I am that person that gets exploited by the odd disgusting carer - I'm disabled, and have had money, vouchers stolen five times that I'm aware of, over 4 years. Last summer it was £120 in total gone, a carer had rifled through my bedside table for my next 2 weeks food money, my emergency travel money from my handbag, oh and my childs pigy bank. And she then pretended to console me when I found it gone... Took me a while to work out it was her as I had other carers, I thought it couldn't possibly be her as she seemed so honest and upset as I cried on her.
And that's the tip of the iceberg, and just the stealing, not the huge amount of breakages, and the neglect, bullying and abuse I've suffered at the hands of carers.
I have no sympathy. You may be surprised to hear this post is mainly me getting a bit ranty, but people who are vulnerable have a basic right not to get their remaining dignity and independence stripped from them. That's what stealing does.
And I'm sure most people have sob stories to justify their exploitation of someone more vulnerable than themselves. But there is no excuse.
She can leave an abusive partner in quite a few ways that don't involve making someone else her victim.
Or maybe she decided her need was greater and what does it matter, the dozy old woman won't notice right? Cos she gets to decide what rights someone else has as she has power over that person... And she decided that she had a right to take money away from a person that can't protect themselves.
Then uses the excuse that she herself is abused so somehow that's fine to abuse someone else? Pass the abuse down the line yes?
Hummm. I normally try and see the other persons point of view but this time, no. It's not excuseable.
She has friends, as evidenced by you posting this, why didn't she ask them for help? Why didn't she ask Women's Aid for help? Why didn't she ask the police for help? Why didn't she ask social services for help? Why didn't she ask benefits office, council or housing for help???
But no, she decided to steal from one of the only persons more vulnerable than herself.
I hope she does get banned from working as a carer. Her boundaries and ethics are totally screwed up so people need protecting from her. And I hope she gets out of her relationship. The two aren't mutually exclusive.
But I can just imagine someone like her coming into my house and deciding to steal from me next time.
My childs piggy bank was emptied by someone just like her. I couldn't afford to replace the money, but hey who gives a fuck right? She probably needed the money more, oh poor her... Never mind that my 4 yr old cried when he found it had gone when I said he could spend his money on a ride at the funfair.
Now, I assume it wasn't her who was one of the carers who stole from me and my little one... But I bet they justified it somehow. Ironically (ok I'm not sure it's ironic, but I'm ranting!), I would give someone money and help to escape from an abusive relationship, but that's different from someone coming into my house and deciding they can take tjjngs just because I can't physically stop them, or in this poor ladies case, because she can't mentally stop someone taking her money.
Sorry end of rant. Cut a bit close to the bone.