About DP and hot drinks?

[tiredtothebone]

Every single time DP makes a hot drink for himself he leaves it on the side with the handle hanging over the edge. Every time I ask him to move it to the back out of reach or I do it myself. Our toddler is very mobile and all it would take is for her to pull it with her hand and she'll be badly injured, not to mention scarred for life.

I don't think I'm being a nag or unreasonable to ask. I scan every situation for possible hazards as I think every parent would.

What do you think?

Show him this thread.

Definitely not being unreasonable here!! Lots of good advice, I hope your DH can stop being childish and be a bit more responsible!

My Granny's sister died from burns a day after pulling a pan of boiling water over herself. We have been told the story over and over again. It only really sunk in after I had DS and I read the diary of another elderly relative who had witnessed it.

I am paranoid about it but I'd rather be paranoid than know I could have easily prevented DS being hurt if something did happen. Now DS is crawling and I am constantly having to leave what I am doing to stop him it has become even more apparent how easily I could know something off the side too.

Show your DH this thread, I totally understand that children should not be wrapped in cotton wool but to not change your ways at all is just stupid.

I hope he comes round, whether begrudgingly or understandingly!

He's being a cock and you shouldn't have to nag him to consider his own child's safety ffs.

Tell him to stop being such an arrogant twat and start acting like a responsible parent.

Honestly OP, if my DP continued to ignore me on this issue and repeatedly put my DD in danger then I think it would be a deal breaker for me.

Presumably he is not an idiot and realises things like boiling hot cups of tea can seriously harm a child so one can only assume his behaviour is a reflection of his sheer arrogance and contempt for being told what to do.

Puntastic, I did see what you wrote about the husband and the rest.

I am still shocked that you said you would ignore another parent calling you up on safety, "just because".

And IMO, the reason why he keeps doing what he does is because he is a twat who would rather ignore his wife trying to safeguard his own child (and ignore official safety recommendations too) just for a power trip.

Lweji, that's not quite what I said but never mind - I doubt we're going to connect on this thread so I'll leave it here.

And he's her partner, by the way, not her husband.

I can see that if I was in his shoes I might start feeling a bit determined to do things my own way Just Because.

My apologies, you said "might".

Which is completely different from would.

As opposed to everyone else who would never endanger their own kid's safety for the sake of point scoring.

Is your DP my ex H? Also did the fucking salt thing. Couldn't eat some soup he made one time for the amount of fucking salt in it. For him, it was about pissing me off and having an excuse to blow up when I said "please don't put salt in when cooking", he didn't give a shit that it was v v bad for my son.

And, my toddler scalded himself recently when I stupidly left a cup within his grasp. Was horrendous. He was absolutely fine but to see paramedics rushing in with oxygen. Awful. Your DP is a twat.

This reminds me of the time exH put way too much salt in the food and gaslighted (well tried to) me saying it was fine. The stupid wanker.

YANBU. Stupid and irresponsible to not even stop to think about whether it's dangerous after you've told him once.

Every time he does it, pour the contents down the sink. Don't engage in any discussion any more. He will soon learn.

Show him this - Amanda Redman, burned as a child by a pan.

Hope image is clear enough.

Accidents happen, so you minimise risk.

A close friend of mine's son was horrifically burned by a cup of milky tea which had been made 5 mins beforehand. His 13 month old skin had to be grafted from all over his body to attempt to repair the damage. He nearly died and still suffers from it a couple of years on and will be scarred for life.

Your DH is a twat.

I also had a friend who had a bad scar from a scalding burn during childhood.

Too many accidents happen already. Why take stupid risks? (that's for OP's partner, btw)

DH has scarred arm due to scald from boiling water from a pan when he was 3. It could have need a lot worse, it's ably 8"long and2" wide. From pulling a pan from the hob.

My ex bf had scars and skin grafts from an accident as a toddler involving pulling a teapot off a table.

I would show him this thread. He might be shocked to see how many people agree with you.

Also, get a stair gate for the kitchen. It's just not worth the risk.

Hi everyone, thanks again for all the replies. Judging by some of the replies it seems accidents like this sadly happen all too often. I have a stair gate on the kitchen now and will be showing him the thread tonight. It won't go down well but one more hot drink left on the side and I'll be binning the kettle, which should put an end to it if nothing else will.

You can also get a hob guard to at least limit the risk of pots falling on the children.

And to your DP: do you really want to risk seeing your child hurt for the sake of ignoring your wife?

tired - well done for sticking to your guns. How did it go?