To dislike children calling their parents by their names?

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I think it sounds disrespectful.

I introduce myself to the DCs friends by my first name, as my surname is so long. I'd hate to be referred to as Ms Surname.

If the DCs decide they want to use my first name, then I'm comfy with that. No dysfunction or issues here, or any trying to be cool.

They call us Mummy and Daddy but as a toddler DD thought that the correct way to get the attention of anyone upstairs was by standing at the foot of the stairs and bellowing (DH's name). guess what I do

Now she mainly calls me "[Best friend's name], [Teacher's name], [Granny], [Brother], er Mummy". I'd take my real name if it meant I was higher up the list (though I'm still above DH I'm pleased to see).

I think it's slightly bonkers and the only people I've known to do this have been extreme hippies. Different strokes and all that. I answer to "Mommy".

I find the hippie comment amusing, as the first person I knew who had her DC call her by her first name was my Aunt. A very 1950s housewife person - whose children called her by her name in the 1950s.
Admittedly we werent really even supposed to "know" my Grandma's first name... that was odd.

Ds shouted my first name at soft play the other day to get my attention. I don't mind what he calls me, either mum/mummy/my name are all fine

My friends do this, and they're not hippies. They think it encourages their kids to interact with them differently.

The kids are the brightest and most articulate I've ever met and are certainly not disrespectful in any way. I suspect that this has to do with a whole world of things that they do as parents, though, and certainly not just the naming issue.

Really, it's up to the family, right?

DS (2) swings between Mummy, Mama and my own name. I love hearing all of them. How is it disrespectful? He's not shouting 'Oi, sack of shit, where's my tea?

Yep same in the glittery house hold.

My three-year-old calls me by my first name, or his own slightly mangled version of it. As far as I can gather, he has formed the idea that because he hears DH and my friends calling me Fish, it's more 'grown up' than saying 'Mama', which is what he used to say - am not originally from the UK, and 'Mummy' sounds deeply weird to me in a slightly 'Famous Five, goodness gracious, pass the ginger beer' way.

In fairness, I'm not sure the average three year old has a concept of 'respect' for parents. Mine probably respects the Fat Controller more than he does me...

My nephew sort of does this, but only because as an observant child he heard others calling his parents by their names and followed suit. I did try to tell him to call his mum, 'mummy' but he didn't get it. He then had a mother's aide (not really an au pair or nanny) who used to refer to his mother as Mummy Angela so he picked that up and has continued ever since. I'm okay with that, though it is unheard of in our culture.

All my three children call me mummy, 15,11 + 4. The 15yo old calls me by my first name in front of her friends. It doesn't bother me in the slightest. I still call my parents Mummy and Daddy which I think is probably considered pretty pathetic on here

My dh and dsil have called their dad by his first name since they were small.

I can't help feeling, however, that it inadvertently helped to support a climate where their dad didn't really parent or relate to his children as a father.

DD uses my name and Mummy. DH is Daddy, unless she's talking about him to her friends. I suppose I didn't mind, because I knew my mother always called her father by his first name.

Do you?

Who gives a shit?

2/10 for your first post OP.

my best friend's boy calls her by her SURNAME - is that 'disrespectful'?

It has nothing whatsoever to do with respect. Totally agree with the poster who talked about children calling their teachers by their first names too. I'd love it if my class were allowed to do this. My school has a very strong ethos of mutual respect between the adults and the children so I think it would be lovely.

I started calling my parents by their first names when I was about 7. My reasoning was that they don't call me "daughter", so why should I call them mum and dad?

It may be coincidence, but I was brought up in a household where I was treated as an adult far too young.

I started calling my dad "dad" in my early 30s. I still call my mum by her name because she's a fecking lunatic that I wish wasn't my mum

Of course it's not disrespectful, there aren't always reasons for peoples behaviour, sometimes it's just because everyone likes it. I call my parents by their first names,and have done since I was a teen. My two DC alternate between calling me my name, mum or mummy. My son tends to call me mum, but if I don't hear, call my name to get my attention. I don't mind either way, we're all happy

I get called by my first name all the time by kids. In public and at home. I am a childminder.

People have given me odd looks and even occasionally pointedly referred to me as 'mummy' when talking to the children with me, all 'my' kids are pretty good at correcting people's misconceptions now.

My son has always called us either mum/dad, mummy/daddy or by name since he could talk. Never, ever thought it was disrespectful. He is Aspergers and, he obviously listened to all of my friend's children call me by my first name so it was just something he copied.

I think people who are offended by or think it is 'weird' that some kids call their parents by their given name are overthinking it tbh.

I don't consciously parent ( didn't realise parenting was a thing tol I started lurking on mumsnet) and DDs generally call me by my name. We seem to get by just fine.

If you're at the park and hear someone calling "mummy!!" all the mums look round.
i would hope most parents could recognise their own child's voice!!I

It's not unreasonable if it's a personal inclination that you exercise within your private space. It would be quite unreasonable for you to seek to impose it on others.

I've always told mine to use my name when I'm in a group of other mums at playgroup/soft play/busy places. It's easier for all - I get to ignore all the shouts of mum/mummy, and they get my attention quicker if needed.

Where is the OP?

Oh where has she gone?

She posted such a strange opinion,

All her very own.

It was shaped and crafted, typed and posted,

Designed to cause a lot of fuss,

Strangely rude to lots of mothers,

But she is no longer here with us.

How strange.