To think teenage all night garden parties on a week night are selfish.

[VivaLeBeaver]

I know, I know , they're probably celebrating a levels. But last year's AS party was at a weekend, the year before that a level party (older sibling) was at a weekend, the gcse parties were at weekends.

This is next door neighbours btw.

The big tent is pitched, the beer is flowing, the music is thudding through my house from the stereo in the garden, the kids are pissed and running around screaming. We've had to close the windows and it's still noisy.

If it's the same as previous years it will go quiet about 5am.

We sleep at the back of our house so it's about 6ft from our bedroom window. Their parents sleep at the front so probably aren't as disturbed. Hell would freeze over before Id let dd act like this even at a weekend.

Yanbu
It is anti social to behave like whatever the reason.

Did your neighbours not even come round and warn you OP ? That is very rude in my opinion . A while ago a local teen in our village celebrated his 18th and he spent the weekend before delivering little notes to every house explaining that he was having a party and that there would be loud music and fireworks . I saw the note and thought , well that's fair enough , plenty of notice if your animals are scared of fireworks and nice thing for him to do . A year later another neighbour had a party for their daughters birthday , no-one knew anything about it until the noise started , IT WAS LOUD , so loud that even 500m away with all the windows and doors shut you could still hear the random shite music , when I say random , I mean 30 secs of one song followed by screaming and then the track changed followed by even more screaming . The music stopped at midnight , the screaming didn't .

When are you next going away OP , perhaps leaving your radio on as loud as it will go whilst your gone wouldn't go amiss , I presume you only go away a couple of times a year so no problem

Viva , hate to be the one to break this to you , but sheep are notoriously noisy bastards

Nope, no warning.

I don't mind sheep. I'm quite happy when camping in a sheep field.....they do keep going all night but it's kind of nice!

YANBU
I hate other people's inconsiderate noise at night; it's just selfish and anti-social and the fact it only happens once or twice a year does nothing to diminish the irritation it causes.
I'm also quite disappointed that so many replies on here suggest lots of people find it perfectly acceptable to have a 'stuff everyone else' mentality.

i'm shocked that you're boasting about sending a revenge anonymous note designed to break up someone's relationship based on an overheard conversation, Skeppers. What a dreadful thing to do. Had you already tried the more normal redresses such as the police and environmental health and going over to ask them to be quieter?

Oh, how sanctimonious. They were all shagging each other anyway. If their relationship had been ruined (which it wasn't, they were still together when they moved out, more fool her) it would have been her juvenile, dickhead boyfriend who was to blame for not being able to keep his over-zealous cock in his pants, not me.

It's a non issue anyway. They moved out last year and we now have very pleasant neighbours on both sides.

Is it sanctimony? I wanted to tell you honestly and directly that I think sending anonymous letters is almost always cowardly, weak and cruel.

Ironically I am doing this behind an anonymous nickname on an internet site so perhaps not the best forum for the debate, admittedly.

I do love the irony!

But, as I said, I won't be held responsible for her boyfriend being a man slag. I felt it was in her best interests to know (I'D want to know!), as well as proving a handy vehicle for illustrating that we could hear EVERYTHING that went on in their garden at 4am...

But I'm happy to agree to disagree.

hmm. If you had told them directly face to face or signed your letter I would be inclined to agree that there was an argument for making your overhearings known to the woman (though I tend to feel in these situations that it's not my business unless people I love are involved and then it is a real nightmare dilemma). You are absolutely right that the boyfriend is ultimately responsible for creating the situation by his cheating, of course.

But I think the real issue is that you wanted (very reasonably) to say "Stf up you noisy inconsiderate gits. Stop having noisy parties till 5am every two seconds. Remember that you have neighbours. Show some respect!" but instead got deflected into punishing them indirectly. I am working on being more direct and having courage of convictions at the moment so probably over-thinking but I wonder if it would have been more productive to make your real feelings known? But maybe you'd tried this already and they do sound like very unreasonable people. I'm glad that you have nicer neighbours now.