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To knock on neighbours door at 9am?

34 replies

hibbledibble · 19/07/2015 08:03

They were having a party, mostly on their doorstep Hmm and making noise till I finally snapped and told them to go inside at 4.30 am. Dds were woken.

Wibu to knock on their door at 9am and have a polite discussion about acceptable Boise levels at night?

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Writerwannabe83 · 19/07/2015 08:05

I'd be pounding on their front door, never mind knocking.

I cannot abide selfish neighbours!!

I have some myself.

MrsPeeee · 19/07/2015 08:07

I think 9am is prefectly reasonable. Selfish bastards. Hope you all get some rest today.

hibbledibble · 19/07/2015 08:10

They didn't even apologise when I asked them to go inside as they were keeping the children up.

They were literally on the doorstep with a boombox or whatever kids call it nowadays drinking and shouting.

Can you tell I'm annoyed?

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Spartans · 19/07/2015 08:10

Yanbu. Please do update though. Hate selfish neighbours.

Ohbollocksandballs · 19/07/2015 08:12

I'd be knocking now. I'd also of been hoovering at 6am but I am a twat.

brusselsproutwarning · 19/07/2015 08:13

I wouldn't. I'd wait til 10am at least. Going over at 9 is going to start an arguement straight away . They wont even listen to what you say. When you complained, did they stop ? Why do you wait so long to say something?

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 19/07/2015 08:13

If you have the nerve to do it then do it. They were incredibly inconsiderate.

Chasingsquirrels · 19/07/2015 08:15

Of course it would be unreasonable, 9am on a Sunday is too early, particularly when you know they have been up late.
Yes they were also being selfish and unreasonable but their selfish actions wouldn't make yours any less selfish.
What would you possibly hope to achieve from such a confrontation?
A reasonable discussion at a later time would be much more likely to yield positive results.

hibbledibble · 19/07/2015 08:16

Brussels I didn't say something earlier because if I complain then it wakes me up properly, I am also tolerant to a certain level of night time noise (like when our neighbour had a 50th party but did warn us and kept people inside) but this was just taking the piss.

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hibbledibble · 19/07/2015 08:18

When I complained, some went inside, but at least 3 people stayed outside. No apology. Can you tell I'm annoyed?

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FurtherSupport · 19/07/2015 08:24

Depends what you're hoping to achieve. You're not going to get any sensible discussion or agreement if you wake them up, that needs to wait until this afternoon, or probably tomorrow.

If you want "revenge". 9am is fine for Dc to be playing out (do they like paying with saucepan lids?) and by 9:30 you can get the lawn mower out.

ShadowFire · 19/07/2015 08:26

You know they're still going to be in bed. If you're hoping for sense out of them it might be better to wait until they're awake.

Maybe try some vacuuming or mowing the lawn to wake them up first?

NoahVale · 19/07/2015 08:26

they wont be awake now though.

brusselsproutwarning · 19/07/2015 08:27

Yes I can tell you are annoyed but really if you go out there at 9am you will probably come back even more annoyed.

hibbledibble · 19/07/2015 08:27

Hmm, we have a strimmer. I could deweed the front garden? But then I don't want to annoy the other perfectly lovely neighbours. What time would be socially acceptable to do this?

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Writerwannabe83 · 19/07/2015 08:30

My DH had to hold me back last weekend when my selfish area neighbours were having a party until gone 2.30am. I was furious!!! Our neighbours also constantly park across our drive, both when our cars are on it and also if our cars aren't on it. If we knock on the door to ask them to move it they don't answer even though we know they are in.

The next time he has a party (has had two in the last four weekends) I will be calling the police about it.

Doyoufeelluckypunk · 19/07/2015 08:30

I think 9am is fine for both gardening and a chat about noise levels!

How are noisy neighbours likely to take it?

Jollyphonics · 19/07/2015 08:33

I'd be more inclined to save a proper discussion until later, because if you knock now it'll be obvious that you're doing it for revenge. There's nothing wrong with that, and if you want to really punish them then that's completely fine, but it may end up starting a full-on tit-for-tat battle, with them making more and more noise late at night.

However, I would have no hesitation in getting on with normal day time activities - kids playing noisily outside, maybe some music, mowing the lawn perhaps - nothing that would be an obvious act of revenge, but enough to wake them up!

Then later I'd have a serious talk. If this is a regular thing then it's totally out of order. If it was a one-off then the very least they should have done is warned you way in advance.

Onedayinthesun · 19/07/2015 08:35

OP I had this the other weekend until 4am with my selfish neighbours and many here on MN said I was kill joy! Hmm

Next day I went out and cleaned my car about 9ish with the radio on, kids playing out the front and other neighbours came out and started their gardening...they were up and about looking rough as from 10am. I decided not to approach them because I was angry and it wouldn't have achieved anything as they are unreasonable selfish people. I enjoy just blanking them now Grin

hibbledibble · 19/07/2015 08:35

I have no idea do you

I've not had any contact with them until today (this has been the first noisy party they have had). I don't know if they have recently moved in.

Debating whether to bring out the strimmer or knock on their door.

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Jollyphonics · 19/07/2015 08:36

The juvenile side of me says you could go and bang on their door then run away - they'd wake up but never know for sure it was you!!

Onedayinthesun · 19/07/2015 08:37

Jolly Grin

StonedGalah · 19/07/2015 08:39

I'd knock on their door. The strimmer might punish your other neighbours.

Being woken when they're not ready might ram home how inconsiderate they were earlier thus morning.

Good luck. And knock very loudly!

FurtherSupport · 19/07/2015 08:39

Do kids still play knock down ginger? It was widespread when I was young, but I don't think so now. Kids of today....so much nicer than we were.

Jollyphonics · 19/07/2015 08:45

I saw a kid doing it on the walk home from school recently - really surprised me, especially as his Gran is a stalwart of the church, and one of the doors they went for was the church warden!