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AIBU?

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Smarties biscuits at 7:30am? AIBU or is MIL?

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IUseAnyName · 18/07/2015 07:29

So staying at pil with 5yr old and 1yr old.
They live 4hrs away so we stay very rarely, although they come to visit us once a month for a week or so.
So they see gp often.
I'm in bed enjoying a cup of tea, dc were playing in bedroom next door. They went down stairs with gm and have just come back up all excited because they both have a smarties biscuit in each hand!

Okay okay, I am ready to be told that IABU due to them being away and it being a one off, and me still being in bed with a brew!.... but at the same time why does it enter someone's head to give kids biscuits at 7:30, before breakfast!
My dm did a similar thing not long ago, giving them both rice pudding for breakfast!

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chickenfuckingpox · 18/07/2015 17:14

if my mil did this i would know she was taking the piss my son goes tits when he has smarties (and she bought him a smarties egg the year we found out too and i refused to give it to him her what's the harm whine won me over enough to say ok you have a spare room here is the car seat ENJOY! surprisingly they declined the offer )

normal child? naaa just let it go or protest enough to say OY WHERES MINE?

namechange4this123 · 18/07/2015 17:17

i wouldnt be happy either, but as others have said i'd let it go as a one off.

atticusclaw · 18/07/2015 20:06

I thought from your post you meant one glass Gobbolino. I understand fully the issues with excessive juice. My DCs are allowed one glass a day. (every other drink is water apart from milk before bedtime). Its freshly squeezed from oranges from the fruit bowl. I'm not sure how that's worse than a biscuit.

I accept entirely that those children who guzzle it all day are likely to have issues with their teeth but I hadn't understood your first post as meaning that hence my comment.

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 18/07/2015 20:23

I don't understand what the relevance of the juice being freshly squeezed is

It depends how how big the glass is vis a vis a biscuit for sugar content. But if it's with a meal, then it's reasonably ok. As I said earlier, when the DC do start having juice then it would only be with a meal and as a treat - say when we were out. I wouldn't give the DC a biscuit every day. Again, it's a treat so, for me, a daily glass of juice or a biscuit don't equate.

Re: the juice at the moment, I don't want the DC to have juice as I don't want to get into the habit of them wanting it - hence why I wouldn't want mum and/or MIL to give it then and thus my comment.

But I don't think it is reasonable to imply that people are confused about sugar intake because they would let DC have a biscuit and not juice.

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IUseAnyName · 19/07/2015 08:07

My dc both had fruitshoots yesterday evening at a party too!

They've never had fruit shoot before as we stay away from artificial juice and use only watered down fruit juice.... Not sure if this is okay?
My inner twitchyness did go when they both ran out with these fruitshoots!

The worry I have now is mil takes note of the treat things dc eat and will go out and buy them in bulk for me to take home. So I'm expecting to go home with a 24crate of fruitshoot tomorrow! (Which btw, I won't be givig dc and will donate to local charity shop or food bank)

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MrsPeeee · 19/07/2015 08:10

Yanbu to be annoyed but of its a one off I'd let it go. My mum always does this too - and before ds has had any breakfast.

My dad took ds to burger king once and fed him chips at 10am (he was 3 at the time). WTF.

DeeWe · 19/07/2015 08:28

Tobysmuum, my dc obviously have the best granny because they get both when staying.

Granny brings them a cup of tea with sugar in and biscuits in bed. Then they go swimming and have breakfast at the cafe there.

They've done this for years with her and never expected it anywhere else.

MadameJosephine · 19/07/2015 08:31

I honestly dont see an issue here at all, its just a biscuit! Their grandmother has taken pleasure in choosing a treat for them and seeing their little faces light up and they have a lovely memory of their granny for the future. I have similar fond memories of my childhood with my grandparents who are sadly no longer with us. My parents keep a 'sweetie tin' for their grandchildren to choose a treat from when they visit too. Sugar isnt poison, it's all about balance surely?

trollkonor · 19/07/2015 08:41

If it was a daily occurrence then ywnbu. Its a treat so I would let it go.

My grandprents used to do this with us when we stayed with them, breakfast often wouldnt be another hour or more and it kept us happy. My parents do thid with my kids, even worse they often get given chocolate. Its great when they were young they would wake and rush in to see grandma, she would feed them biscuis and entertain whilst we slept in bliss.

thegreylady · 19/07/2015 08:46

When my dgc stay here I buy a Kellogg's Variety pack of cereal and leave it on the table with bowls and spoons (the boys are 6&8). They love to get up early and have a mix and match breakfast. We live in a bungalow so it is easy for them. Then they come and get into bed with us for half an hour. Later we like to go to a local lakeside cafe for bacon butties and a play in the playground.
At home they eat very healthily and I am very careful with actual meals but our Sunday morning treats are lovely. It isn't often as they live near so I rarely have them for sleepovers but when I do it is special.

Ausflug · 19/07/2015 08:53

I don't really think it really matters when in the day you eat things.

If a smarties biscuit, or rice pudding, or burger and chips or whatever, is an OK think to eat at noon, or 6pm , why wouldn't it be OK at 7am?

I suppose if you start eating biscuits early in the morning, there is more time left in the day to eat even more biscuits. But if you just say you've already had a biscuit today, so you can't have another, then it's fine.

My only reservation would be eating before cleaning teeth in the morning, but I would let that go as a one off in someone else's house.

FarFromAnyRoad · 19/07/2015 09:03

I've read this thread with interest and amusement as I sit here glancing over at my grown up son who was, in every way, the dream child!
His granny - my great grandmother - was besotted with him as a baby and toddler. She'd lost a much loved daughter at the age of 2 and I think he filled that hole that had been gaping for so many years. Anyway - the point is - she spoiled him rotten. Beyond rotten really. We still laugh about the morning DH and I went for an early walk and came home to find him sitting at the table demolishing a huge bowl of Cookie Dough ice cream topped with Baileys. He was 5.
She wasn't always quite that bad but it came close. It never occurred to us to get pissed off at her - their morning ritual was so important to both of them and we stayed overnight 2 out of 4 weekends.
He was devastated when she died - they really were soulmates and his memories of those mornings with her are still clear and special to him.

TheMoonOnAStick15 · 19/07/2015 09:05

My mum used to do the similar things. And always kept fruit shoots in thinking they were actually a good thing because 'they're made from fruit' .

I just let the whole thing go. What happens at grandma's stays at grandma's. Unless of course it's outright dangerous. Like the time I found out my mil had been driving about with too many people in her car and one of my dc on her lap. I did kick up majorly about that.

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