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AIBU?

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to send DS to school in a girls blazer?

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sweetkitty · 23/07/2015 22:38

DS starts primary school in August, as we are in Scotland chances are he will wear it for a week or two this year and maybe a few weeks end of term next year.

He has 3 big sisters so I have a range of blazer all in different sizes, I grudge paying for a new boys blazer just for a few weeks wear.

What's the difference anyway a few cents in the back/buttons on the wrong side?

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tobysmum77 · 24/07/2015 06:41

yanbu he is 5.

In terms of catching the habit I reckon that was a joke

Idontseeanydragons · 24/07/2015 07:41

I only found out there's a difference when I accidentally bought DS a girls blazer last year - he's 14
One person noticed and as DS is of the 'couldn't give a shit' mindset when it comes to clothes he just laughed it off with an 'oh well' and nothing has been said since.
YANBU.

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sweetkitty · 24/07/2015 07:45

See I'm very torn. He will probably go straight into his school winter jacket, waterproof and unisex!!!

Blazer will be for photos only and a few weeks next summer (if we get one). His sisters wore their Blazers for about four days total this year, school does not insist on them at all.

Catching the habit thing is ridiculous btw I hope it's a joke, given that his middle sister goes to school dressed as a 9 year old boy her choice. I don't think wearing a girls blazer for a few days will turn him gay. I checked and it's only the placing of buttons!!

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sweetkitty · 24/07/2015 07:47

I really don't think he would get bullied, the other children wouldn't know or care, most don't wear blazers anyway. It's that I would know and other parents.

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BigEasy · 24/07/2015 07:52

If it's just buttons, you would seriously be bonkers to buy a new one. I have 4 DC, and they all share and hand down blazers. I assumed it was just a buttoning difference- I've never checked/noticed the back. Our blazers are £100ish,(private school) and everyone hands down between siblings. To not do so is regarded as super precious.

Ruledbycatsandkids6 · 24/07/2015 08:07

Op if you can afford it get him one if not then no.

Retro you are on another thread telling us all that northern men are all gropers and perverts. So far north they are transvestites.

Oh dear my dear. You need to try harder than this.

dot91 · 24/07/2015 08:14

You can get the blazer buttons changed I got it done years ago original button holes sown up and the buttons put on top and new button holes made on the otherside. Any alteration place could do it for you it wasn't expensive and you would never know it had been altered .

PinguForPresident · 24/07/2015 08:19

Not unreasonable. Tiny kids wouldn't know the difference between a girls blazer and a boys one if it jumped up and bit them.

Chipshopninja · 24/07/2015 08:19

If they're not compulsory then I would rather not get him one at all, than send him in a girls one

FurtherSupport · 24/07/2015 08:36

IME, if the blazer's not compulsory, he's more likely to be teased for wearing one at all than because it's a girls one (I can't imagine little ones would notice either).

WankerDeAsalWipe · 24/07/2015 08:53

He won't get teased for wearing one. In Scotland whilst most schools have uniform, there are a variety of levels of that and pupils wear a variety of items within that. Essentially everything has to be in the school colours, but some might wear a polo shirt and jumper, others shirt and tie, another a noise or summer dress. It's quite normal for P1 in particular for blazers to be worn at the start of school but for them to be abandoned and never worn again especially by boys. Some of it is just practicality as the climate isn't really that suitable to blazer wearing.

Idontseeanydragons · 24/07/2015 08:53

Regardless of who it was made for it's going to end up screwed up in a heap on the playground floor or stuck on a peg all day so I really wouldn't bother with replacing it. He'll grow out of it soon enough.

FurtherSupport · 24/07/2015 08:55

Yes, Wanker, IME they get abandoned and never worn again because it's very uncool to wear one, even at 5/6yo.

ItMustBeBunnies · 24/07/2015 09:04

I wouldn't be fussed to send him in it at that age. If you are concerned, try your local FB pages to see if you can swap blazers with another parent, or sell your daughters' blazers and use that money to buy a second-hand one for DS.

WankerDeAsalWipe · 24/07/2015 09:07

my boys high school have compulsory blazers which is fine for them as they got dropped off and picked up. Not so great for kids trying to get to school dry and warm. goodies get worn under and then taken off in school or they squash a jacket on top or squish the blazer in their bag and put it on when they get there. It's the only high school in town so there is no stigma or lack of coolness involved as they are all in the same boat.

SuburbanRhonda · 24/07/2015 09:48

You can get the buttons moved, but it's a tricky job and if the thread they use is even a slightly different colour, the new button-holes will stand out a mile. Obviously not a problem if it's a black or navy blazer. But how much cheaper would it be than buying a new one?

Do contact the school - many will have secondhand stuff donated.

Fluffyears · 24/07/2015 11:34

I went to school
In my brothers blazer in primary. My mum got the buttons moved but the sewn up holes under the buttons looked awful and age shouldn't have bothered as no one would have noticed what side the buttons were on since we were 4/5. In secondary I simply refused to wear a blazer and think 2 people bothered for a week. By that point my brother was over 6 foot tall and 15 stone I was 5'9'' and 81/2 stone so his would have swamped me. Give him the blazer do not say anything to anyone and they will be none the wiser.

Kumiho · 24/07/2015 15:19

No, get a boy's one. The boy's ones have the fart flaps at the back, which is pretty much what they will call them and the boys will be noting who has them and who doesn't.

ChristmasZombie · 24/07/2015 15:26

I work in a private prep school and all our children are required to wear their blazers all year round. I honestly didn't notice the difference between the girls' blazers and the boys' blazers until it was pointed out to me at awards evening last year. Even now, I'm still not sure which cut is which. I think the boys' ones have the extra pleats in the sides. I could be wrong, though.
In short, no YANBU to reuse the girl's blazer.

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sweetkitty · 24/07/2015 17:23

The blazer in question is burgundy and I can get one for £20 then £4 for a badge so it's not like it's £££s for a woollen high school one. I think I'll just get him one.

The primary school here are a mixture of Blazers/jumpers and then straight into winter jackets come September. High schools it's compulsory which is totally impractical a woollen blazer in a country where it rains most days. A blazer teemed with a skirt the same length as the blazer always makes me laugh the school insists on a blazer but girls can wear skirts the same length

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WankerDeAsalWipe · 24/07/2015 17:26

Our blazers are the polyester sort for high school :)

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sweetkitty · 24/07/2015 21:29

Woollen ones here I prefer the polyester ones quicker to dry and not scratchy according to the DC.

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