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Original poster

To think teenage all night garden parties on a week night are selfish.

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VivaLeBeaver · 13/08/2015 22:17

I know, I know , they're probably celebrating a levels. But last year's AS party was at a weekend, the year before that a level party (older sibling) was at a weekend, the gcse parties were at weekends.

This is next door neighbours btw.

The big tent is pitched, the beer is flowing, the music is thudding through my house from the stereo in the garden, the kids are pissed and running around screaming. We've had to close the windows and it's still noisy.

If it's the same as previous years it will go quiet about 5am.

We sleep at the back of our house so it's about 6ft from our bedroom window. Their parents sleep at the front so probably aren't as disturbed. Hell would freeze over before Id let dd act like this even at a weekend.

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MassaAttack · 13/08/2015 22:59

They're selfish, yes. But then it's also selfish to begrudge a bunch of teens a party once a year

I wish I had the space and the balls to have a mahoosive party when mine reaches that age Envy

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VivaLeBeaver · 13/08/2015 22:59

I'm going to go and sleep on the sofa.

I wouldn't say anything to them but I am pissed off and I do think it's inconsiderate.

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TheReason · 13/08/2015 23:04

I think they can party as much as they like - but in a suitable venue -

It's unfair to have noisy party in a housing estate - it's selfish and inconsiderate. It doesn't matter if it's once a year.

TheHormonalHooker · 13/08/2015 23:07

It doesn't matter, imo, that it's results day, the kids have been under pressure and have needed high grades. The world hasn't stopped! It's a Thursday night, people have work in the morning.

I'd be pissed off, too Viva. It is inconsiderate!

SwedishEdith · 13/08/2015 23:07

I'm with the YABU crowd as well. Big, memorable day, A level results day. Let them get drunk - in a few weeks they'll be all moving away/on. Big, exciting day.

Siennasun · 13/08/2015 23:12

This thread has brought back lovely memories of all night parties on exam result days....I wouldn't begrudge them. It's a special occasion, not a regular occurrence.

maninawomansworld · 13/08/2015 23:18

YANBU, tomorrow is Friday night - have the party then when (most) people don't have to get up for work the next day.
Selfish!

Skeppers · 13/08/2015 23:20

These days people seem to celebrate taking a dump.

I remember when I did my A Levels, 4 of them, and got very decent results...the satisfaction of a job well done and a well earned University place was reward in itself. These days, kids are given cash bribes, bought cars and have all night parties! Why couldn't they have waited until Friday night/the weekend?

Mumble...mumble...don't know they're born...I'm only 36 you know...grumble...mumble...

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Siennasun · 13/08/2015 23:53

I'm nearly 36 and I went to all night parties to celebrate GCSEs and A-Levels. I'm sure kids have always done this on results day.

SniffsAndSneezes · 14/08/2015 00:07

I'm a little bit on both sides here. On the one hand, it's A levels results day, they've worked hard, they should be allowed to celebrate (or commiserate!) but then I am currently lying in bed listening to the conversation being had by people who live at the other end of our block of flats and only seem to have one very loud volume on their voice, so I know how annoying it is for you. Fortunately thanks to my upstairs neighbours screaming kid and my DP's Richter scale bothering snores I've had to get some fancy pants earplugs so I'll won't hear a thing when it's time to go to sleep!
Let them have their fun OP. In 10 or 15 years time they'll be the ones lying in bed cursing the noisy teenagers.

OytheBumbler · 14/08/2015 00:22

Yanbu. 5am is ridiculous on a weeknight. Why should their right to party outweigh your right to sleep?

travertine · 14/08/2015 00:31

Our neighbours boys had one a couple of weeks ago. Listening to one lads chat up lines compensated for the late night. If it's a one off let it go. My other side are being noisy now but we never normally hear a peep. Give and take. Maybe you can return the favour soon.

pigsDOfly · 14/08/2015 01:30

Aah, it may be a one off now, but these same A level students might very well be the same students who, once they get to university, think it completely reasonable to come in from a club 4 or 5 night a week at 4/4.30 in the morning and start playing thumping drum and bass so loudly that their windows actually rattle.

Clearly their parents hadn't taught them consideration for others either.

Thankfully, I have now moved and no longer live in the house next door to 3 such students.

You have my sympathy Viva.

nooka · 14/08/2015 01:47

A loud all night party in your garden on a weekday is very inconsiderate. It could perfectly well have been planned for tomorrow when there would be at least some chance for neighbours to lie in to compensate for losing a nights sleep. In truth though it's just inconsiderate full stop. The OP would be perfectly within her rights to call the police to get the music turned down long before 5am. The kids can party without being incredible noisy surely?

MyLovelyFriend2015 · 14/08/2015 02:09

Ffs of course YANBU

They're being inconsiderate and just make sure you can be be loud at about 830 when they should be nicely asleep

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VivaLeBeaver · 14/08/2015 08:15

I think it stopped about 3am. Ive had 4 hours sleep and feel like total shit.

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KinkyAfro · 14/08/2015 08:22

It is bloody inconsiderate on any day, I'd be pissed off if it was happening at weekend too. As a PP said, it's not on having loud parties on a housing estate regardless of the day.

A neighbour of mine had a massive party on a Sunday evening, was still going on at 5.30 Monday morning and DP had to be up to commute to work at 2.30 - he got 0 sleep that night

Hellionandfriends · 14/08/2015 08:31

Time for you to have a party now! Put your music on and dance about to raise your spirits. Maybe Hoover next to their bedrooms and put a wash on

The NDN could have at least warned you and turned the noise right down at 12

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VivaLeBeaver · 14/08/2015 08:42

I don't want to fall out with them. If I put music on they'd know why as I never play loud music.

I put my dog out at 5:00 and left her in the garden. Even she's too considerate to make a noise and when she wanted to come back in 45 mins later just scratched at the door rather than barked!

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LittleChinaPig · 14/08/2015 09:10

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VivaLeBeaver · 14/08/2015 09:13

I really do dream of a detached place in the country surrounded by sheep.

Hell truely is other people at times.

Like you chinapig my parents taught me to be considerate of others. "You're not the only pebble on the beach" was something my mum was always saying.

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maninawomansworld · 14/08/2015 09:47

Yes I live on a nice remote farm too. Nearest neighbour is about 3/4 of a mile as the crow flies and I own their house so I can get rid of them if they cause me any grief anyway!

It's my family home, I was born in what is now my bedroom (parents at the time obv). I grew up here but before DW and I moved here we lived for a few years in 'normal' houses in the village and even (shudder) in a nearby town for a year.

We didn't have bad neighbours by any stretch of the imagination but it just annoyed the shit out of me being able to hear other people full stop - even if they were just getting in their car in the morning to go to work or walking the kids to school past the house.
An living on an actual road with maybe 30 - 40 cars an hour.... drove me mad.

I will never ever, ever live anywhere with neighbours again (which is a good job because I'm here now until they carry me out - my DC's can wait until I die for the farmhouse).

Hissy · 14/08/2015 10:49

OP, why on earth would you not have said anything? Seriously?

If they have younger kids, expect a rerun.

If my ds were doing this, I'd be the first out there telling them to stfu.

It's the stupidity, irresponsibility and lack of consideration of the parents here, plus the entitlement of the kids. If I were you I would say something about the fact that you would have appreciated a warning at least so you had a choice in doing something to prevent a sleepless night.

Skeppers · 14/08/2015 11:19

I would love to live out in the middle of nowhere, especially as we're stuck in a claustrophobic terrace...it's not so bad now but we used to have neighbours in their early 20s who would frequently (and I'm talking once or twice a week) have parties until 4-5am in their garden in the summer, so we get mega paranoid whenever the new neighbours show any hint that they might be 'entertaining'.

We did get our own back on the old neighbours in quite a delightful way though. Because the gardens are on a slope and only small, their terrace was basically dead in line with our bedroom window. We had the windows open (it was the height of summer) and we could hear every. Single. Word. Including when 2 girls snuck out for a cigarette and we're muttering conspiratorially about how one of them had shagged the hostess's boyfriend when they were all on a group holiday in Menorca and she didn't know...let's just say that she found out the next day via an 'anonymous' note someone had kindly slipped through their letterbox. Grin

I know it was devious but sleep deprivation can do some nasty things to your brain...plus, overhearing the conversations some of them used to have...they were all a bunch of 'made in Chelsea'-esque twats who were all shagging each other anyway.

Still, I found it very satisfying,