I've only been on ESA for a month and I've already had my first 'you should just get a little job instead' comment.

[LadyFuckrington]

From my sister. I'm in the support group for ESA due to mental health issues. She has moaned to my mum that it's not fair she has to work so hard and I can get free money, and that I ought to get a part time job instead.

I've worked my whole life and it's contribution based esa, my dh has a good job but we had a shortfall after I was signed off and subsequently left my job. I've tried to take my own life twice in the last three months and getting through the day alive is my priority at the moment.

My psychiatrist and gp say I'm too ill to work but apparently my sister thinks I should just pull my socks up and do an evening job like she does.

Aibu to be spitting fucking feathers? Posting here so I don't phone her and give her both barrels.

I don't see how your brother 'let slip' this. I don't think it's coincidental that you are so distressed at family differences of opinion.

You might find it helpful to have family around at this time but for a lot of people limiting contact with family to neutral ground, short times while you are so ill might help you recover.

My dh had 18 months or so of bruising encounters with the ESA. The entire process might as well have been designed to make people as ill as possible. Add the relentless public propaganda - against fellow citizens, no less - and you have a self-perpetuating vortex of pain. All from politicians of all parties who make statements about the Christian culture in this country. They haven't the slightest intention of actually acting like a Christian and say nothing but derogatory things about people who threaten to do so.