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AIBU?

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to send DS to school in a girls blazer?

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sweetkitty · 23/07/2015 22:38

DS starts primary school in August, as we are in Scotland chances are he will wear it for a week or two this year and maybe a few weeks end of term next year.

He has 3 big sisters so I have a range of blazer all in different sizes, I grudge paying for a new boys blazer just for a few weeks wear.

What's the difference anyway a few cents in the back/buttons on the wrong side?

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RealityCheque · 23/07/2015 22:40

Yabu

Passmethecrisps · 23/07/2015 22:42

Primary? No one will know or care.

I wore a blazer to secondary school and for the first year I had a boy's one. It was new but there were no girl's ones left. It never bothered me

annoyedisright · 23/07/2015 22:42

Yes, you are being unreasonable.

I was bullied for 5 years because my mum sent me in a boys blazer.

By the poor kid a boys blazer.

Passmethecrisps · 23/07/2015 22:44

Why will he only wear it for a few weeks?

Do the Blazers look worn? That would be my main issue rather than the way the buttons were.

WankerDeAsalWipe · 23/07/2015 22:44

Simple answer is, for so little wear why bother at all?

I am sure not all children will be wearing one anyway. Do you have any of the fleeces or raincoats instead?

A friend was sold a boys blazer for her daughter starting P1 by the school supplier (as were all the girls) as they were "unisex". Strangely she has just bought a new one for P3 and all of a sudden it's a girls one

catkind · 23/07/2015 22:44

WTF, there's a difference between girls' and boys' blazers? I wore school blazers for 8 years and never even realised. Including I think handing down to my brother. Yes do it. Be surprised if anyone noticed.

Actually, DS has an officially "girls'" coat - the colours of the boys ones were too dull for him, he wanted the red one. Some idiots told him it was a girls' coat for a couple of days, he told them they were being silly, end of story. I think he may have got self conscious about his favourite lurid pink hat tho

If he's worried, perhaps for future you could find a girl in his class who has big brothers and do a swap...

isthatmorelego · 23/07/2015 22:46

Yes you are poor child will get bullied kids can be cruel even more these days than ever.

WankerDeAsalWipe · 23/07/2015 22:50

Why will he only wear it for a few weeks?

Because OP is in Scotland chances of having suitable weather for a small primary child to wear a blazer are very slim and probably add up to a couple of weeks over the year.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 23/07/2015 22:50

Do you begrudge or can you genuinely not afford it.
If it is the first then YABVU. This is the real world and children can be so cruel. I am certain you do not want him teased for wearing s girls blazer.
If you can not afford it. Why not ask the school if they have any spare. There is no shame in financial hardship and definitely no shame in asking for help.
I always donated my DD's uniform.
They're not cheap and these shops can charge what they like because they know the children have to have them.

catkind · 23/07/2015 22:52

5 year olds bullying? Older kids bullying 5 yr olds? I wouldn't send my kid to that school at all. Any hint of anything like that has been pounced on and sorted out by DS teachers. Schools shouldn't be like that any more.

Passmethecrisps · 23/07/2015 22:53

I teach in scotland but in secondary. If genuinely the school only ask for the blazer for a few weeks rather than all year but under a winter coat I would look for an alternative.

I don't know of any primary schools who insist on Blazers beyond those in the private sector

WankerDeAsalWipe · 23/07/2015 22:54

If you want him in the blazer for the nice photo then just do that before going to school and then let him go in shirt/tie and jersey or raincoat depending on the weather.

Passmethecrisps · 23/07/2015 22:54

And yy to cat's point about 5yo bullying. Some of his cohort will be only just 4.5yo. I honestly don't think any of his peers will notice given that some of them will still need help toileting alone

starlight2007 · 23/07/2015 22:54

Have you thought about organsising resale..Our PSA do them...If it was my DS ..I wouldn't ..Can he simply go without?

lilacblossomtime · 23/07/2015 22:58

Can you easily tell its a girl's blazer? Would others definitely notice? If so then I wouldn't. If you really can't afford a boys one go straight for the winter option whatever that is. If no one would notice I might risk it.

4kidsandaunicorn · 23/07/2015 23:03

How much is a boys blazer? I'm getting rid of all the uniform after DC3 has finished with it because it will already have been worn twice and I just thought that on his first day my PLB DC4 might feel better in new stuff. That said we can get away with Sainsburys uniform, the most expensive item is a school sweatshirt.

MadeMan · 23/07/2015 23:03

A boy in my class at school years ago had a girls blazer with the buttons on the other side. Nobody really noticed (he never got any stick for it anyway) and I actually thought it was quite a cool jacket because unlike everyone elses, it didn't have any double or single vents at the back.

RagstheInvincible · 24/07/2015 01:24

If he'd worn a girl's blazer to our school when I was a kid, his life would have been made hell on earth. For his own sake, either get him a boy's one or do without.

The5DayChicken · 24/07/2015 01:45

If the only difference is the buttons, why not carefully unpick them and move them?

Redglitter · 24/07/2015 01:49

If he's P1 I can't honestly imagine a 4 or 5 year old is going to have a clue that there's a difference between boys and girls blazers.

DrLego · 24/07/2015 01:57

I find girls blazers are cut better for DS - surely not a problem at age 5.

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WandaDoff · 24/07/2015 02:18

Do you know anyone who has girls and boys that would swap a boy's blazer for one of your girls blazers?
If you have had three children at the school already you must know lots of parents by sight at least.

Or does the school have a 2nd hand uniform sale perhaps?
Most do and if it is only going to be worn a handful of times, then chances are they'll be in good condition.

Redglitter · 24/07/2015 02:25

catch the habit especially since you're in Scotland

manicinsomniac · 24/07/2015 06:18

YANBU

I get my daughters' blazers second hand from the school shop. I've never asked whether they are boys or girls ones. I didn't know there was a difference!

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