To be absolutely gobsmacked by this wedding

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My friend is getting married in September. She is having a hen night in her local town, consisting of a meal and a few drinks. She is inviting 100 people to the wedding and all will be attending the ceremony, the meal and the party afterwards. She has not specified anything in relation to wedding presents, but if anyone rings her mum to enquire they have been told a gift voucher would be appreciated or have been given a list of small inexpensive things the couple need for their house and told anything off the list would be very welcome.
The wedding itself will consist of ceremony at lunchtime, followed by a meal in a local restaurant and then some dancing and access to the garden. There is no pre wedding dinners or post wedding barbecues.
The couple are paying for their honeymoon themselves.

AIBU to be shocked and taken aback by all this and to wonder what on earth is going on?

Unreasonable bastards giving you nothing to complain about or write MN poems in response to. You'd think they thought their wedding was for people to enjoy with them

Next thing they'll be having babies without showers and pushing presents

What's going on? where's the grabbiness? where's the greed? Where's the A list and B list and the moody bridezilla? Call this a modern wedding? Pah!

If I was invited to this wedding, I would put loads of money in a card and genuinely wish them well for being so bloody reasonable.

There's nothing here for me to get my teeth into. I'm off.

It won't be long before someone on here finds fault with it somewhere .

What madness is this????!!!!

DISCUSTING behaviour. I would go No Contact. Ugh.

She hasn't specified if the meal will be split equally or do people pay for what they've had? Don't worry, there is still time for it all to go horribly wrong.

Hmm. You haven't mentioned photographs. Thus us where us could all fail.

12345641 photographs while the guarding party is offered warm Echo Fails (25ml pp) plus a party back of cheesy wotsits to share until the Wedding Breakfast, seven abd a half hours after everybody's real breakfast?

Amirite?

There is still time for a bridezilla hissy fit!

See through the typos please. Sun is aglaring onto my notsofriffingsmartphone.

Just wait, juuust you wait. There will be no free booze and she won't send thank you cards the instant the wedding days over. Come back then when you have something to gloat about. Your words are useless to me.

Where's the fun in that? So inconsiderate*

*Of Mumsnetters

Very disappointing this, I was looking forward to a right good bridezilla to get us through the weekend. She's being very unreasonable.

Where's the unreasonable dress code?
Where's the ban on children and anyone with food allergies?

Unfortunately the ceremony is at 2pm and the meal is planned for 4.30. Which means that if the ceremony is over by 3 and it will take us about half an hour to chat outside the Church and then wander over to the hotel, there will only be an hour left until the meal. Just enough time to enjoy a relaxing glass of wine.
I can't understand why she's behaving like this

Yes, are children invited?

There will probably be a collection as you go in towards your meal and their honeymoon. Nothing under £100 per person will be accepted.

Next you'll be telling us that children are welcome and she's laid on an entertainer for them and is doing child-friendly meals at the reception, or something unbelievably inconsiderate like that. I hope she has at least specified an outlandish dress code?

You'll be telling us next that she not having a £5000 glittery princess dress, 16 bridesmaids in puce strapless frocks, 3 very small shy/screamy flower girls, no guest dress code and no three hour photography session while the guests stand outside in the rain. Some people!!!! What are they thinking of??

I would just send a polite note telling her that you can't go OP.

Explain that you wish her well, and understand that it's 'her day so her way' but be clear that the absence of a wedding poem detailing why they want everyone to give them cash, was the last straw and just makes the day untenable for you.

Next thing they'll be telling people it's ok to bring their kids

Leave the bastards!!!!

When finally you got a wedding invite, you could not even get your teeth in to a proper wedding thread berating the couple for their unreasonable-zilla behavior. What a shame! I feel your pain.

been done before.

Talk to the bridesmaids. If you're lucky they will all have been forced to spend £££ on something hideously unflattering that none of them will ever wear again.

We're not all fucking mental! Honest.

Although if you look at wedding brochures you'd think I'd spent the last 30 years waiting to wear a dress and mince about in a country estate.
I just want to feed and get everyone drunk and dance.