To think she doesn't like me?

[Mamami]

So, the 6 of us in my NCT group usually meet up about once a week or so. We're not super close but get along fine.

One of the women - let's call her S - happens to live on the next road over from my dad (about 15 minutes bus from me).

When the I met up with S and a couple of the other girls yesterday she was very upset about returning to work next week and the end of Mat leave. I wanted to get her some flowers or something and was going to see my dad today anyway so asked what she was up to this afternoon. She said nothing and I said I'd pop in for 15 minutes for a cuppa. She then sent me a message saying: 'hi, hope you're well. I know I said I wasn't doing anything but I selfishly want to spend as much time with my baby alone as possible before returning to work. Hope you understand'. OK, fine. I sent back a nice reply.

This morning she is planning an all day swimming and lunch trip tomorrow with the other girls.

Yep yabu.

Her house was probably a shit tip, and she doesn't want to bother putting on make up/clean clothes a bra for the 20mins you'd probably be there for. Just too much effort for a spontaneous visit from someone you don't know that well.

Don't take it personally

so were you invited to the swimming day or not?

You're being totally paranoid. I'd hate someone inviting themself to my house, especially at the end of maternity when you just want every second for you and your baby because you know you'll be away from them working soon. Also it's take me all bloody day to tidy the house for the visit I didn't want in the first place, and I'd still be embarrassed at the state of the house, and I'd have less time with the baby. It's not you, sometimes people just aren't sociable or like having people round for tea.