about my BiL & my sons christening

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Going to give as little detail as possible in order to not cloud peoples opinion. Basically BiL was asked to be godfather for my son who is being christened in 2 weeks. He accepted. Its a special day and a formal occasion. At my insistence my dh contacted him and asked him (a) to wear a suit & (b) to shave off his (scraggy) beard (not being grown for religious/work reasons). He texted back saying he'd wear as suit but wouldn't shave and we could ask someone else if that was what we wanted. So I did ask someone else & texted BiL to tell him I had asked someone else and see you there on the day. He said himself & his family wouldn't be there. I said that's a pity but see you another time. WIBU ?

Reverse or not, shouldn't these conversations taken place at least on the phone, or better still in person? Texting, especially when its a contentious issue can only make matters worse.

What if the priest/vicar/minister has a beard? Will it not count t or will he (if a he) be replaced as well?

Beards can be perfectly formal.

Family fallout because of a beard? Wow!

Op your behaviour on this thread is really odd. A very controversial op that was bound to make people respond, then just a very cryptic
ok thanks everyone.

Any more information? We're all a bit bemused.

I always say 'this is jam hot' when I see your name, BoyFromTheBigBadCity

Grrrr what an irritating thread

I am marking place for a better update imagining the conversation a few years from now when the DC asks how his Godfather was selected.

Is he catweasel? Even if he came like this, still very off of you, if you don't mind me saying

Yabvu.

YANBU to not want him as gf with long hair, Corinthians 11:14

"Does not nature itself teach you that if a man wears long hair it is a disgrace for him"

So that's fine, but you simply shouldn't've asked.

Yadbu!

I dont reckon this is a reverse as she called the beard scragglily!

I think your bil had a lucky escape, Imagine how controlling you'll be towards him if he was godfather... "Don't chew gum infront on ds"... "Don't wear those shoes around ds".... "You must take ds out every weekend to a funfair"

How religious are you?

I hope you have a Brazilian. And that people will check whilst you're stood at the font.

Wow talk about getting your values wrong - sounds like you only want god parents who meet your expectation of what a nice photo looks like, as opposed to you know, a suitable person to offer guidance and support to your son throughout his life. I don't blame him for not wanting to come, and tbh it sounds like you have completely missed the point of a Christening and what it's meant to represent.

Ha ha ha, op got busted this was a reverse and legged it.

Could they have won either way Ffs? Obviously a twat if not a reverse, but if it was the bil don't see what was that wrong with it being a bloody reverse... Some are better than the morons who think it's cute to write the post as a fucking cat

Or as a toddler, what a waste of time

What the actual fuck?
Go and get yourself a potted plant, strap it to your head, leave it there for at least 24 hours to replace the oxygen you wasted in A- Giving your BIL such a stupid request and B- posting this post.

However, If this is a reverse, Bring a potted plant to your DN's christening and strap it to your SIL's head. Refer back to the original steps and adjust accordingly

Couldn't you just have made the ceremony Amish themed fancy dress?

This thread surely has to be a joke?

Suit - fair enough it is normal to request a dress code at am occasion.

The beard request and subsequent replacement is totally unreasonable! Why would you do this to your family - not only treating them badly but from your perspective - notwithstanding how bad you should feel about the insult to you bil - you will have to spend a lot of years at family gatherings with bil - surely for the sake of family relations and your own comfort within his family you would have to be stupid or malicious to do that.

Strapping a pot plant to your head doesn't replace oxygen. The plant produces as much oxygen, whether it's on your head, or somewhere else. Except, of course, if it's in a dark place, when it doesn't produce any oxygen.

OP please update! Are you sending a grovelling apology to BIL as we type??

YABU.

I feel sorry for BIL to be dumped over his facial hair, he might have an ineffectual chin.
chinless wonder