AIBU?
... never to go out with ExH again?
MagicalHamSandwich · 05/07/2015 20:56
The ex and I are reasonably good friends and we meet on a semi-regular basis.
So today is sweltering hot and I run into him at the local lido. We're both on our own. Great, let's grab a pint at their bar!
The bar is not exactly the Ivy but it's definitely the 'posh' one of the two places at the lido and features some (hideous IMHO) supposedly Italian style décor including an array of lemon trees.
So we're sitting at a table on the terrace when ex spots a lemon tree with two still green lemons behind him and promptly proceeds to pick one of them off the tree. The manager walks by, sees him, informs him in a really annoyed tone that he's not to do that and takes the lemon off him.
At that point I'm already really embarrassed and apologise. Not so ex, who starts to argue and tries to explain to the woman that it's his right to take the lemon seeing as he paid for a drink. She calls him a moron, he calls her a fucking cunt and before I know it I've been thrown out of the lido on account of his behaviour and banned for the summer. 
Ex then accused me of being a stuck up bitch for not taking his side. Needless to say, I was absolutely mortified!
I've never seen him do this in public though he did often behave in a similar way when we were married (back then it usually pertained to him feeling entitled to grope me and getting pissed off when I said no).
AIBU to regard this as sort of a friendship deal breaker? He's just so incredibly entitled - and thanks to him I'll have to find a new lido!
MagicalHamSandwich · 05/07/2015 21:05
I don't really feel I have to ask. It's just that ex is so absolutely convinced that he's in the right that I'm now somewhat uncertain and worrying this may just be my leftover resentment over my marriage speaking.
He is being a total wanksock, though, isn't he?
SnapesCapes · 05/07/2015 21:10
Calling anyone a fucking cunt is entirely friendship deal-breaker material. Unless they shot him or set him on fire. Which is potentially how he's going to end up if he doesn't stop being such a bollock jockey.
You sound lovely. New lido, new friend I think. And block his bloody number.
MagicalHamSandwich · 05/07/2015 21:42
That's how I'm trying to see it, yes. His enormous sense of entitlement is one the main reasons I left him.
I just don't get it. It's a lemon FFS. Ex is a professional and makes a very decent salary. There's no reason why he can't buy himself a whole sack full of unripe lemons!
Same attitude towards his jobs: he's got great qualifications but never stays anywhere longer than a year because he feels he should be respected more and promoted faster. He applied to my firm after I got my second promotion in as many years and told them at the interview he wanted to start a level above mine. They didn't take him - good on them!
I just don't get it! But, yes, I'm currently feeling very glad he's my ExH and very inclined to make him an ex-friend, too!
SolidGoldBrass · 05/07/2015 21:48
What a cock! Definitely cut him off - as you don't have DC you are under no obligation to have anything to do with him ever again.
If you really love that lido and there isn't another one nearby, you could try emailing them a big apology, explaining he's your XH and his behaviour has reminded you exactly why you divorced him...
MagicalHamSandwich · 05/07/2015 21:51
Yes, a lido is an open air swimming place. The one in question is at a lake side, not a pool.
And, FWIW, I've never actually been to the Ivy (and don't particularly want to go). I'm an admitted snob when it comes to hotels on account of having slaved away at some of London's finest in my uni days - the description of the lido bar was simply for background, though. Lidos around here range from seriously dodgy to MC fortress. The one I (used to ... ) frequent happens to be an in-between and was chosen due to its proximity to my flat.
Gabilan · 05/07/2015 21:55
"you could try emailing them a big apology, explaining he's your XH and his behaviour has reminded you exactly why you divorced him..."
And add in that you'd really like to go back there as you can guarantee that you won't bump into him, what with him being banned. You have nothing to lose.
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