to think that people who are well enough to volunteer stewarding at Festivals every single weekend are well enough to work?

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Person has never worked due to MH and back pain - both of which are directly linked to morbid obesity.
Tells the MH people they are agarophobic, but seem OK in a field all weekend every weekend

and are thus getting into festivals for free when other people have to pay

the whole lot being funded by benefits.

The person is nice enough but if I put it on my FB feed they will see and realise I'm being judgy.
But am I being unreasonable to be annoyed?

Is this person being paid or working for free, and is it the same security company each time?

BeyondTheWall I believe you're correct.

messedup
from the pictures I saw, the yellow vests have the name of the festival
and they are definitely doing it for free for a free ticket - there are not many paid jobs at small festivals
or at big festivals ....
www.festaff.co.uk/festival-info/bestival

beyond
maybe there is more to the claim, but they are also able to work hard for 20+ hours a week, every week for half the year, planning ahead.
Maybe they were bullshitting about the level of their allowances, but they sure as heck have never worked.

I volunteer my time whilst on sickness benefits. There is a huge difference between sometimes bring able to do something and holding down a job.

OP: It's fairly obvious that you are neither a health care professional, a DWP assessor, or close enough to this individual to actually know the his/her health specifics.

So you are really just a self-righteous, bigoted arsehole who thinks this person should be made to suffer more than s/he already does.
Butt the fuck out and get a life.

Only on MN do so many people seem to have distance acquaintances who share so much information about their finances and the level of their disability.

Bar my partner, one parent and a close friend, I have not disclosed that I have been receiving DLA for years. Why would I? Equally, I am very private about my medical information and the struggles. I don't go around advertising that I need help wiping my arse.

Someone with mental health problems may be advised to volunteer, it gives a sense of purpose and keeps them busy. Volunteering is working for no pay it's hardly fun either. Do you work for free?
How is her MH problem caused by her being overweight?

Well to be fair,thanks to facebook, we all know far more about friends family and acquaintances than ever before!

You know what people choose to share on social media. I purposefully only share a very small portion of my life. I know I am not alone.

Original poster where did you get your medical degree from to judge someone's ability to work?

Solid gold brass high five to your post.

Not sure why anybody thinks I ever purported to be DWP / medic / any of that guff.
I also never listed causes and effects, just observed situations.

My information is merely what the person's FB / family / friends / they themselves told me.
Some of you may keep your income streams secret, this person does not.

And people do tend to discuss their finances with me because of my line of work.
I offer lots and lots of information for free - my pro bono hours run at about 10 a week.

It was clearly AIBU to expect analytical thought on this particular board.
I'll retreat back to the sensible parts of MN.

Yu can't know someone's life at all, no-one can.
I was signed off work last year with a slipped disc due to rapid weight loss (8 stone) and stewarding at a festival was the only thing that kept me going mentally in 6 months of being unable to do anything at all.

It was bloody hard - they made SIGNIFICANT arrangements for me as I had a walking stick and couldn't move fast / carry anything and I was ridiculously slow due to being up to my eye-balls on strong prescription painkillers. But i did it to feel valid, human, like I wasn't missing out.

You'll be pleased to know I'm now not 'morbidly obese' nor am I sitting on my arse and not working so possibly you'll listen to what I have to say.
Delete your friend from fb, you sound like you don't like them at all, and they surely don't need a 'friend' like you cowarding behind anonymity on this forum.

'My information comes from the persons fb/family and friends and themselves'

So you gossiping about someone's health with friends of friends and so it must be true if a friend says it.

YABU.

My sister is one of these people to everybody else she is fine. She isnt though she has major anxiety. She has worked and cant hold down a job, she will not work with anyone who has been sick or feels sick. The anxiety for her is too much. So on the face of it whilst they might seem fine you have no fucking idea just what they might be going through.

Hey OP do you want to have a look at my Facebook? There's photos of me walking dogs, out for lunch with my dn, funny comments, likes, birthday wishes. I haven't worked for two years. Am I taking the piss?

P.s. I recently lost my husband, I'm on antidepressants and beta blockers, in mental hell and clinging on to my sanity by my finger nails. You wouldn't know if you were talking to me, as I am an expert at putting a face on, after years of judgy pricks thinking they know me.

You wanted 'analytical thought'? Pahaha.
No. You wanted to bitch about your Facebook friend.

I have a physical disability that affects my mobility. We sometimes drive somewhere and look at lovely countryside views. You can take photos that make it look as if you are in the middle of nowhere. I would never post these on facebook as I could imagine some idiot assuming I had went for a walk in the countryside, and so was faking my disability.

As has already been said: report, and let the professionals decide.

Im beginning to think there's a self-appointed Disability Watch Brigade out there. Should you be on benefits due to a disability then any signs of HAVING A BIT OF FUN as opposed to looking ill every day of your life then there they are, spying on your life & FB page looking for ways to catch you out and report you.

It always amazes me how much people know about their friends' financial lives especially on here, and how much envy it causes. Is a conversation about it instigated due to nosiness?

Its a good reminder to keep one's business to oneself, not everybody who proclaims to be your friend actually is. The OPs friend has had it now...a thread full of people not actually agreeing one and all that her friend is way out of order, not calling her a cheat and all the names under the sun, will whip OP up into a frenzy. Suppose friend has a hidden disability? Not all disabilities are physical. & its not easy to get a disability benefit at all.

I bet when friend is investigated OP will land like a Jonah, complete with Daily Mail sadface and hypocritical handwringing sympathy...

I used to be ten stone heavier. It wrecked my confidence because i knew what ppl were thinking............because they TOLD me. Back then i didnt want to socialise.

So i can certainly see how being obese could lead to agoraphobia.

Worth knowing that many back problems leave the person unable to sit, and that standing is actually far more comfortable.

Yabu. I wouldn't share the intricacies of my health and income to someone who 'challenged' me at a party.

Helena you lost ten stone? Wow, well done, you must have immense grit. Is it nosey to ask how long that took?

Almost two years initially between 2002 and 2004.

Gave up smoking in 2005 plus being on lower income saw me regain 4 stone slowly over time then ive spent the last two years losing that regain.

Thanks Maggie

Two years? Wow again.