to find it annoying when someone has been an arse to you on a thread...

[Nurserywindow]

and you decide they're just a nasty person not worth bothering about, and then on another thread you start getting on famously with them and love their sense of humour and start wondering if they had good reason to be an arse before.

Sorry, reported the duplicate post.

Or you get on famously with someone and then you name change to post something private and they come alone and whoop your behind. I've had that before.

Hmmm , I should answer. We did not see eye to eye on a thread but here I am replying .. and yes agreeing.

YANBU

surely that is just the same as real life - people agree on some things and not on others

I think its the same in real life too, I had a friend who is so annoying on facebook and regularly has arguments over her political views on their, however in real life she is so laid back and easy to talk to, almost like the arguments never happened...

I wasn't really talking about disagreeing about something. I mean where someone has been quite nasty and unpleasant towards you, and then you find yourself really clicking with them on another thread.

Its the nature of the beast really if somebody things you are being arsey at that time then its better than them not bothering about what ypu said as long as they are not downright nasty then its fine.

I think it is like friendship
you agree 100% with your friends on some things and sometimes 0% on others, as long as you respect each other's right to do so that is fine.
your friends, however, are usually aware of a great deal of your history and know when to tread carefully or back away tactfully

I think sometimes we post about things that are still painful for ourselves on some level and then someone rubbishes or dismisses our experience or views and it hurts and makes us immediately massively defensive and angry - then - let the rage begin

I find that I usually take it worst when I am accused of being a man or a predator simply because I have Ronald in my name...seemingly no-one is aware of of the McDonald's clown anymore

I don't know. I am an awful ass all the time, just so that no one has to be confused about me

We all agree & disagree about different things, happens to me in real life all the time.

It's why I can't understand posters who say stuff like "I could never marry a xxx" - very narrow minded. Most of us would agree on something somewhere along the line & if you agree with someone it can make it easier to get along with them...

Ah Yes, , I get what you mean NurseryWindow.

Like in real life as others have said .

Ollieplimsols . lol I know somebody a bit like that as well ,, Sets up rallying calls to action be that political, animal, child, rants away . In reality ? Meek like a mouse.

No, you are all getting it all wrong. You have to say that you never notice user names and just reply to the post not the poster.

Ah you need to be a little more elderly.

I can never remember who the heck agreed with me and who was mean (unless they do either repeatedly).

As a result I'm getting a lot more mellow in my old age.

In fact just what Sparkling suggested only not on purpose!

I can occasionally remember that I didn't agree with someone, or they get arsey with me but not what about.

I think it's best not to get so heavily invested on here that you care too much about what people say or hold a grudge.

So I just move on.

I find it most annoying when you see the same poster repeatedly being obtuse arsey awkward controversial on posts. I find it very difficult not to say something but that'd be a bit off.

Some subjects attract posters and you know exactly what they are going to say as soon as you see their name.

I am stupidly attracted to cat poo in the garden threads and BF not being the be all and end all threads. I really really should hide them.

I rarely remember. I'm just old.

I remember you Pagwatch - but not in a bad way

Does everyone also think they are the subject of the title in these types of threads

I'm very well mannered in rl, and I try not to say anything on MN that I wouldnt say in RL (I imagine being outed and how I would feel) but can be a bit controversial sometimes.

I like it when someone who's username puts me on edge because of somethjng they've written previously, then says something I totally agree with. Makes me less fearful of them

I do this and I think most people on MN do. Some don't though and can be really nasty and carry venom from thread to thread and talk about you on threads you're not even on. That's pretty horrible. I think people who do that need to take a good hard look at themselves. They wouldn't like it if they were on the other end of it or if someone was treating them like that in RL.

YANBU. Best way to be on here is just let it wash over you and walk away if it gets to you I find. I'm the same as in real life. Stupidly type whatever honestly comes to mind....should add I'm not popular in real life either