My do and I moved into our house last year. The previous owners were a lovely couple, been here 40+ years and were good friends with next door neighbours. We were friendly and introduced ourselves, invited them to a BBC in the summer but, frankly, whilst I am happy to be a good neighbour, we are not likely to become close (v big age difference,monster other things). Over the last few months, we have been having work done. The woman from next door has taken to following the builders/ gardeners in and asking them about the work, getting them to do jobs for her etc. I was just on phone and found her walking in through my back door to talk to the painter and decorator about a job she wants him to do. Threw her a dirty look but she wasn't obviously bothered. Last week she walked through the whole of the ground floor to find the builder - doesn't knock on the bloody door or call out! Also last week, found her in my back garden inspecting patio just laid with landscape gardener. I was wandering house in my Jammies (school hols, Ffs!) and found it v intrusive. Normally very calm but think I might explode on contact. DP thinks I should deal with it calmly as she's oldish and it always happens when he is at work. AIBU to explode?