AIBU to cancel MIL visit tomorrow because I have a bug?
Willowtree14 · 15/08/2015 12:17
I'm 16 weeks pregnant, have had morning sickness for past 10 weeks and generally feeling pretty crap at the moment anyway. We had arranged for MIL to visit tomorrow for the day to see us and dd.
Anyway, I started feeling ill last night and I've woken up with a bug - been sick all morning (I'm sure it's different to ms), shaky and hot and have very sore throat. I've been lying in bed all morning while dp looks after dd. I've just mentioned to him that we could see how I feel this evening regarding tomorrow, and maybe rearrange.
His reaction was they could go out without me, and when they come back here they could sit in the garden. AIBU to felt upset by this? I just want looking after and some company (from him) and don't like the thought of having a house full of guests while I look like shit in my pjs and throw up every half an hour!
TenForward82 · 15/08/2015 12:31
I had something similar recently, food poisioning while 12 weeks pregnant with the in laws over. I wasn't thrilled but I just stayed upstairs in bed, only emerging to go the bathroom (which is downstairs, extra awk).
Is the MIL coming from far away? If so I'd say suck it up (although you have my total sympathy!), otherwise if you're still feeling awful I'm sure they'd understand. Stomach bugs when you're pregnant are x10 worse.
springalong · 15/08/2015 12:51
It would be terrible if your MIL were to catch a bug. My parents did off us when DS was tiny. They were ill for a lot longer than we were. We are all super cautious now. My parents are both in their 80's.
Ask MIL what she would like to do (giving her as much full graphic info as you think she needs to cancel) and if she wants to cancel rearrange the visit fairly quickly.
Icimoi · 15/08/2015 12:59
When I'm ill I must say I don't really want company, bar maybe someone to bring me the odd cup of tea or meal if I'm up to it. If your throat is bad surely it will hurt to talk, and equally it would be better if your dp and dc are away from you to reduce the risk of them catching the bug.
Having your MIL to visit isn't having a "house full of guests", especially when they'll be out most of the day, and realistically she probably won't even see you in your PJs.
Willowtree14 · 15/08/2015 13:08
Thanks for all your replies. Just to answer a couple of points raised: it will be MIL plus two other family members. They will be travelling for an hour and a half, and visit us once a month normally. It's not like they will just pop by for half an hour - they normally arrive mid morning and stay until tea time. My dd has a 3 hour sleep just after lunch so the usual plan is do something in the morning for a couple of hours, lunch out somewhere and then back home while dd goes to bed. This is when they will be sitting in my lounge and I'm supposed to quietly throw up upstairs.
Your replies have given me lots to think about, thanks. And thanks for the sympathy Ten :)
Hellochicken · 15/08/2015 13:09
I think you should let MIL know about the bug, it sounds viral and your DH and DC may already be 'incubating it'. If she says she is happy to take the risk then fine. I think you saying they can't meet because you are ill is unreasonable, a bit selfish. Hope you feel better soon.
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.