breastfeeding in the supermarket

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Ok so I'm all for breastfeeding and think all mums should (assuming mother/baby are able to) but WALKING AROUND SAINSBURYS breastfeeding. . . Seriously? ?

Maybe it's only me that's shocked and I am not a mum myself if that makes a difference.
Don't get me wrong I certainly disagree with mums being ushered into toilets and the like but I felt a bit of modesty could have avoided awkwardness for both mum and others she may come across.

I have no issue with nudity either, i enjoy sunbathing topless and strolling around my home in various states of undress but I couldn't imagine ever feeling comfortable doing this myself

The last thing I expected on a Saturday afternoon trip to sainsburys was to round the corner of an aisle to come face to face with a woman with her top down and FULL BOOB OUT (I saw nipple and all!) strolling down the home entertainment aisle feeding baby. Yes I know this is what they are intended for but when men aren't allowed to enter shirtless is this not a bit much? Had she been sat outside the store on the benches or in a cafe (if they had one) I guess i or anyone else wouldn't have batted an eyelid

Just interested in others opinions

Is this taking things a bit far or perhaps it is just a multitasking achievement extraordinaire?

Finally!!! A thread where I can stick that photo I found online.

I also got a dirty look from a woman who was changing her baby's nappy when I was breastfeeding my 6 mo DD in John Lewis' bf room Fucking weirdo

Look away.

That is all.

Gently The words I used were for the OP, to challenge her perspective.

I would choose different words to support a woman unable to breastfeed.

Lady

personally, I hope someday we can be a society where nowhere is an "inappropriate" place to breastfeed a child. she wasn't taking a shit on aisle 3 - she was just feeding her baby in a healthy and natural way.

I certainly formula fed my children wherever it suited me, including in grocery stores.

fgs op please get over yourself! The world does not revolve around you.

I have huge respect for women who manage to breastfeed and multitask (sling feeding sounds amazing but they look quite complicated?) It's a skill believe me!

So here's a grip op.. and a biscuit to help you with the shock of someone feeding their child in your presence

Hamster - yes that's the case for you but for me personally it isn't (only as I don't have childen) I was simply responding to a remark as to topless sunbathing being uneccesary

The original - no not at all I'm simply preempting questions re where it is or isn't ok and I may want to avoid tan lines but not over and above respecting local laws and customs

Those who said it is tacky and uneccesary I'd be interested to know your reasoning behind the tacky/uneccesary angle

Saul, you can feel how you want about it. It's not 'deadly' serious though. It's a debate, difference of opinions. No one has died. The language used is not always a 'linguistic reprensentation' of how people feel about the subject. I'm generally pro-breastfeeding, but I still used the word I did. And it's actually ok to see breasts as sexual sometimes (I'm not just talking about perverts), not the end of the world. What there needs to be, is more education on both matters. Yes, breast is best for baby, it's generally healthier, but no woman should be shamed for not doing it either. That does happen, and I think that problem is getting worse. If a woman choses not to use her breasts for their natural purpose, she should not be made to feel bad about it. So many go on and on about how brilliant they are for whipping out a boob, yes perhaps they are, but whilst your all busy self congratulating, you forget there are other issues other than ' I can do what I want, when I want, no matter who I offend, because I am a nursing mother'.

OP you can feel uncomfortable all day long. Lots of perfectly legal things happen that make me uncomfortable, I suck it up and get on with my day. Your discomfort doesn't trump my right to feed my child where I see fit, happily for me.

I have breastfed whilst walking round doing the supermarket weekly shop. Soooo handy, gives baby the extra patience they need to get to the end of the shopping trip!!

I haven't had children and I still find the OP's attitude something I can't support.

Friend I don't understand, personally, how that was meant to 'challenge her perspective', but if so, ok. You are on an open forum though, so I guess it could have been misread by someone struggling with breastfeeding, was my thought.

Im only planning to bf in private in front of my dh!

You are going to be housebound and lonely for quite a few months then

I didn't have a problem with breast feeding in front of anyone and if they didn't want to see it then they shouldn't have visited.

The first time I had to BF in public in close contact with strangers was in my GP surgery when DS was 5 months. Believe me apple, when you are out and about with a hungry and crying BF baby they are not going to patiently wait for you to scuttle off back home so you can breast feed in private

Yes, breastfeeding whilst walking around the supermarket is perfectly reasonable. Anywhere a mother and breastfed infant are together is the right place, and any time they want to is the right time.

OP, you need to accept it. Adjust your thinking so that you have a rightful attitude to breastfeeding and find it so normal and usual that you never notice it going on.

I'd be impressed, couldn't do it myself sitting in a chair

yabu

MrsGentlyBenevolent- the NHS refer to formula feeding as artificial feeding so I can't see the problem
Doing so here.

To the poster who will only feed in front of her husband- you are going to make BF very hard for yourself and if you genuinely expect to do this BF is unlikely to work out for you I'm afraid. You'd have to stay in all the time which may well lead to depression and isn't good for the baby.
Obviously the midwives and other medical staff will need to see your beasts to show you how to feed.

I can however recommend breast feeding covers- mamas and papas do some great ones so you can feed in public without anyone seeing a thing

Nice one mrstwee!
Righteous

Another 'I support breastfeeding but...' post. So in this case it's fine bit only if done in accordance with the OP's personally defined concept of what's 'appropriate' or 'modest'.

If you accept breastfeeding is not immodest (whatever the fuck thay means), rather just a baby eating (which it is), then why would doing it while shopping be appropriate?

Would bottle feeding a baby be inappropriate while shopping? No, so why would breastfeeding be considered so?

Have done it..... Will do it again.... and certainly won't be giving a seconds thought about it. Troll

YABU. I've fed walking round tesco. Sometimes they need a feed, get over it.

I fully appreciate other people may rightly or wrongly not like seeing it, but they should also fully appreciate that they are invited to go fuck themselves if they think I'm going to put their ridiculous embarrassment above the fact that my baby needs feeding while I have shit to do.

The midwife will have to see your beasts

Obviously the midwives and other medical staff will need to see your beasts to show you how to feed.

Great typo Rave

Well, I bottle-fed all three of my children. Tried bf, had a horrendous time of it. Not remotely offended by FriendofBill's choice of words. I rather suspect that MrsGently is attempting to divide posters into bf v ff here as a disingenuous way of detracting/derailing.

Not falling for it.

Oooo beasts is such a good word for tits. I'm Claiming it

Question for OP - if you were in Sainsburys and had a screaming hungry baby and a trolley full of grocerys and your baby refused bottles what would you have done? Because I for one have been inthat situation (plus did not drive to the supermarket as I lived a 20 min walk away). Excuse me if I missed it earlier but what would you have done??