To rant about attention hogging 5 year olds at school drop off?!

[Imsooverschool]

Yes, I'm genuinely annoyed by a five year and need to get over it!

Crap morning for DS1, tired and upset over everything after a bad nights sleep. At the school door there was the usual group of mums having nonessential conversation with the teacher. And a little boy crying who often does -with both teachers fussing over him. He often does this and then gets to sit with the teacher for register. I know I should have compassion but I know this child well. He loves attention and being fussed over. Its part of his morning routine. He's horribly precocious and knows exactly how to get attention.

My tired little son squeezed past everyone, no one said so much as a good morning. He never fusses no matter how bad he's feeling but he looked so glum. I want to go to school and give him a hug.

DS loves affection but can't engage the teachers as easily as other kids.

Oh, I'd never considered if other parents would think me a 'teacher hogger' but I have to speak to ds1 teacher almost everyday.

DS has type 1 diabetes which requires him to wear an insulin pump with a cannula, get finger prick blood tests and insullin before he eats anything or if he shows sisgn of being hypo or hyperglycemic.

It's a fucking ball ache for him and me and his teachers.

I wish to God I could swap with someone who never 'gets a chance' to speak to their child's teacher.

Be careful what you wish for.

And a little boy crying who often does with both teachers fussing over him. ...I know I should have compassion but I know this child well. He loves attention and being fussed over...He's horribly precocious and knows exactly how to get attention

I'm close to him and despite finding aspects of his behaviour annoying I feel wrong discussing a child I care about

Backpeddling a bit there OP (possibly after reading that YWBU about the little boy). What do you call 5 year olds you don't care about?

Your OP was all about this poor kid, when the issue is actually the teacher/parent handover and how crap it is.

Why aren't parents kept outside the school gates any more?

Call it backpeddling if you like. I make it clear in my OP that I knew in my general annoyance and upset I was having an irrational moment of forgetting he is 5.

Nothing I said was based on pick-up alone. But yes, I had a moment of realising and regretting that I was posting about a child who is a big part of our life - hence not explaining further.

MrsBD, of course no one will be thinking you are hogging the teachers time unnecessarily. There is a point to be made that I don't always know peoples circumstances. Not hugely relevant given that all the conversations I'm referring to are easily heard and are not about illness or serious issues. But I guess a parent could have anxiety issues causing them to behave as they do.

To suggest I would wish my son has diabetes, or any reasons other than those we already have to talk to the school, is not a fair way to make a point (and nor, in my case, is it likely to be true that you would swap with me.)

*Mrsdevere my post wasn't in response to yours I was just saying that it had not occurred to me before that other parents might consider me to be teacher hogging and maybe they do feel I block the way (even though I try hard to be non obtrusive.) ?

There are quite a few posts on here slating parents who talk to the teacher every day, blocking children in the process or not.

I was merely pointing out that I would prefer not to be one of those or judged as one of those.

I'm sorry if saying be careful what you wish for has offended. It was clumsily put. I was trying to say that sometimes we don't know why parents stand at the door.

Mrsbobdylan - i am the parent to children with SN (medical) - they are taxied to school so i can't speak to the teacher each day. like many parents in my situation i use a daily communication book where i write in the morning how the evening/night/morning has been and any instructions on the medications for the day etc....in response she writes back how the day has been etc.
would this work as your child gets older to stop you needing to speak to the teacher every morning and evening?
HTH.

I think YANBU.

There is a child in my DS's class where the mum is always in the fucking school. I rarely need to speak to the teacher in the morning but on the odd occasion I have or the times I have nipped in with DS for him to drop something in, you can guarantee she in in there. I went in to DDs new class recently and she was in there as well (has a child in the current class). I wait in the playground each morning and every time, without fail she comes out of the school where the classrooms are.

Teachers must secretly dread parents like this.

Can you speak to the teacher and say that it's frustrating having to fight through parents just to get in the classroom each day? May even they need to say that the teacher is NOT available in the mornings to stop it. This would piss me off too.

I have a 4 year old who cries at nursery drop off pretty much every day. She is 'not' attention seeking in any way as they try to intice her with greetings and conversation and with helping them cut up snack fruit in the kitchen but she's not interested.

It is a preschool that has children from 2.5 to 5 in the same room. She has told me that various dc have hurt her and the teachers don't do anything about it. They are good in the activities they provide but very very liberal and if you bring up the hitting with them, they will listen but then go on to excuse bad behaviour by stating that they're all 'babies' still, even the the Autumn born children who will '5' this year.

I have an 8 year old son who loved nursery as he's very sociable. His teacher adores him as he just gets on with it, even when he was ill last week she made of point of telling me how he 'never' complains. I have brought them both up using a similar approach which suggests these things are often down to personality. I really resent the notion that these 'attention seeking' children are the result of their parents' actions. Equally, my DD is friends with a very lively confident, chatty child who although lifts the spirits, definitely takes up a lot more attention than most others as she is always asking the teachers questions and hugging and talking.