to think they should not have been allowed back in?

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I went to a softplay with my 2 children , one 5 and one 2 and my friend with her child a bit older. I had to take my eldest to the toilet. When I arrived back my toddler was sat on friends knee and friends kid ran to me saying 'someone's been hurting ds2' I initially assumed it was scrapping as DS 2 is a bruiser. It was much worse than I thought it turns out in the soft rolling pins a group of lads at least 10,11 had been hitting him, pushing him,kicking him and when he got back up again tripped him up again and again, a woman saw this as he'd gotten split up from friends kid (big place) and told the boys and got him out of there my friend had just come looking for him and came across it. I was shook up at the age difference, malice involved , told staff and they found the parents etc the mum just said "sorry I'll tell them' it was an extended family group so I didn't expect then to kick them all out but I saw them back in 2 mins later. we soon left as it was not acceptable IMO. AIBU to think should have been told not to go back and dealt with some severity as it wasn't a minor incident? I was too stunned to kick up a fuss tbh now I'm angry.

They didn't look even remotely ashamed rather the opposite.

OK - I think you are being unreasonable. As I said in my earlier post, it's not clear what happened and your DC wasn't supervised. You can't remove other children on the basis of what someone else thinks might have happened plus it is the responsibility of parents to supervise their small DC and remove or properly mitigate the risk of something like this happening.

It's soft play- it's up to the parents to supervise their kids. So you were both in the wrong as you both were not supervising your kids! A 2 year old is far too young to be left in the big play area!

I drew ashamed from 'ran off looking guilty'.
I also think that the staff can't blindly take one persons account over anothers, so I'm not debating whether your ds was hurt or upset, just saying the staff can't throw people out based on what to them is hearsay.
However I disagree a third hand account is necessarily accurate about the intent behind what they were doing, or that the age of them is proven by an unconfirmed guess.

I took my 5 year old to the toilet! and my friend ran after him when he escaped from the ball pool he wasn't just roaming. It's not hearsay fgs. It's nice to know people are so quick to believe the perpetrators.

Why do people never believe stuff. Kids can be bloody nasty from surprisingly early an age and too many excuses are made fir them.

I'd request the soft play to look at cc tv and call the police. 10 is old enough for criminal responsibility.

OK fair enough maybe throwing out is extreme although I don't feel comfortable in that instance but I'm biased I suppose.

And they should defiantly be barred

Thank you Giles ! Can I hug you through the screen?

Go ahead

The image makes me want to weep he must have been so scared, one of the lads was taller than me and I'm 5'8.

The staff will not get involved in goings on at soft play unless they see it. If you have a young or more vunerable child they need close supervision.

Ok so a momentarily unsupervised small child escapes into an area for bigger kids. shouldn't have happened granted. BUT at worst you'd expect an accidental. knocking over or a hand/foot trodden on as bigger kids might not see him.

But regardless of what area he was in its not unreasonable to expect him.not to he attacked by a bunch of older kids.

Ffs. talk about victim.blamimg.

they should have known better. and if I was their parent I'd be bloody ashamed of them not annoyed that a sneaky 2 yr old found his way in.

I'm sorry OP but your child should have been properly supervised. Then this incident could have hopefully been prevented, or at least you could take it up properly with the setting as you'd have known exactly what happened.

fuji I'm not saying I disbelieve it happened or taking the perpetrators side. But that the staff can't just take one persons account over anothers and ask someone to leave, especially as from their view it's hearsay.
Heights irrelevant too for making an accurate guess on age.

If one of the lads was taller than 5.8 he was probably too tall to be on there and probably older than 10/11.

He'd be way over the height limit.

10 is above age of criminal responsibility, they couldve be charged with assault. Also they should no better than picking on a toddler. Hope ds is ok xx

Quite possibly, but not necessarily.
Some of us are just tall, and people have growth spurts at different ages.
Dd just left primary on eye level or taller, in some cases towering over all but one female member of staff and two male. And being long limbed and narrow looks even taller than she is from a distance. Not saying that's common but it does happen. And I've had a lifetime of 'ooh, your 6yr old should know better than to push my 3yr old back'.
However that's off the point, the staff can't just act on one persons account, regardless of whether it's correct. It's just a hazard of soft play and the like, because you can't predict others behavior will be as you'd wish, nor prove it to be bad if it is.

That's why softplay are the work of the devils.
You are supposed to be behind your child every single moment (otherwise clearly the child is 'unsupservised' and therefore it's all your fault...). Doesn't matter if you have 2 or 3 dcs, they are twins whatever. It's always the fault of the mum of the child who gets hurt (and usually the young ones).

It's like saying that it's your fault if your house got robbed because you didn't have all the door triple padlocked.
Young children DO wander into other areas. It's easy to loose their sight. It's easy for them to get hurt in the process. It does NOT mean that it absolve teenagers/older children from their own responsibility. Nor does it mean that it absolve the softplay from taking action either. They could easily have asked the mum who told the older children off! (First person witness there!)

Before I had even gotten to the end of the OP, my head was screaming "call the police"!! Disgusting behaviour.

As PPs have suggested, go back, speak to management and ask to see the cctv. If they are not taking you seriously, let them know that you will be getting the police involved regardless.

Hugs for your poor little man

What the fuck is the matter with people at the moment?!

Those if you picking apart the OP and victim blaming, does it make you feel all big and smart?

Back in the day a couple of posters achieved notoriety for straight talking and now every esteem challenged idiot thinks its ok to but the boot in