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To be annoyed being asked for age ID

134 replies

RosePetels · 04/08/2015 12:20

For FABRIC CLEANER
the sales assistant really tried to deny me fabric cleaner because I didn't have ID. I'm 26yrs old he said I could just be saying that wtf why would I lie it's not alcohol
I am a young looking 26 but I do not look like a teenager, was I being unreasonable to kick up a fuss?
The manager gave it to me the sales assistant refused.

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yearofthegoat · 05/08/2015 15:23

IMHO this wins the prize:

I got ID'd for Vanilla Essence. Apparently it has alcohol in it. I'm nearly 50

So according to shop assistants on this thread shop workers don't care about their customers. Fair enough, but I think the UK won't be winning many international customer service prizes in the future.

shizzlesandglitz · 05/08/2015 15:53

Fabric cleaner?! Grin
Why on earth is fabric cleaner age restricted?! Confused
Do they think people are using it Father Jack style, like he does with the Toilet Duck?! Grin

Pumpkinette · 05/08/2015 17:48

Things like this do annoy me. I am 31 but do not drive so I can't prove my age (unless I should carry my passport with me to do my weekly shop in the off chance I need to buy some carpet cleaner or similar?)

I do get them asking if someone looks really young for their age but I do not. I could maybe pass as 27/28 on a good day.

littlepeas · 05/08/2015 18:05

I always carry my photo driving licence, so if I get asked it isn't really a big deal, but I imagine it is infuriating if you don't have anything with you! I am 33, so 8 years older than their threshold of 25 and 15 years older than the legal drinking age, and still get asked in and out. I think I was asked less when I was actually underage! It's ridiculous.

CassieBearRawr · 05/08/2015 19:32

"So according to shop assistants on this thread shop workers don't care about their customers."

Not as much as I care about myself, no.

BumpAndGrind · 05/08/2015 19:59

I got IDd buying sparklers for NYE, at 28, meaning they thought I looked 17

Nope, It means they thought you looked under 25.

I work in a food store. If I ask you for ID I am not saying you look under 18, but under 25, I know you are probably over 18, but if you look under 25 I ask, to cover my own back. Some 17 year old do pass for 23-24.

I think the problem with challenge 25 is some people don't understand it, so get offended when they get asked, even if they are under 25.

Other posters are correct, you having a bottle of wine is never more important to me then my job.

Just carry ID.

cocobean2805 · 06/08/2015 05:39

BumpAndGrind nope, sadly the lady serving me actually said "oh I thought you were about 17!" I was wearing a hat with a cat face on at the time and was silly excited about buying sparklers because I'd never had one before, so I could understand why she thought I was so young!

zobey · 06/08/2015 06:41

I am 26 and got asked for id for petrol. The station i have used since i passed 5 years ago and to top it off my daughter aged 3 was with me and the lady commented on how nice my wedding ring was then asked for id.

waxweasel · 06/08/2015 06:52

I got IDed yesterday. I'm 30, sleep deprived and haggard. And I was buying non-alcoholic beer. Hmm

purplemurple1 · 06/08/2015 06:57

I get id quite often buy weirdly my oh has been allowed to vouch for my age or buy things for me without either of us showing id. I'm 36 he is 46 so neither of us look close to 25 but I still find the approach very confusing.

TiaTheTulipFairy · 06/08/2015 08:37

Could be worse. Yesterday, going to an English Heritage place my brother was assumed to be eligible for a concessionary ticket in the "senior" age category. He is 48.

BumpAndGrind · 06/08/2015 09:59

:) Loving the image coco

I have aspergers, I quite often get overexcited in public over things designed for children.

Rude shop assistant though.

DiscoMoo · 06/08/2015 10:30

I got asked for ID buying two lemons once. And I was 35 at the time.

IKnowIAmButWhatAreYou · 06/08/2015 10:56

The "Think 25" campaign was created solely for shop assistants who are think as mince & incapable of making a reasoned decision.

Gruntfuttock · 06/08/2015 12:57

DiscoMoo "I got asked for ID buying two lemons once. And I was 35 at the time."

Presumably you asked why they wanted ID. What was the response? I would have spoken to the manager about something as ludicrous as that.

SaucyJack · 06/08/2015 13:06

Were you buying salt and tequila to go with them?

Knottyknitter · 06/08/2015 13:37

When I was pregnant (and 35, and knackered after a long day at work, makeupless and certainly looking like I'd earned every second of my age) I was not just IDed but had to wait for the supervisor in waitrose as the assistant was under 18 so couldn't sell me age restricted products.

Two bottles of schloer type non alcoholic wine substitute!

Gruntfuttock · 06/08/2015 15:04

Knottyknitter and everyone else ID'd for non-alcoholic drinks. Do you not kick up a fuss at the sheer stupidity of it?

gobbin · 06/08/2015 15:27

How old is he Gobbin?
Looking younger than you are is a subjective thing. If most people aren't bothering to ID him then I'd say there's something about him that's giving his age away

He's 18 but looks 15 (and looked about 14 when doing the lottery runs). He is short (had to be under 5ft 5 for the lottery) and has always looked 2 to 3 yrs younger than he is all his life (these jobs are the first time that this has been an advantage lol!). On his 18th birthday the landlady of the pub we'd booked a meal in looked at him and then his ID and said "Hmm, not sure I should be serving him, he looks about 12" - rather rude and we've not been back there since.

Most people do ID him. With the lottery though the failure rate was 10-15% which is poor. The current job shows that Challenge 25 is working.

Metacentric · 06/08/2015 15:44

Not as much as I care about myself, no.

But vanilla essence is age restricted, even if it contains alcohol. A shop selling it does not require a license (for example, Lakeland sells good quality food flavourings with alcohol bases, and does not have an off license). What are you worried about when selling such products? They aren't age restricted, so if a five year old buys them, so what?

Metacentric · 06/08/2015 15:44

But vanilla essence is age restricted,

isn't, that should be.

Gruntfuttock · 06/08/2015 15:47

I'm still waiting to find out why lemons are age-restricted, at least in the case of the place that DiscoMoo was shopping.

kali110 · 06/08/2015 19:42

Lovely, so shop assistants are thick Hmm
Some are working there part time whilst at college or uni.
It was introduced because people were getting served underage as 16yo looked older.
People are not going to risk their jobs over wine or knives etc
Doesn't make the staff bad at customer service or thick.
I don't like carrying my id with me but i do it if i want to buy anything that ill be asked for id for.
I know i look young. I know the risks staff face so i'm not going to moan at people simply doing their jobs.
I would love to know why you got asked for id for just lemons discomoon !!

Whodathink1t · 06/08/2015 20:50

It's not just about risking your job - I volunteer at events where volunteers run bars, they have to sign a waver form which states that if they get someone's age wrong, then they are liable for a stonking fine and / or imprisonment.
I help out in areas where we try to pick out people who look young for their ages, and our SIA licensed colleagues check their ID. We then give them a wrist band to say we're happy with the age they are presenting themselves as. I've been doing this for the best part of a decade, and in all honesty, it's bloody impossible to tell with some people.

I also sit on the other side of the fence, as only last winter, at the tender age of 37 was ID'd for lemsip. Prior to that, I used to get ID'd about once a year for booze. Mostly when I was in my least made up state - if you ignored my boobs, you'd think I was a 12 year old boy. These days, the boobs are pretty obvious!! Never for knives etc. I think I'd bought them all before those age restrictions came in!

I always keep my driving licence handy, but I totally understand why people might not have photo ID available - DP & I went to the registrar recently to notify our intention to marry, and the amount of ID they wanted was bonkers. Getting proof that you are a real person is bloody costly - citizen cards didn't exist when I really needed to prove my age from 18, so I've no idea how much they cost.

It does seem that these days if you don't drive, and have no intention to travel abroad, you are a bit fucked if you want to do the simple things in life, such as buy a beer, or a packet of fags. It's so sad that cashiers / bar staff / door staff are unable to use their initiative when it comes to judging age.

I don't know what the solution is, I can see things from both sides.

LionessAtHeart · 06/08/2015 22:51

It is not a legal requirement to have photo ID in the UK. I have none. What do you suggest?

www.citizencard.com