... never to go out with ExH again?

[MagicalHamSandwich]

The ex and I are reasonably good friends and we meet on a semi-regular basis.

So today is sweltering hot and I run into him at the local lido. We're both on our own. Great, let's grab a pint at their bar!

The bar is not exactly the Ivy but it's definitely the 'posh' one of the two places at the lido and features some (hideous IMHO) supposedly Italian style décor including an array of lemon trees.

So we're sitting at a table on the terrace when ex spots a lemon tree with two still green lemons behind him and promptly proceeds to pick one of them off the tree. The manager walks by, sees him, informs him in a really annoyed tone that he's not to do that and takes the lemon off him.

At that point I'm already really embarrassed and apologise. Not so ex, who starts to argue and tries to explain to the woman that it's his right to take the lemon seeing as he paid for a drink. She calls him a moron, he calls her a fucking cunt and before I know it I've been thrown out of the lido on account of his behaviour and banned for the summer.

Ex then accused me of being a stuck up bitch for not taking his side. Needless to say, I was absolutely mortified!

I've never seen him do this in public though he did often behave in a similar way when we were married (back then it usually pertained to him feeling entitled to grope me and getting pissed off when I said no).

AIBU to regard this as sort of a friendship deal breaker? He's just so incredibly entitled - and thanks to him I'll have to find a new lido!

[crustsaway]

You do now sound like a nice person.

My advice is cut all contact now.

Stop "wondering" why he's the way he is, its a hiding to absolutely nowhere and makes you vulnerable enough to keep an avenue open.

The definition of madness is to keep repeating the same thing wanting a different outcome.

[SylvaniansAtEase]

he's got great qualifications but never stays anywhere longer than a year because he feels he should be respected more and promoted faster

You mean, in every job, after they've had a year of getting to know him they neither respect him nor wish to promote him? How very strange. I can't imagine what is going wrong...

[IUseAnyName]

Which country do you live in?.... Trying to imagine lemons r
Trees growing in uk

[MagicalHamSandwich]

I'm British but I've lived and worked in Switzerland for three years now.

ExH moved us here because he had a job. I liked it and have stayed.

Lots of lemon trees, lakes and rivers to swim in and tons of very nice places to go and enjoy nature. I love it!

[IUseAnyName]

Sounds fab!

[MagicalHamSandwich]

And their trains run on time!!!

Apparently they get a penalty for being more than three minutes late. To a Londoner like me it's like dying and going to bloody public transport heaven!