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Me or dh.?

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Woodentrees · 15/07/2015 20:14

Dd has an essay to type, needs headers, footers etc. iPad is uncomfortable to type an essay on and isn't compatible with school computers. She asked dh if she could move one of the two computers he doesn't use into her study space and use that. Apparently not, because they're his. She has to use mine. Fine by me, I have an iPad, but as she quite reasonably pointed out, there are more distractions downstairs. He is now upstairs in a mood because we don't understand him. I don't, he doesn't use them! Please tell me it isn't me.

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HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 15/07/2015 20:55

DH is being VVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVV U.

The5DayChicken · 15/07/2015 20:59

You don't understand him? Nope! He doesn't understand sharing.

Icimoi · 15/07/2015 20:59

Well, he's right, the computer might be appropriated. But if he hasn't used it for three years, why does it matter?

Viviennemary · 15/07/2015 21:00

I can see his point. We have our own computers now. I hate mine being messed about with by somebody else. Can you get her a computer of her own. But he should let her use it this once if she has homework to do.

shirleybasseyslovechild · 15/07/2015 21:11

he should give it to her , surely ?
she needs it, he doesn't

FantasticButtocks · 15/07/2015 21:15

What does she usually use to type her essays? (Glad you've bought her a new one, probably far nicer and more modern than these old machines that haven't been used for nine years, if they even still work that is!)

LovelyFriend · 15/07/2015 21:16

I'd be wondering what he's got on his laptop he doesn't want other family members to know about/see.

Garlick · 15/07/2015 21:21

Vivienne, he doesn't even use them. Apparently.

DadfromUncle · 15/07/2015 21:23

He is being VU. I am also a geek with a 7 year old DD and ....ahem......several computers. DD uses my super duper work laptop, my tablet, desktop and laptops. There's nothing on there she shouldn't see, although the Internet being what it is I don't allow her to do unsupervised googling etc.

To people saying they don't like other people messing around with their computers - there's not much anyone can do to mine that I can't reset in a couple of minutes, no bother.

whois · 15/07/2015 21:26

Their has got to be a back story to this? Your DH doesn't use the computers because he can't sit at them. He won't let DD use one because she might appropriate it. Which would make no difference anyway because he never uses is. And now he's sulking.

I do wonder where all these foul individuals that MN women seem to live with come from.

whois · 15/07/2015 21:26

To people saying they don't like other people messing around with their computers

You give them a separate log in so they can't fuck with all of your documents and settings. Easy.

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Woodentrees · 15/07/2015 21:28

Lovely There is nothing on the computers. He doesn't use them. The newer one hasn't been used for around three years.

Up until now she's done most of her work at school or on the ipad, but the school environment isn't always quiet enough for her, hence her wanting to do some work at home.

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Justmuddlingalong · 15/07/2015 21:35

Is your Dd your Dh's child?

Thetruthshallmakeyefret · 15/07/2015 21:44

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SuburbanRhonda · 15/07/2015 21:45

This thread sort of reminds me of the en suite bathroom threads where people say they can't bear the thought of anyone else using it.

I must live in a parallel universe where families sharing stuff is normal.

Sleepsoftly · 15/07/2015 21:47

There is porn on them.
Not top secret plans to build a rocket.

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Woodentrees · 15/07/2015 21:51

There's no porn on them. I am good with computers, I have looked over the years to keep them going and up to date.

Dd is his dd, yes.

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Hannahouse · 15/07/2015 21:53

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Justmuddlingalong · 15/07/2015 21:55

Well when she passes her exams, she can tell him it was no fucking thanks to him! Is he as territorial with other stuff that's 'his'?

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Woodentrees · 15/07/2015 21:59

They are definitely unused he does not have either the strength or the opportunity to set them up.

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Topseyt · 15/07/2015 22:23

I am a bit territorial about my laptop, largely because DH has a tendency, however well intentioned, to pretend he is a connoisseur of these things (he isn't, by the way), and to faff an fart about with them. I am a creature of habit and like things just so.

I have found it best for my daughters to have their own laptops since going to secondary school as it was necessary for so much homework. DD1 is at uni now anyway and needs hers in her lectures.

I still say your DH is being an arse though. 9 and 3 year old computers are hardly new technology anyway, added to the fact that he never uses them.

wafflyversatile · 15/07/2015 22:29

And what is wrong with her appropriating something he doesn't need when she does need them?

This is a normal thing that normal people do. They no longer have a need for something so they swap it, give it to someone, give it to a charity shop, sell it on ebay freecycle it and someone else appropriates it.

sooperdooper · 15/07/2015 22:29

If you've kept the computers updated and he's not used either for at least three years why is it even his decision? And I agree with the above, if they're not being used sell them to pay for a laptop for your dd that will be used

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