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To wear black to a catholic wedding?

61 replies

CeCeBloomer · 14/08/2015 21:43

In my culture it is fine to wear black to weddings but have a catholic wedding to go to tomorrow and it has just occurred to me it might be frowned upon - have no idea AIBU??

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Floggingmolly · 14/08/2015 21:45

I wouldn't see any issue at all?

cees · 14/08/2015 21:45

No it's fine, no one will bate an eyelid.

CeCeBloomer · 14/08/2015 21:45

Oh thank goodness - was panicking about alternatives

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morelikeguidelines · 14/08/2015 21:47

I don't think it's a problem (certainly no more than a C of e or secular UK wedding).

ApocalypseThen · 14/08/2015 21:47

What made you think it'd be a problem?

WorraLiberty · 14/08/2015 21:48

No problem at all

Just don't start crying and mourning throughout the mass Grin

CeCeBloomer · 14/08/2015 21:49

I thought maybe the association with funerals - wanted to avoid any faux pas

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LynetteScavo · 14/08/2015 21:56

Just don't wear a veil.

Will you have any colour? Black is great once you get to the evening do...but I think you need a bit of colour during the day.

Personally I don't wear black before 6pm, and would have my shoulders covered (I sound like an only spinster!) for a Catholic wedding but I can guarantee you won't be thrown out.

MrsTrelis · 14/08/2015 21:57

Eeerrrrm I was brought up Catholic and would never wear black to a wedding, it shows disapproval. But I don't know if it's related to Catholicism specifically or not, could just be very old fashioned superstition!!

CeCeBloomer · 14/08/2015 21:58

Have a brightly coloured coat to wear over so should do the trick

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Floggingmolly · 14/08/2015 22:00

It really will be fine, op. Don't worry and enjoy the wedding Smile

LynetteScavo · 14/08/2015 22:01

My DM wore a pink dress to my uncles wedding, with a black (fake) flower broach thing. My DF was horrified, saying there should be no black at weddings.

I think times have changed. No one will care. I think as long as you have colour in the day time outfit, you will look fab during the evening.

wowfudge · 14/08/2015 22:01

Well I've never heard that it shows disapproval! I have always thought it had funereal overtones for older people. It'll be fine. I wore a black hat and jacket to my sister's wedding with a dress that had black detail and it was really smart.

EnlightenedOwl · 14/08/2015 22:01

Sorry another Catholic here and no to black for wedding. Funeral yes but not wedding x

starlight2007 · 14/08/2015 22:02

No I would never wear black to a wedding..With different coloured acessories maybe

squoosh · 14/08/2015 22:03

I've been to a million Catholic weddings and there are always a few black dresses to be seen, usually worn by some of the younger female guests. It's absolutely fine.

midnightvelvetPart2 · 14/08/2015 22:03

Not to too much black or white as a wedding guest, if you wear a bright colour to dilute it it will be OK Smile

mayaknew · 14/08/2015 22:05

I'm Catholic and I've been to a gazillion catholic weddings . I've worn black at least once that I can think of and I've seen black I think pretty much at every one .

It's 2015 . It's fine SmileSmile

Hope you have a lovely day ! Grin

friendofsadgirl · 14/08/2015 22:05

DMIL wore black (complete with a black hat) to our wedding so the idea that it indicates disapproval may well be correct.
Can you add a bright scarf or something if it's too late for a full outfit change?

CeCeBloomer · 14/08/2015 22:06

Think I am feeling more confused now but going with the majority ...

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PenelopePitstops · 14/08/2015 22:06

No don't do it. Unless you have vibrant accessories. It looks like a disapproval.

wigglesrock · 14/08/2015 22:07

I wore a black dress to a wedding in June, no one threw me out and as far as I can gather I wasn't talked about too much. You have a coat to go over it? so you're really just wearing a black dress to a wedding reception - no harm will befall anyone.

Trills · 14/08/2015 22:08

All back is a bad idea if you think that any of the wedding party might be superstitious.

museumum · 14/08/2015 22:09

I'm Catholic atheist and would wear a black dress but only with colourful cardi or jacket.

DoItTooJulia · 14/08/2015 22:11

Ha! One of my wedding guests threatened to wear black at my wedding (some wierd disapproval and a whole 'nother thread) - I was wearing black, so it backfired! (Not Catholic btw) Grin

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