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To be horrified at what my friend has done

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Letthedicefly · 30/07/2015 21:42

She is a carer for elderly people in their own homes and stole £5 from a lady with dementia.

She is in pieces as she's been caught and keeps saying she only meant to borrow it and would have put it back. She knows it was so wrong but she's in an abusive relationship and had no access to money.

Now she's going to lose her job and get a criminal record which will make her more dependent on him.

I know she's in the wrong but I'm so upset for her as well.

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DurhamDurham · 08/08/2015 09:24

It doesn't matter how desperate she was, there is always a better option than stealing money from an old lady entrusted into her care. It might have been that woman's last £5, she might well have been desperate too. But I agree that if you feel like you say you do, and you are clearly on the edge, you should ring the Samaritans or see your GP.

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DurhamDurham · 08/08/2015 09:25

And yes the friend can work again, just not in the field she currently does. She could work at any number of places that don't require a CRB/DBS check and where she isn't left alone with other peoples money.

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FundamentalistQuaker · 08/08/2015 23:28

ButterFlyWings168 has sent me an odd and offensive PM. I didn't see her message before it was deleted so I've no idea what this is about. Can anyone explain?

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FundamentalistQuaker · 08/08/2015 23:29

Sorry, I didn't see her post before it was deleted.

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MiscellaneousAssortment · 09/08/2015 03:51

I'm not sure if we're allowed if it's been deleted, but Err, she thought everyone was very nasty on this thread, apparently we're all heartless & cruel for not supporting the poor abused victim'; this picked on victim being the exploitative thief by the way. Also we allegedly apparently wanting the OP to never to work again and we all were wanting the ruin the thief's life.

All of which written in a way that made it very hard to understand. I ended up sounding out the letters phonetically to get any understanding out of it.

Oh and lastly all of us were blamed is for the OP wanting to kill her/himself and signed off by saying they're just about to take pills. Although they do say relatively clearly at the beginning that she/ he was no one connected to the story, neither friend nor poster - yet found the sticking up for the most vulnerable members of society so repugnant and mean that we are all responsible for that posters frame of mind and whatever he/she did next was all our fault too.

Upsetting post to read for many reasons and glad mumsnet deleted.

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Hellionandfriends · 09/08/2015 04:25

Why didn't she talk to her employer about needing to borrow money to get some petrol

Or link into a food bank, freeing up cash for petrol

Or sell things to get petrol?

It's hard to know if she telling the truth about the £5 being borrowed or a one off. Probably every thief would make these statements but there will be a few who are tell the truth.