Found it.
To be honest, i do agree with part of what is said about new users. There is sometimes a bit of a vibe of "sigh. She's new. She doesn't understand the rules". Which, in my experience can put you right off. It's like a telling off for something you had no idea about. If a newbie starts a thread that's been done to death, just ignore it, don't scold them.
The rest of it though, it's a bit batshit. I'm waiting on baited breath for it all to hit the papers 