about my BiL & my sons christening

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Going to give as little detail as possible in order to not cloud peoples opinion. Basically BiL was asked to be godfather for my son who is being christened in 2 weeks. He accepted. Its a special day and a formal occasion. At my insistence my dh contacted him and asked him (a) to wear a suit & (b) to shave off his (scraggy) beard (not being grown for religious/work reasons). He texted back saying he'd wear as suit but wouldn't shave and we could ask someone else if that was what we wanted. So I did ask someone else & texted BiL to tell him I had asked someone else and see you there on the day. He said himself & his family wouldn't be there. I said that's a pity but see you another time. WIBU ?

Really?

Is this real?

Honestly, you are being so utterly and completely unreasonable.

I'm not surprised your BiL reacted as he did. You ditched him as a godparent over his beard, how did you think he'd react to such a petty and vindictive move? You and your husband have some serious grovelling to do, and pronto, before the rift becomes irreparable.

Unbelievable, really unbelievable.

Is this a reverse? If not YABAC

You know Jesus had a beard, right?

What's more important to you - your version of a nice photo, or your faith?

Seems obvious which one to me. In which case, maybe reconsider whether a christening is for you?

Gotta be a reverse surely? If not then of course YABU.

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mollypolly a reverse is where the other party in the post (the BIL in this case) writes the post as though from the other POV.

It adds to the confusion.

YABU, you should have made your requirements clear when you asked BIL to be godfather.

I can see why he isn't best pleased to have this sprung upon him two weeks before the christening.

Incidentally, may I just mention that a christening, as an important religious occasion, should be more about the spiritual qualities of the godparents rather than their physical appearance.

ok thanks everyone

So is this not a reverse Aibu?

YABU! Shave off your hair, your cousin likes you better bald.

Wouldn't like it, would you?

YABU. His facial hair has no effect on his ability to be a godparent!!!
Reverse maybe??

YABU if you actually did this and YABU if this is a reverse.

It is very unreasonable to ask an adult to shave their beard off.

You can't ask someone to shave off their beard to suit you, any more than you could ask them to grow one to suit you, or to cut or grow their hair.

You owe him a massive apology. Otherwise you may have a family rift, and you'll never live it down.

Wow!

'ok thanks everyone'

Is that the best you can do?

OP, does he look like this?

The "work/relugious readons" comment make me think it's not a reverse after all.
How funny!
What state are the godmother's eyebrows in!

Nothing quite like demonstrating your christian spirit through love and acceptance . YABU and you've probably damaged your relationship with them permanently!

There MUST be more to this so I'm place marking to find out

ok thanks everyone
Really? Your post one of the most ridiculous questions ever, and this is your only response?!

Seriously? You asked him to shave off his beard? And then asked someone else? Do you have any idea what a christening is about?

Oh, come back and tell us that your husband is the beardy one, please

Is he a hipster type. Does he live in Shoreditch?

I don't think Jesus ever shaved his beard.