To hardly ever finish what's on my plate...

[Snoozebox]

It drives my friends bonkers. My family are somewhat more understanding of it.

Whenever I'm round at a friend's house or out for a meal, the servings are usually HUGE. Maybe twice or even three times what I'd serve myself. I feel satisfied very quickly and hate eating until I feel 'full' - that just makes me uncomfortable. I've never had an ED by the way and my weight has always been very stable. I just seem to be in the minority among the people I know.

I'm trying to get DH to lose weight and trying to make him understand that he doesn't need to eat past the 'I'm not hungry anymore' stage. He disagrees and says he eats lots because it tastes nice and he hates seeing food go to waste. I just think he doesn't know when to stop

So AIBU?

Yanbu. I'm exactly the same,down to how much we eat and clothes size! I, too, refuse to eat just to clear a plate -in fact I can't force myself to.

yanbu. I leave bits behind, I was never brought up to clear my plate though.

Everybody is different, you obviously eat small and often - I'm the opposite and tend to eat very little except for one fairly large meal either at lunchtime or in the evening. I'm slim, active during the day so often forget to eat, I'd rather sit down in the evening and relax with a nice meal. Your way of eating is probably healthier, but as I said everybody is different.

The meal isnt finished when im full. The meal is not finished till I hate myself

I love Louis CK, he's my favourite comedian.

Yanbu to stop when you are full.
For me that doesn't happen after even large servings, therefore I continue until I am full. Often I eat two heaped large dinner plates of food in a serving. More if it's particularly enjoyable or I'm really hungry. Nevertheless for all the massive quantities I eat when I am hungry, I'm equally likely to skip meals when I'm not, or eat half a biscuit before I've had enough.

YANBU if you always tell them how small your appetite is and they still serve you up too much.

This is why I find it hard to encourage other people's children to eat up what is on their plate - I'm a dinner lady. I tend to encourage them to try anything new, otherwise I'm probably not the best person to get tearful 5 year olds to eat up.

YANBU at all. Gosh, I WISH I could stop before full. I really struggle to recognise full, and mostly I eat for a lot of reasons other than hungry. Today I ate a 500g tub of yoghurt, 1/2 a tub of Ben and jerrys, and two mint chocolate clubs... As well as 3 square meals. I disgust myself and yet I still don't really feel full. I also hate feeling hungry-all nauseous and weak and wobbly. I almost feel panicky when I'm hungry. I am of course overweight... Although by some miracle not as morbidly obese as you might think.

I'm on a diet, my best friend eats tiny portions, my husband eats huge portions and it depends on whether my sons are going through a growth spurt.

For this reason we put the food in serving dishes on the table and allow everyone to serve themselves. Even then I'm not worried if someone's "eyes were bigger than their belly" and then end up leaving something (dogs don't care if the food has been on someone else's plate already).

YANBU. I never eat past the full feeling.

My mantra is 'Enough is as good as a feast'.

Besides, if you put too much food in your stomach on a regular basis, it eventually takes more food to fill it up.

This why so many overweight people today, blame their parents for making them clear their plate as a child.

And I think the next generation will blame their weight problems on today's parents, for encouraging constant snacking or 'grazing', and not being able to recognise what a child sized portion is.

YANBU. I have finally started eating like this after years of 3 or 4 course meals, seconds, thirds, huge puddings made for two, eating cake because a freind popped into the local cup cake specialty shop on the way over to coffee and I was too polite not too even though I wasn't remotely hungry (and wheat bloats dreadfully).

So far I have lost 2 stone!

Well done 4kids

I have a slim friend who eats HUGE portions. But only at mealtimes. No snacking at all. She'd also eat it very slowly which wouldn't suit me at all as I like my food hot and can't eat it once it's gone cold.

Your menu, OP, looks the opposite. All snack sized portions and not being used to being hungry enough to eat a 'normal' sized meal. It works for you, clearly so that's not a criticism.

Perhaps you should just remind your friend that you didn't eat long ago so just want a small amount to be sociable.

YANBU - most people, including myself, eat far, far too much. I can eat whether I am hungry or not and yes, I am very overweight. I was bought up to 'clear my plate' and find it hard to leave anything

My 85 year old father is incredibly fit (plays sport twice a week) yet eats tiny portions, he can't stand it when people give him a 'full' plate of food.

YANBU. I find most people's idea of a good portion size much too big for me. I love food and we regularly eat out and socialise around food but people put too much on my plate! I prefer serving myself but that's not an option in restaurants and at some of my friends' houses. If I'm with DH then he finishes off my plate (he's not overweight) as many waiters/hosts feel offended/think I dislike the food if I leave much.

I always tell my 7 yo DD to eat until she's satisfied and that she doesn't have to clear her plate. She's a healthy, normal size.

FWIW, I'm size 8 and rarely snack. I eat when genuinely physically hungry and avoid snacking in order to truly enjoy a proper meal.

I was brought up to clear my plate and not to waste food. However servings were always quite small, with the options of second helpings if needed (and there was any left!). I do the same with my children and guests, or have them help themselves. Lots of restaurants serve too much but most are happy to do doggy bags. I hate to see food wasted on a plate, makes me feel that the person was greedy. I also get annoyed when dh takes a huge amount and eats it all up though - I often plan for a second meal and am frequently disappointed!

If it is friends I would try and get to them before they dish up and make sure it is less. I often leave food in restaurants- their portion sizes can be ridiculously large.

Like a previous poster said I always use serving dishes in the centre of the table for guests.

But how rude to comment on what a guest eats/doesn't eat!

I couldn't possibly decide what people will eat- I always put it in dishes.