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To ask about Pet Berevement Cards

35 replies

RachelRagged · 25/07/2015 16:06

Have a friend (A) and friend (B),,

Friend A has a lot of animals, some indoor, some caged and a few ferel cats outside to keep mice down. Sadly one of A's cats died on Thursday. She is distraught, which is expected as A is a major animal lover . I phoned her, said I was so sorry to hear and that was that.

Friend B just text me to say she was going to visit friend A later today and had bought a sympathy card for the loss of her cat and she had put my name on it as well, is that alright ? Well it was alright, sort of . I have never come across these , have any of you ? and would you send one ?

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SirChenjin · 25/07/2015 16:08

Yes, why not? The loss of a pet can be devastating. A card is a nice way to show sympathy.

NotReallyAPrincess · 25/07/2015 16:09

They do exist. Have only ever received them from the vet when they're aware of the death of a pet (eg have been treating them through the illness) Don't really see me sending one myself though.

If your friend is very upset then it's a kind thing to do. Don't over think it.

VivaLeBeaver · 25/07/2015 16:10

When my dog died my friends who I dog walk with every day got me a card and some chocolates. Card was a thinking of you type card. Was really nice of them.

GraysAnalogy · 25/07/2015 16:10

I would very much appreciate one if anything happened to my dog. He is a massive part of my life and I love him as much as a family member.

Dansak · 25/07/2015 16:11

I got a couple when my much loved cat died last year, it was very unexpected but a welcome, lovely gesture. I really appreciated them.

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RachelRagged · 25/07/2015 16:14

Ok, fair enough then. Just had not seen them nor did I receive any when I lost pets of my own. I am glad they brought comfort to those who also lost their loved pets.

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scarlets · 25/07/2015 16:15

What a lovely idea.

Amy106 · 25/07/2015 16:19

I have seen the cards in shops. I have made phone calls and sent notes to friends who have lost pets. They become much loved family members and I agree that it is a kind thing to express sympathy when they die.

Piffyonarockbun · 25/07/2015 16:22

my cat died yesterday and my dh got me a loss of pet card along with some chocolate and flowers last night. i didnt know they existed either but it was a lovely thought. it was nice to have a specific card. id be surprised (but pleased) if any of my friends got me one though. id be surprised if they knew they existed Grin

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RachelRagged · 25/07/2015 16:26

Piffy

Flowers
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MyCarHasBrokenDownAgain · 25/07/2015 16:30

My vets send a nice little card signed by the nurses, with a packet of forget-me-not seeds. Sadly had 2 in the last few years ... made me cry both times, but a lovely thought.

Totality22 · 25/07/2015 16:33

Not sure why they have to be specific 'pet' cards? Surely a sympathy card would do the trick?

windchime · 25/07/2015 16:36

Bereavement, surely.

WoonerismSpit · 25/07/2015 16:42

Sorry windchime, did you not know what OP was trying to say?

Piffyonarockbun · 25/07/2015 16:43

thanks rachel.
i like it was a pet one. i think a normal sympathy card would have felt a bit silly. a bit ott.

ilovesooty · 25/07/2015 16:49

There is specific counselling training in pet bereavement.

If you only came on to pick holes in a perfectly understandable typo windchime I think you should fuck off.

SirChenjin · 25/07/2015 16:51

Yes, that's surely what it should be windchime. And...?

DawnOfTheDoggers · 25/07/2015 16:56

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sykadelic · 25/07/2015 17:11

I gave one to a friend but it wasn't a specific pet one, I just added it to a "sorry for your loss" card. She was a woman who lived alone with her dog she'd had his entire life. She was absolutely distraught when he passed so I got her a card to let her know that we were thinking of her and understood that it was a painful thing.

Some people don't understand the loss of a pet and think it's not a big deal. If something happened to one of my dogs I'd be useless for days. I shudder to think of it :(

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RachelRagged · 25/07/2015 17:12

Oh and in comes a pedant . Why do they do this ? Mention NOTHING about the jist of thread but pick up on one spelling .!

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HarpyFishwifeTwat · 25/07/2015 17:26

When my much loved cat died I was distraught - a card from the vet was a lovely thought and I really appreciated it. I'm not sure if any card needs to be a pet specific one, but it's a lovely thought. I grieved for that wee cat more than I have done for any human and I appreciated the acknowledgment that it was a painful time.

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RachelRagged · 25/07/2015 17:31

Oh I completely understand that we grieve our loved ones (cats in my case) as we would a human. Was thinking on it and I think I would have been moved had I received one . Glad friend B put my name on as well.

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limitedperiodonly · 25/07/2015 18:29

I'm glad that you're glad RachelRagged.

My cat was pottering about in the street today while I was outside but not particularly close to him so he didn't look like he was mine.

All right, I take him for a walk round the block every day because he was an indoor cat before I adopted him and would get mown down if I wasn't with him. I lurk about like a mad cat lady/burglar's look out while he explores every single sodding basement.

I am aware I'm becoming known as a local eccentric.

A girl of about 10 tempted him over. He's very pretty and a shameless flirt and went to her for a stroke. Her mum said: 'Be careful honey, because he's very ancient.'

She was being nice. She didn't want her DD to accidentally hurt him. But it made me feel quite sad.

He is tougher than he looks btw and the vet said his heart and kidneys are strong. That little check up, plus vaccinations and tooth extraction under general anaesthetic cost me about £500. Ouch. He's worth it though.

Getthewonderwebout · 27/07/2015 21:24

I think it's a lovely idea. I'm not a pet person myself but appreciate that pets are family and when they die, the loss is huge.

dangerrabbit · 27/07/2015 21:28

I got my friend a sympathy card when her cat died as her cat was a big part of her life. However, it was not a specific per bereavement card.

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