's post differently?

murderedbystress · 15/08/2015 22:19

haven't seen the thread everyone is talking about that got deleted, that OP was rude, sweary and a bit prejudice against disabled people (apparentl

PiperChapstick · 15/08/2015 23:10

Labelling an 8 month old as underdeveloped? Fuck me this site is sinking to new lows. Be a good sister and say "don't be daft babies progress at their own pace". This statement is also the truth

GiddyOnZackHunt · 15/08/2015 23:23

Crawling isn't a milestone IIRC. My DD didn't crawl. There were many pitying comments from fellow new mums. She's fine. She talked very well at an early age and is very clever but she's not going to the Olympics in track & field.

Samcro · 15/08/2015 23:45

"underdeveloped" WTF
op is on a wind up obviously

Itsthevibe · 16/08/2015 02:04

Op, not siting or crawling at that age falls within normal ranges.

If it's their first child, they may be worrying that their child isn't meeting milestones right on time, but really milestones are just a guide. Worrying is perfectly normal. We all did it with our first. My girl didn't sit until 11 months, and didn't crawl until she was 1. She's perfectly normal. But I did worry an awful lot about her.

constance14 · 16/08/2015 02:14

I feel as though atypically developing with be a better and non-pejorative term. With regards to seeking advice it would be better for the parents to discuss this with a health visitor keeping in mind that children reach milestones at different times and there isn't really a one size fits all approach.

ThereIsIron · 16/08/2015 02:17

He's fine. End of thread.

captainproton · 16/08/2015 02:29

If parents think a baby is not developing properly I wouldn't just say it's fine. I was told it was fine regarding Dd's lack of ability at this age. She also had a head tilt she was supposed to grow out of. Finally at 15 months a paediatrician diagnosed her with torticollis and that eventually needed surgical correction and constant physio up until age 3.

Ds went along to her physio sessions when he was 5 weeks old, the physio spotted some neck tightness, I just asked her to check to put my mind at ease. Never thought he had it too. Immediately she signed him up as well. He had to do exercises and was expected to roll on his tummy and lift his head and upper body up at about 6 months I think he got there at 7 months. He then had to roll back as well. Crawling and walking were not seen as important to the physio. Some babies don't crawl. Some babies walk way past age 1 and are fine.

If any doubts then push the HV and GP. Don't just think it will always be fine. Best to be safe than sorry!

SilverBirchWithout · 16/08/2015 02:45

DS was quite a large baby and a bit of a bloater before he became mobile. He could sit (like a little buddha) but hated lying on his front so was a bit late to crawling at over 10 months. He crawled for just over a week, then pulled himself to standing and furniture cruised and never crawled again.

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