To take my DD out of school for a week or so

[Haily111]

A bit of background info:
Had a DS 10 weeks ago. He is lovely, but is hard work in so far that he feeds little and often and is a very unsettle baby. I also have a DD 9 years old and DS 2 years old.
I moved from Germany to UK when i was 18 and have lived here ever since. My parents and sibling still live in Germany. I miss my mom and dad so very very much.
I suffer from anxiety and depression and have been on Sertraline for quite a few years. In the last month i have felt extremely low, to the point when my other half comes home i am in tears every single day ð??? I am just not coping.
I want to be able to give my other half a break, but also need support, which i could have with my mom and dad for a week.
There is probably a load more info, which you need, but i cant think straight x

[987flowers]

I can assure you that children in the schools I work in are still working! I hate this attitude that for the last 3 weeks bugger all happens.

BUT I still think you should take her out! You sound like you all need the support.

[StarlingMurmuration]

Do it, it won't do her any harm and it'll do you a world of good. I hope you feel better soon, OP

[oolaroola]

Definitely go, and trust yourself to make the best decisions for you family, not the daft arbitrary rules that have been put in place by dogmatic education ministers.

[NickiFury]

I think you should do what you need to do and if ever there was a time to to not take on board the ridiculous fear mongering surrounding taking term time holidays this is it.

[Haily111]

Thank you all for being so kind. DD met her new teacher yesterday. DH and i spoke about it a few weeks ago. He would miss the kids of course but i know it will do him and his work good to just get on with things. The house is a bloody tip as well, so he may sort that out. X

[WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant]

From a slightly different viewpoint,
Go and chat with the school.
Has dd had good attendance all year?
If so, the teacher/head would probably approve leave, so you feel less "guilty"
Now is the better time to go, rather than September, in the new class, as she will miss less stuff.
Also, have a chat with your health visitor about the baby not feeding well.
How is he fed?
If he will,take a bottle, could a friend or neighbour have him for an evening, so both you and hubby can rest and spend a few minutes with other dcs?

[IJustLostTheGame]

Go. There's nothing like your own family and I hope you start to see light at the end of the tunnel too.

[Bakeoffcake]

I would take her out of school, I'd have no hesitation at all.

Your health is the most important thing here.

I hope the medication kicks in soon and you start to feel better

[Haily111]

The travelling wont be easy i know. I don't fly (due to anxiety) so we always drive to Germany. It is a 7 hour trip door to door. I have done it countless times, but yes not with three kids. I would probably drive at night (leave around 6) as both older two will sleep. The baby is usually asleep in the car too so I think I would chance it x

[AllTheUserNamesAreTaken]

Definitely take her out, right now your health is more important than a week of school for a 9 year old right at the end of the year. I agree with lilac - do some extra reading, some puzzles and teach her some German

[lilacblossomtime]

Could your Dh go with you, stay for the weekend or a few days then fly back ?

[chairmeoh]

Do it! Explain to the school, ask if there's anything she can take with her such as a reading programme, online maths tool etc.
it's not ideal for her to miss school, but it seems the right thing to do from every individual member of the family's benefit.
Keep in touch with your doc too.
Hope you're soon fighting fit and feeling your best.

[Haily111]

She has had good attendance. To be fair i think the school would be ok about it.
DS2 is bottle fed. His feeding could be a complete other thread. He has suspected posterior tongue tie, but they don't want to snip it as he isn't breast fed and he should grow out of feeding issues. It apparently wont affect him later on in life. He has been referred to the Paediatric unit, but no news yet. My only other concern is he is meant to have his first immunisations next Friday. x

[JoandMax]

Do it, you will get the valuable support emotionally and physically from having your parents there that you sound like you really need.

A week off school at 9 versus her seeing her mother breaking down is a no brainier for me

Hope things start to improve soon x

[Artandco]

I would stay until next weekend then. Gives you 5 school days to talk to the school, get baby immunisations done, and pack ( especially if you going to go for 6 weeks).

I wouldn't worry about her missing school though, it's only about 10 days worth.

[IamtheDevilsAvocado]

Sorry you're struggling OP! Sounds horrible!

You've got to do it! Your eldest will miss little at the end of term... And spending time with her German family is important!

I would confide in your daughter's school - I think framing it as needing family help with a newborn.... Is there is any comeback - would just emphasise what a fantastic immersion experience in german language and culture it is, and how important it is for their cultural identity!

7 hours will fly by... Then you can have a whack of time with everyone cooing over you and the kids!

Gute Reise!!

[Haily111]

Thank you all for being supportive x

[PecanThief]

You should go.

Most Schools are definitely still working on the curriculum though. It would be chaos if the children were off timetable for the last few weeks and they're still capable of concentrating.

[Finola1step]

On a practical note, can tour dg drive over with you next weekend and then get a flight back? This is what my neighbours do when they do the drive to Germany for the summer holidays. They leave Friday night and he then gets a flight back on the Sunday.

[chinam]

Take her out and don't give it another thought. Having you get well is more important than one missed week of school.

[Musicaltheatremum]

I think you should go but I do worry about you driving at the moment. Could your husband drive you over on a weekend and fly back and then fly over and drive you back when you are ready to come home? depression is horrible. I've been there.

[Musicaltheatremum]

Cross post with Finola. Oops

[Haily111]

I will see if DP will do that. My dad was going to come over in August and then drive us back and then DP was coming over for a week and then driving us back to the UK. x

[Littlef00t]

I'd like to also say that I was massively struggling around the 10 wk mark and by 12 weeks things were much better with dd feeding and so eelinh more predictably.

I agree you should go, but hopefully things are turning s corner soon anyway

[WinterOfOurDiscountTents15]

Of course you should take DD out of school! It's a peculiarly British notion that constant and uninterrupted attendance at school for all ages no matter what is the be all and end all. It's utter nonsense.
It's almost the end of term and she's nine; she's not going to miss the advanced trigonometry which will secure her dream job. The family as a whole is much more important. Go. Go for a month if that works for you!