To dislike children calling their parents by their names?

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I think it sounds disrespectful.

LimitedPeriodOnly

You are on fire today. I have been trying to sulk with you after disagreeing on another thread (because I thst mature) but I find I cannot.

You are a treat.

yWhen I was a teenager my parents became the temporary guardians of two young family members. They started calling my parents mum and dad because they copied me and my siblings. This caused problems so we began calling our parents by their names so that they would copy us. It kind of stuck and whilst in general I refer to my parents as mum and dad, ocassionally I say their real names as it became habit.

Why are you bothered if it isn't your children who are doing this?

I've always called my parents by their first names. It wasn't disrespectful.

If you don't like it, don't raise your kids to do it.

MadamArcatiAgain

I'm partly deaf, and even with hearing aids can't always differentiate between voices, so the odd occasion that the DCs have used my name, it has actually been helpful (unusual name, you see).

I call my parents mum and dad. My DC calls me and DP by our first names. I don't really mind either way and don't find one or the other more respectful or cool.

My brother did and still does call my dad by his first name-it doesn't bother anyone but my mum. My dc also call my dad by his first name, again no-one bothered except my mum. Some people have commented but the DC's get confused if anyone outside the family call him grandad-thats dh's dad! I don't really see how it can be disrespectful if I'm being honest, I mean its his name!

My friend years ago wanted her DS to call her Sarah instead of Mummy,which he did. But when he was two she started working as a child-minder, and he started calling her Auntie Sarah,like the other children! She was really unhappy with that,and eventually got him to call her Mummy instead......

Can't imagine calling my mum anything other than her proper name. She says she always wanted me to understand she was a person in her own right , as well as my mum. Probably having a step parent from an early age also influenced this. Grandma and grandpa were definitely that- I knew their names but would never have dared use them!

DS1 has never called me anything but Mummy or Mum. DS2 came out of the womb with an attitude and decided to call me by my actual name from day one and rarely calls me Mummy unless he's tired or ill.

I pick my battles and that's one I can't be bothered to pick. He'll work it out eventually. Or not. Either way I don't mind. Him refusing to call me Mummy doesn't lessen his bond with me at all.

DS1 has always called DH by his name as he's his stepdad so naturally DS2 followed on with that as he hadn't ever heard anyone being addressed as Daddy. They both call me mum. I know several families where the dad is known by his first name - don't know why, they're not all stepdads. XH, DH and BiL all called their fathers by their names.

I have called both my parents by their first names since I was four, I love and respect them both enormously.

same as pingpongdingdong, i started calling them by their names when i was around 17 as a joke, and it stuck..they dont mind

It's so funny reading posts where people think the parents have a CHOICE what their children call them!!! My 14 year old does this (I think he thinks it's cool), but it's not as though I can stop him (well I suppose I COULD by being an arse over it, but honestly, life's too short; he's just figuring it all out for goodness sake!)

knitknack

Sounds like the kids rule the roost in your house.

chaplin fgs it is a NAME - how are knitknack's kids 'ruling the roost'?!

thecatfromjapan Thank you

I do remember that I disagreed with you but I can't remember what it was over now. I've agreed with you more often, but I can't remember that either.

They must have been very important issues. That's the kind of post I specialise in

Ds called dh and me by our first names for a couple of years, just started one day , I quite liked it. Then one day he suddenly went back to mum and dad. My cousin has always called her parents by their first names.

I think maybe there is a difference between when it's just what the kids do because they want to, and when the parents decide on it as some kind of policy, in a hippy way or a "we're all equals in this house" kind of way. It's the latter where I've found it makes me a bit uncomfortable.

My DD (ok only 3.2 so plenty of time to rebel yet) is also taught to call her little friends parents things like Sophia's mummy, Jack's mummy etc. (not real names)

See, I find that much weirder than calling a parent by their first name - do the parents themselves get no say? I would much prefer my son's friends to know my name rather than just seeing me as my son's mum. Apart from anything, those with more than one child end up having several different names, which is surely confusing? However, if you are all happy with arrangement, then knock yourselves out!