Smarties biscuits at 7:30am? AIBU or is MIL?

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So staying at pil with 5yr old and 1yr old.
They live 4hrs away so we stay very rarely, although they come to visit us once a month for a week or so.
So they see gp often.
I'm in bed enjoying a cup of tea, dc were playing in bedroom next door. They went down stairs with gm and have just come back up all excited because they both have a smarties biscuit in each hand!

Okay okay, I am ready to be told that IABU due to them being away and it being a one off, and me still being in bed with a brew!.... but at the same time why does it enter someone's head to give kids biscuits at 7:30, before breakfast!
My dm did a similar thing not long ago, giving them both rice pudding for breakfast!

MIL always gives DH shortbread with his first cup of tea when we're at their house. She brings it to him in bed. I just have the tea

I thinks so battle

I too was a 90s child awful and remember fondly the crap I was fed, and the passive smoke I inhaled!

Rice pudding sounds like a perfectly reasonable breakfast tbh. It's cereal and milk.

Smarties biscuits are unreasonable as a one off granny treat only if you weren't offered one.

My parents do this. DD had coco pops and chocolate fingers for lunch

I just roll my eyes and try to remember that they only get to spoil her every so often...

Sugar butties! Those were the days :)

I always thought rice pudding was half sugar? errol

One of my favourite memories from childhood is waking up at my grandparents' house early in the morning, and finding a warmish glass of milk and two biscuits by my bed. It was so special. Never spoilt our breakfast, but bridged the gap very nicely between childish me waking up and the time when much more laid back grandparents were ready to wake and start cooking mammoth fry up. Mmm.

Second memory from them is of being given a rolled up paper cone (made from the day's newspaper) filled with sweets from the sweetie jar to see us comfortable on the way home.

Not remotely healthy, not all that sensible really since I was probe to travel sickness, but such a special memory. More special because we never had sweets at home, not by the handful like that. One or two doled out from a shared bag very occasionally.

I suspect my mother may have been less than overjoyed by the sweet cone - she had to clear up afterwards. But she never said a word to them about it, and we really loved it.

I'm remembering now. Biscuits before breakfast was a common Saturday morning tactic at home too; I'd forgotten! Never magically appearing beside our bed though; we had to go and ask. But again it gave the adults a bit of an extra lie in. In fact I think it may have been biscuits for us, tea in bed for them, but my priority was the biscuits so j don't remember that!

Yes, I think it takes me a while to settle in to the it's only for a couple days, they're at grannies mentality.... Due to this thread I a definately in to it now.... Think I'll
Go and make them rice pudding for breakfast myself

Sounds great sleeps

I guess there's that compromise were they can't be over spoilt, by sugary treats mainly, everyday by gp... Especially true for those who live close to gp and see them regularly.
But it's nice for gc to have a nice memory of staying at gp

And sugarys treats seems to play a part in that

Aww. It's the sort of thing the children will remember when they are older. My Nan used to buy us about ten bars of chocolate and wrap themthem in tinfoil tied with a ribbon when we went to stay.

rice pudding is surely much the same as most breakfast cereal anyway?

Probably toby we only eat selected breakfast cerials as most are too sugary for breakfast imo.

I'm assuming by the fact you were still in bed with a cuppa that your pil got up with the dc and made you a cuppa? Seriously they could have fed my ds candyfloss if my pil bothered to give us a lie in while they sorted out my child.

When we go to my parents ds always says 'i love going to nanny and Granddad's. They spoil me and give me treats.' To be fair to them they always ask us first though if it's ok. My view is their house, their rules

It's a granny thing....I remember my granny always buying me a sugar mouse from the bakers each time we went shopping, my mum never did, said they were too sweet. I'd be more upset about not getting one with my tea. Hope you have a lovely weekend, all being spoilt.

I'd let my kids have a whole bag of smarties biscuits if someone else watched them while I lay in with a cuppa! Never occurs to my PIL to do any early-morning child-watching -'which is the one time I'd really appreciate it the most.

I would be so pleased to get a lie in it wouldn't bother me, as long as it was a one off and they don't stay over every week. There's probably the same amount of sugar in coco pops. I would just give them a piece of fruit mid morning instead of a biscuit type snack.
One of the things I love at my in laws is that the dc go downstairs to have breakfast with their Nana. I have no idea what they eat with her in the morning because I am never there, although from what's in the cupboard I suspect it's something boring like weetabix or bran flakes. Maybe they eat biscuits and just don't tell me!

Awww that's what grandparents do. It's a special treat. As long as your DC know it's not the norm then I think it's fine.
I have such fond memories of my GP giving me and DSis garibaldi biscuits in the morning. We would jump into bed with GM and she would make up wonderful stories for us and GDad would bring a cup of tea for GM and the biscuits for me and DSis. Good times!

Meh. It's not every day. A biscuit breakfast is hardly going to cause an issue every once in a while.

I'd have wanted to know where mine was, with my tea in bed too :)

And treats can take many forms. Having one form doesn't mean the other forms can't happen too.

As someone who's just tucked into a giant choc chip cookie with my cup of tea in bed, I'd say YABU. It's the weekend - let it go!

oops, just sent my ones downstairs to get a bun (plain btw) to tide them over until i can get up to get the porridge on :)

i will reverse slowly from this thread and will not look at it again, feel free to judge my slack parenting :)

Oh and I remember when I was little and I'd stay at my grandparents house, my grandad would bring a cup of tea up to bed for me, in a cup and saucer, with two little chocolate biscuits on the saucer. I loved it as I'd never have got that at home. And it makes me feel all warm to this day whenever I think about it.

Clearly the OP is annoyed because she didn't get a biscuit with her tea!

Rachel's Divine Rice Pudfing pots have 12g sugar per 100g which is about half the sugar of many 'regular' cereals and about a third of the sugar in 'children's ' sugary cereals.

Mm, Smarty biscuits