Or is it just as rude to tell someone they look much younger as it is I tell people they look much older?!

[BlueBananas]

I am 25, I look younger, always have, nothing I can do about it. I don't look that young as I don't get ID'd anymore, but I'm aware I don't look 25
But the amount of people that tell me I look "about 16 or 17" or that I don't look old enough to have kids, or that they thought I was "underage & pregnant" and find it hilarious is a fucking joke!
Eg. I met my mums friend for the first time a few weeks ago and I'm visibly pregnant, he said to me "you're pregnant? How old are you?!" I answered that I was 25, he said "oh God I thought you were about 16, you look so young!"! Who the fuck says this the first time they meet someone?! What if I was 16 and pregnant, what was he going to say?!
Another example my consultant at the hospital last week asked my age (read my fucking notes that are sat in front of you!) when I told him he said "oh God I thought you were about 18/19 I thought that was very young to be having a 3rd baby" if you knew it was my 3rd is it not pretty obvious that I'm younger than 18? And even if I was 19 were you about to tell me I was a massive slut?! I mean, what is peoples next line going to be??
Honestly I get these comments connnnstantly!

Can you imagine if I was horrified at someone's age and told them they looked at least 10 years older - that would be considered the height of rudeness, but it's ok the other way round??
No. It's not. It's fucking rude. So stop it all of you! Stop it stop it stop it!!!

I'm 45 and love it when people tell me I look far younger!
Although being a bit overweight I usually steal Eamon Holmes quote about there being no wrinkles on a balloon

its definitely just as rude YANBU.

Why exactly are women supposed to be happy they look younger than they are?

Oh it's misogynistic shit again isn't it.

I think it can be rude depending on the comments made. I look younger and regulary get comments but I am 22. Usually I don't mind it at all but I do mind if they mean it in a negative sense because of my parenting. Eg. At a museum with my toddler, we take him to a few, they are free and most are fun for him. Women commented on how young I looked and then said in a very pationising voice how great she thought I was to do educational things with my son since and I quote most young people do not know what a museum is

I mean really? I did reply it's only because the school took me to a museum last week

so it can be rude if you use age to stereotype someone or a younger parent.

Hmmm see I've had a baby face my whole life and although I've had the odd awkward moment, being asked for ID in the supermarket at 35 People are usually just being nice and the older I get the better that sounds! The examples the op gives do sound quite rude.

op It isn't uncommon to look 18 or whatever, in your early 20's.
It is your age bracket
If you are still getting unwanted attention in 10 years and you are still uptight about it etc... come back and repost.

I tried out some new foundation yesterday - added ten years straight away - highlighted every wrinkle I had and added an extra few (by drying out my skin) for good measure.
Would you like to know the brand ?
I'm sure lots of people have tips for the "reverse face lift" effect if youre serious..

God this again? I notice no one starts threads about how offended they are because someone thought they were 10 years older than they really are. Now why is that? Thinking I might start a thread about how beautiful and slim people are always saying I am and how it pisses me off!!!!

According to the age some people think I am I haven't aged in 23 years!

When I was 17 I looked older - about 25 people thought, it was fine, I never got ID.
I have now however, been stuck at that age for years it seems. I am 40 now and people still age me at 25 think they have an eyesight issue mind

I've just been away with DH who is 45, sat in a pub, got chatting to the locals as you do and they thought he was my dad!!!

You will be thankful for it when you hit middle age! I've always looked lot younger than my real age and am told I still do, tho to me there are 'giveaways'. I have shares in Waitrose baby butter so neck and hands arent an indicator, (yet) but my eyelids have definitely 'gone' ! Just be pleased you will probably age really well.

People do this to my mum when she is with me
They
Go
Oh
My God! That's not your daughter? No! You look so young (I think this bit is ok)
We're you a gym slip mum (or similar)

She is always pissed off about it. I don't think she minds people saying she looks young, it's the insinuation she was a teenage mum (and my gran, her mum was a teenage mum btw. It's the shock that it's something awful )

Were, not we're
Why do kindles change words

I envy all you people who look younger! I'm 25 too, and I've had several people react with shock when I tell them my age because they assumed I was older

I agree with you though - I think it's very rude of them to comment in relation to the number of children you have.

I'm constantly asked for ID,I get mistaken for my oldest son's(19) girlfriend by people who don't know us.

People presume that my Husband is older than me,he's not he's 7 years younger.I've been asked numerous times if I'm a childminder when I've been out with my own children.When I explain that all 5 are my children I get asked if I'm the step mum or people presume that only 3 are mine and that I must have had a child at 13,I didn't I was 21.

When anyone knocks the door doing a survey,selling stuff ect they ask if my Mum or Dad is in,I am the Mum usually makes them do a double take.

My DH has to ring up to order takeaways ,because the last time I tried to do it they said an adult had to place the order .I'm 40 and my husband is 33.

It can be embarrassing some times when people presume that DH is our oldest child's Dad and they presume I'm oldest son's girlfriend or big sister.

But I've kind of come to expect now to be honest so it doesn't bother me any more.

I take after my parents my Dad's coming up to 80 years old and people don't believe that he's even reached 60 yet.

So for me I think people are probably always going to presume I'm younger than I actually am

Some 18 year olds do have multiple children. It doesn't mean they are sluts.

Am I the only one who would dearly love to see a photo of the OP?

Yes! I would too. I don't think she can look that young as most 25 year olds are still asked for ID. I was asked for ID until late 30s, but I have a very fat face (love that balloon quote!)

ruledby must be a witch, I was due to be born on Halloween LMAO!

I have been know to tell door step sellers "my mums not in"

To be fair, 25 with three kids is ridiculous so if you told me you had three kids I'd assume you were MUCH older!

it is rude when you are young... its a patronising thing to say!

it is rude when you are older because its like saying being (e.g. 40) is old and well done for not looking 40 yet

especially in the way youve described i.e. the former example, i agree op!!

YANBU
I used to hate getting mistaken for the trainee at work unless I dressed like an old battleaxe.
I hated people assuming I had gone straight from school to motherhood when I had in fact had a 15 year career in between.
I hate people assuming I only have one toddler when I in fact have 2 teenagers as well.
Do not mind in the least being taken for the grumpy middle aged woman I am.
DD1 aged 14 is getting a bit fed up of being taken for DD3's Mum though

Fuck's sake Nixen
Did you mean to be so rude?

It is rude. Generally only done to women. It's usually a power thing, to put you down. It's rarely someone complementing, it's usually a PA way of saying "you don't look competent at your job" or "are you a feckless teen mum. It's to put you in your place.