To give DD the big bedroom and take the boxroom?

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We live in a small 2 bed duplex and at the moment me and DP have the small/medium size bedroom and DD has the tiny boxroom. She's starting school in September and I'm sure with that will come having friends over eventually etc and I feel really bad we have such a small home and she has no real place of her own, the sitting room and kitchen are joined so they wouldn't really get any privacy.
It makes sense to me to give her our bedroom and get a midi sleeper so she would have plenty of floor space and a big built in wardrobe could be used for toys, books etc too. Though it would mean we would have a room that would only just fit our bed and I'd probably have to use a mix between her current small wardrobe and the hot press for my clothes and DP could have his own chest of drawers in the landing. I do love my bedroom and have lots in the way of cosmetics, perfumes etc but I could put shelves up in the box room for them?

Is it a crazy idea or a good idea I really can't decide but I think it would be hugely beneficial for DD but it doesn't seem that way now because she has no interest in playing in her room she always wants to be around us and imagine switching and she's still not bothered about her new room?

why does she need 8 pairs of dance shoes btw?

Em because she wouldn't be able to dance without them.

I don't think it's bad - I just wonder how many cuddly toys a 15 year old could have, that makes it a significant portion of the items she needs to store. By that age, my stuff like that had either been passed on, or weeded out to the few precious ones, and maybe some into loft storage for passing on for example.

What, she wear 8 pairs at the same time?

it was a genuine question - How much dancing does she do that she needs 8 pairs?

We swapped rooms with dd .. The small room just about fits our bed against 2 walls with a 6inch gap against 3rd wall its long and thin so we have drawers and wardobes back towards the door. We swapped to give her the 'big' room she puts up with a lot .
He twin brothers disabilities means she has to make allowances a lot of the time. Her room is her space where she can have her friends round and just chill out away from her brothers ... As well as do the odd cartwheel :-)

We just sleep in the tiny room so don't need lots if space to 'play'

Squeezing two adults into a boxroom? Nope I think you'd be mad to swap rooms.

00100001 she does a lot of dancing- 25 hours a week or so.

She has
Split sole ballet shoes
full sole ballet shoes
pointe shoes
soft pointe shoes
jazz shoes
tap shoes
character shoes
cuban heels

It's not just the cuddle toys per se, it was just an example of "stuff".
Similarly she has DVDs, computer games, books, school stuff, a rucksack, tent, hiking boots, two pet goldfish, straighteners, curlers, hairdryers.
This is all stuff I don't need to keep in my room, so it makes sense for her to have a bigger room.

I would tend to keep some of that stuff in the understairs cupboard or shed if it was outdoor things like a tent etc.

I think if 2 adults share a room then they need the bigger one.

I don't have a shed, and the understairs cupboard ( which is in the kitchen) is my walk in larder.
Besides my DDs room is 32' long with fitted storage, so plenty room for things like tents.

I'd always give the child the bigger room. Except that we have glass doors in our bedroom. All we do in our room is sleep, they have toys, dens etc. Only my oldest who is nearly 8 spends time in his room though, my younger ones only play there in the mornings before we get up, unless I go and sit up there with them.

is your room a reasonable size as well Four? can't remember what you said earlier on the thread?

It's nowhere as big as DDs, big enough for a double bed, wardrobe, chest of drawers and table. All we need.

I think op has sorted it :o Her dd is 4 or 5 and an only child so doesn't need a refuge from siblings nor is she likely to want privacy yet, and her parents can't fit their wardrobe and drawers into the box room and the OP talked of keeping her clothes on the landing and getting dressed there!

A 4/5 year old only really can be very happy in a box room with a nice mid sleeper and space to play/ a den underneath!

I agree on the mess too - dd and DS2 have single rooms (not box rooms but not doubles) and ds1 has a huge but sloping ceilinged double (he has shared with ds2 on and off). He has a mid sleeper, a double mattress and a spare toddler bed in there as well as a huge desk and shelves and a drum kit - there's still loafs of floor space and somehow his room is always messier than the other kids' (though they're messy too...) even though he hardly spends any time in there, and when not outdoors or at friends' all 3 kids are usually in whatever room I'm in! DD and ds2 have never once wished they had ds1's room - it's only attraction to dd is that it has enough space to potentially have a lot of friends to sleep over at once - but I'd only allow more than 2 sleepover guests at once for birthdays anyway and dd has bunk beds for sleepovers which is less makeshift and better really.

Man people are possessive about their bedrooms

I've always given the biggest rooms to the kids in the past. Even now I'm in the box room and the boys have a double room each.

I'm loving the proper shock horror on this thread

The "pecking order" stuff is stupid but so is giving a 4 year old the double just incase she wants to hypothetically play up tjere with her future school friends resulting in two adults keeping their clothes on the landing.

If 2 kids share

Oops if 2 kids share it makes sense for a single parent to take the smaller room if they can fit their clothes in there... In the same way 2 adults share the larger room and one very little girl can more easily fit into the box room than 2 adults!

Sounds like OP has decided what is best for her family.

But the 'pecking order' stuff sounds weird to me. It's what works for us as a family.

DD has her room - the rest of the flat is for my stuff/adult space. Even though she has the biggest room, overall her stuff has the least space. With the small room her things would spill out all over (and she doesn't have many toys etc compared to her friends - I can't afford it for one thing, and she doesn't play with everything regularly as it is). But I want our living room to be somewhere I can invite friends without them tripping over toys.

Oh, the hamster is an exception - because although it is hers, she and her friends are still a bit too young to be unsupervised with the poor defenceless creature

I had the boxroom from about 7-10 and preferred that to a larger room. This was in the days before IKEA and my parents knew a family with a bunk bed on the top only (eg ladder up to it) - so I got one of those and my stuff was on the floor below (chest of drawers etc). I coped fine AND had room to play I think with my hamster too. Your DD will be fine.

I could not see how a double bed would fit in a box room easily - my DB's inlaws lived with them in a small double room/large single (very much on the small and large side though). and though they had room for a double I'm sure it was an IKEA small double bed.