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To wear black to a catholic wedding?

61 replies

CeCeBloomer · 14/08/2015 21:43

In my culture it is fine to wear black to weddings but have a catholic wedding to go to tomorrow and it has just occurred to me it might be frowned upon - have no idea AIBU??

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CeCeBloomer · 14/08/2015 22:11

Yep coat is bright orange so will definitely not look disapproving and will keep on during the day regardless of how warm it may get Smile

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squoosh · 14/08/2015 22:12

Bridesmaids in black is a very common sight these days. That says it all.

MyHeartsPumpingWine · 14/08/2015 22:14

My mum wore a black and white dress with all black accessories to my dsis Catholic wedding abd she's Catholic herself, although not practising.

Youll be fine, especially if you have coloured accessories ect

WorraLiberty · 14/08/2015 22:15

Seriously this is 2015

No-one accepts a wedding invite and goes to all the trouble of turning up, with a gift in hand - only to subtly indicate their disapproval with a black dress.

LynetteScavo · 14/08/2015 22:20

I know a very Catholic person who told me she wanted her bridesmaids to wear black, but was advised against it. She was also advised against having a full mass during the service though, and now regrets it.

If you asked the priest, they would tell you God doesn't care what you wear, but it's always good not to upset grandmothers.

Loads of people word black dresses with white jackets to my wedding. It was a bit comical. But it wasn't Catholic, and maybe they did disapprove.

friendofsadgirl · 14/08/2015 22:20

Worra, given some of the threads I've read on MN, that honestly wouldn't surprise me.Shock

MaidOfStars · 14/08/2015 22:22

I wouldn't wear black to any wedding, Catholic or otherwise.

Not sure it's rational, mind.

bamboostalks · 14/08/2015 22:26

Black and white yes. Pure black definitely not. It has funereal connotations.

WonkyPonky · 14/08/2015 22:29

Black is fine so long as you have a coloured coat or accessories. Same as all white I guess

Bambambini · 14/08/2015 22:29

I know a full catholic wedding where the bride had black meringue dress, long veil, gloves and boots - all black. In this day and age black is fine (the bride did attract quite a crowd though and this was 20 yrs ago). People have funny ideas about catholics.

soverylucky · 14/08/2015 22:46

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Annunziata · 14/08/2015 22:50

Ay, you can't wear orange Grin

I wore champagne and black to my PFB's wedding.

LynetteScavo · 14/08/2015 22:54

Go with what the bride expects and wants.

I've seen plenty of boob tubes and micro minis at the local catholic church, although I accept they may be worn by guests and not actually the regulars. It's all a matter of taste and actually has nothing to do with religion.

Jelliebabe1 · 14/08/2015 23:16

I wouldn't its very bad form! As would be wearing white!

switswoo81 · 14/08/2015 23:20

Have been to a huge amount of Catholic wedding (and had one myself) and black is quite popular especially for bridesmaids. Don't think you need something bright just channel Audrey Hepburn!

horsewalksintoabar · 14/08/2015 23:22

Listen to the Catholics... :-) I am one. It's a NO. Everyone will bat an eye. I wouldn't care but I'd be aware... the older generation will be taken aback. It's too much of a statement at a Catholic wedding unless you wear like a bright or floral jacket and jewellery with it and I mean, turquoise, lemon yellow, or coral. Can you brighten it up a bit or do you have an ivory bolero or jacket? Black and white or ivory will do.

Annunziata · 14/08/2015 23:25

Nonsense, horse. My mother is nearly 90 and wears black to weddings.

Naoko · 14/08/2015 23:27

I wouldn't wear black to a wedding. That's my cultural background rather than my religion talking though, I'm an atheist. Cultural background is a catholic area so maybe there's something in it? No one where I grew up would even dream of wearing black to a wedding.

squoosh · 14/08/2015 23:36

Listen to the Catholics... :-) I am one. It's a NO.

Er, I said Yes.

Floggingmolly · 14/08/2015 23:37

So did I.

mrsdavidbowie · 14/08/2015 23:40

Who gives a stuff???

mayaknew · 14/08/2015 23:41

Horse ... I'm a Catholic and I said it was fine .

Honestly op I really don't get the posters saying it's bad form . Imo bad form would be turning up in a white dress and veil . Confused

Sheezus · 14/08/2015 23:42

Nonsense,
I'm a catholic in rural Ireland and loads wear black.
FFS, even the priest is in black Wink

FarelyKnuts · 14/08/2015 23:45

Having been to a gazillion irish catholic weddings... wear the black. No one cares. Especially with the lovely orange coat

FarelyKnuts · 14/08/2015 23:46

Snap sheezus Grin
See now. Irish catholics say go for it! Wink