to stay in all day today

[flanjabelle]

Dd 21mo hasn't slept properly for about three months (waking at least 3 times a night), and has had a run of tonsilitis, throat infections and other viruses. She is currently getting over tonsilitis again.

She didn't sleep much at all on Friday night, not much better Saturday night and by yesterday the a cumulative effect of long term sleep deprivation had me on my knees. I started to hallucinate and nearly blacked out in Tesco.

She slept better last night, only waking three times, but I'm exhausted. I would really like to sleep all day but I don't think that is possible.

Aibu to stay in today, just try to rest and recharge my batteries as much as possible, even though it will be really boring for her? I usually make sure she gets out to the park or something at least, and I feel really guilty about staying in. I'm just so so tired.

Any easy peasy toddler activities I can do for her? not messy as I just haven't got the energy to clean up after it.

To be honest I feel like I'm failing at this mothering thing. I love her so much, but she just never sleeps properly. if I could just get proper sleep I would be able to do so much more. As it is, I feel anxious and ill most of the time because I just never get enough sleep.

Dp works long hours and doesn't live with us, he helps as much as he can but most of the parenting is down to me.

Thank you for your replies. Just checking in to say today went ok. I didn't get any sleep while she napped as she kept waking up crying and needing to be settled again (She's definitely still poorly), but have managed to take it easy this afternoon. My dm finished work early so popped in and kept dd entertained for a while which really helped. She's eating dinner now, nice long bath afterwards, easy peasy.

Thanks for the support today, I really needed it. Quick someone say something nasty before you lose your reputation as vicious vipers!

You lazy cahhh imagine sitting in all day (just to balance thread out)

That's more like it Mrs!

Oh and loli you are welcome to come and play in the fort Next time we make one. As long as you aren't a boy coz there's no boys allowed. It's a cooties issue.

I think that age is exhausting, they want to be occupied but can't amuse themselves for very long, it does get easier

Could you rather me her to some mums and toddlers groups? She could run about while you get coffee and a chat

Please don't try and be perfect I nearly sent myself bonkers trying to be the perfect mum. Ds is now 10 and has had everything I said he would never have...McDs, Xbox, etc and he has managed to turn out to be an amazing wee boy

Not too much help today probably., but for next time...

I gave a giant cardboard box from work. I cut a Window and a mini door in it. It's in the cellar right now, stashed away fir the next time I am sick and DD isn't. She will love it. I always try to keep something like that up my sleeve for desperate days.