aibu to tell my daughter that she should be happy and to get over it

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My dd just got her Nat5 results in she got 2 As and 4 Bs and a D and she is in tears because the D means that she has to resit a subject she isn't even looking at the rest of her results she is just seeing the bad so aibu to say to her to get a grip ( this is not a stealth boast but a genuine question)

Perhaps sit down and have a talk about her feelings. Maybe she felt the As were in subjects she finds easy - and if the D was totally unexpected she'll be in shock.

If you ask questions like 'why do you think that' and 'how does that make you feel', she'll come herself to realising that the B represents a great result in a subject she felt she was struggling in and that the ad is the effect of only doing the subject for a year. Or my be there are other factors neither of you were aware of.

I think that you can't tell someone to be happy. But you can say 'the grades are an indicator of how you are doing and now you know in 4/5 you're doing great to excellent - but this other subject is where you will need to put in effort'.

And maybe a special treat to recognise her hard work?

Epilepsy - you can't "ask to see the paper" if you mean the DDs actual paper.- it's an official SQA exam. The OPs DD could see a spare copy of the paper that the school would have left over but she can't see her own

You can ask for a re-Mark but the mark could actually go down as well as up.
Or you can ask for a clerical check where they just make sure the marks were all entered and added up properly.

Oh - and National 5 is not the new version of the Higher. It replaces Standard Grades and Intermediate 2.

Its a natural human instinct to focus on the negative. In a feedback session, you can get 9 good points and one point for improvement and entirely focus on the negative point. Empathise with her and then talk about how to tackle that D.

salmotrutta you can with GCSE and AS/A2 papers. I've in the past asked for pupils papers, pretty sure the department had to pay a fee for them. If a child has done really well they are great to have as exemplars to show future pupils or if a pupil has really missed their target grade it's a good to be able to see where they lost marks and be able to assess if it's my teaching or if they just didn't answering a whole section of the paper.

But we are talking about a different Authority- the SQA.

bopoity - In Scotland the SQA do not release candidate papers to the school. They ask another SQA marker to re-Mark or do a clerical check.

The only way a teacher gets to see exemplar papers is if they are a marker themselves and they go through the Qualification process where they are issued anonymous scripts to mark and have to hit the targetss.

Fair enough.