AIBU or is this cheeky?

[Bulldogclip]

I took some photos at a get together at the weekend. I put them on FB and tagged the people in it. One of the tagged people has used one of my pics as their profile pic without so much as a "like" or asking permission on mine. Lots of their friends are now commenting on their picture that it's a "brilliant shot" and their silence (rather than crediting me) is making people think they took it! This hasn't happened to me before (keen amateur photographer). Am I really going to have to water mark all my photos?!

[SocialMediaAddict]

Madness.

[Raines100]

I think people have misunderstood. Surely the op meant her friend's previous profile pic was of her own children? I'm sure the op didn't mean her profile pic was of her friend's children!

[gobbin]

I would be pissed off that you'd tagged me in pics without my permission. The fact that my kids were in it and you've shared it willy-nilly would also piss me off. However, I would not bleat about it, and especially not in a massive online forum, I'd just un-tag myself.

[cranberryx]

I would just put 'thanks for using my photo!' With a big smiley face. Better to be gracious and thank her and hopefully people will check out your other photos to show off your photography skills.

Next time just watermark the bottom of your photos with your Instagram/twitter handle - I doubt people think this woman took it, but I do get it when you want to take something up professionally and other people try and take credit for work, even if other people say it's harmless!

[bigmouthstrikesagain]

Odd response op. I take pictures of other people sometimes and post them on FB. If the people tagged really liked the photo and used it as a profile pic then I would be flattered. Just as I am when a pic I share gets lots of likes from people who aren't my friends but are friends of people tagged.

If I was a photographer and wanted to get money or recognition for my work I would not post and tag photos on social media without a watermark. I can't imagine feeling annoyed by positive comments about a photo I took when if they not directly attributed to me. So I think yabu sorry.

[Gem124]

I agree that's it's absolutely the wrong thing to post a picture of someone else's children. And tbh regardless of what the picture is once you've tagged someone on Facebook they can do what the want.

[firesidechat]

Facebook
With over a billion users, Facebook is the definitive homepage for many web users. Its terms of service, data use and cookie use policy span more than 14,000 words over eight separate pages and would take even the quickest reader more than two hours to dig through. But what rights have you handed over to Facebook?
Specifically for photos and video uploaded to the site, Facebook has a license to use your content in any way it sees fit, with a license that goes beyond merely covering the operation of the service in its current form. Facebook can transfer or sub-license its rights over a user’s content to another company or organisation if needed. Facebook’s license does not end upon the deactivation or deletion of a user’s account, content is only released from this license once all other users that have interacted with the content have also broken their ties with it (for example, a photo or video shared or tagged with a group of friends).

This is a quote from a Telegraph article form 2013. If it is still correct, then you may still own the copyright to your photos op, but you have also handed them over to Facebook to do what they wish with. Hope I haven't got that wrong.

I have a Facebook page which I never use and I personally think that once you have put photos onto social media and tagged people in it, then you can't moan about the consequences later.

Can I also just mention that with modern day cameras everyone is an budding photographer. Even I can take pretty good looking snaps these days whereas previously I cut the heads off of most of my pictures.

Another thing. I hate getting tagged in other peoples photos on Facebook and I would have had your guts for garters if you had posted pictures of my children when they were young.

[DoJo]

If I have taken pics of someone else's children then I send them as private messages - I wouldn't post them publicly or tag them as I think it's up to the parents to control how and where images of their children appear online.

[Purplepixiedust]

Yabu. If you post on facebook and tag someone how can you have an issue with them using or sharing the pic?! You are offended they didn't click like? Obviously they like it if they are using it as their profile pic! If someone did this to me, I would be flattered and pleased they liked the pic.

[Purplepixiedust]

I post pics of friends kids as do they of mine. I wouldn't do it with srtangers kids or people who don't put pics of their kids up.

[cedricsneer]

Yabu

[Bulldogclip]

These are people that are happy for photos of their children to be on FB in various stages of undress up to and including stark naked. There was no issue with me putting the photo on FB or with tagging them - it's what we do. I just thought it impolite of them to take the photo without any thanks and use it as a profile picture. Clearly not much of the world agrees. That's fine. That's why I asked.

[Loopylala7]

YABU you put a photo of your friend on FB, tagged her without asking (grey area with regard to cheekiness) then she doesn't ask to use your photo of her as her profile... take it as a compliment and move on - besides, if it is of her surely its obvious she didn't take it?

[Bulldogclip]

It isn't of her.

[Appleblossom82]

Its a bit off to not like it or even comment but its not a big deal. I just wouldnt bother again if i were you.

[WyrdByrd]

These are people that are happy for photos of their children to be on FB

They put them on their own page knowing exactly what kind of privacy settings they have in place. If someone else puts a pic of their kids on their Facebook page it could be that it is accessible by anyone (as I discovered when my 70-something Mum got FB and I suddenly noticed randoms commenting on pics of my DD ).

Tbh I very much doubt it's even occurred to them that it is an issue - if someone posted a photo of me/DD on FB and tagged me in it I'd assume they were happy for me to share it.

I appreciate it's galling that they are now getting the credit for taking a lovely photo, but you are being really precious.

[BitterChocolate]

If it really bothers you (and it wouldn't bother me in the slightest), then post "You're welcome, they look great in it." Everyone will assume that they have thanked you (only they will know that you are being passive-aggressive), and everyone will know that you took it.

Then the next time they ask you to take a photo of anyone in their family make sure you cut the heads off, they are squinting into the sun or have their skirt tucked into their knickers.

[Appleblossom82]

I also wouldn't be happy with people posting pics of my kids on social media without permission.

[Summerisle1]

YABU.

I'm a photographer and any image that I put on FB I accept may be shared or used as a profile picture. Especially if I tag the people in the picture and to be honest, that's the whole point of sharing them on FB. Occasionally people will ask whether they might use a specific picture for their profile and I agree and thank them for asking. I only get annoyed when people download my images from Facebook and then put them in their own Facebook albums. That's bloody cheeky and I've pulled people up about it.

Any images that I don't want used in this way I keep off Facebook and instead, use my own website which has decent photo protection systems. I advise you to do similarly, OP, if you don't want your pictures shared or used in the manner that Facebook makes so readily available.

[TheWitTank]

But you gave them the photo when you tagged them! You are effectively saying it's fine for them to use and that the photo is theirs too (their name is on the photo) -I would have thought the 'thanks' was clearly evident as they have used the photo as a profile picture. I don't mean to be rude, but there are literally thousands of amateur photographers about. Anyone with a semi decent camera, or even a decent mobile can take a pretty good photo and touch it up/edit it with free photo shop programs or apps. I doubt anyone or very few people give a shit who has taken it, or would even notice if it was watermarked. A lot of people saying the photo is nice will be referring to the children featured, not the composition of the photo. You are over thinking this -the person hasn't intended to be rude or impolite. Shrug it off, don't put anything else on Facebook or put your name on everything you do. Carry on enjoying your photography!

[NickiFury]

Yet again MN manages to surprise me with what some people get worked up about. It would not cross my mind to be bothered about this.

[mindthegap79]

Yabu.

[VerityWaves]

I don't think you get the concept of social media
YABU

[Notso]

YABU. Very odd to need a virtual 'like' rather than just taking the fact it's been used as a sign that the person, y'know likes it.

[MissDemelzaCarne]

YABU.