to not want to look old in wedding photos

[wolf14]

Went to a family members wedding. It was great. The bride and bridesmaids where younger than me and in the photos I noticed how fresh faced and young they look. When I smile I have lines by the side of my eyes and underneath them. These wrinkles are newish. I'm 28. I'm not married but am now debating if asked if I should. I never noticed before but all my friends and family look young in there wedding albums. They all seem to marry around 22 to 28 and look great.

As time goes on I will only look older and I'm not even engaged yet!!

Aibu to ask how old where you when you got married and do you feel you look just as good as the others around you in your album or if your not married would you have a deadline age?

OP - you may not believe this but it's possible to have a very happy marriage without a wedding photo album or even posed wedding photos. My DH and I certainly don't. We have maybe half a dozen snapshots, that's all. As others have already said, a marriage is not the same as a wedding.

I don't think this is really the issue for you (forgive me if I am wrong), but if you really, really want to preserve an image of your youthful self to pass down to future generations, you could always go and find a good portrait photographer. A few nice portraits could be (for example) a birthday or Christmas present, either from yourself or from your nearest and dearest.

You're asking if its unreasonable to get married based purely on what age you want to look in the pictures?

Um, let me think......yes, crazy levels of unreasonableness.

JohnFarleysRuskin

I was 32 when I got married. I don't have a wedding album or many photos. This has never bothered me. My husband thought I was a vision of beauty on the day - his opinion is the only one that counts!

Don't worry OP, thanks to Photoshop you will have much nicer looking skin in your wedding pics than any previous generation of brides in your family.

If you're worried about your crow's feet, could you have some Botox? You'll be feeling fresh-faced in no time.

Wolf I completely get where you are coming from. I'm in the same situation. My feelings are that because I hope I will eventually marry my boyfriend of 8yrs, we could have got married when I was 25 instead of 30 and I would have looked equally happy but younger. It's the waiting.

Such meanies on here! I get where you are coming from OP. I often think if I ever get married I'll look older and worse than I ever wanted to, but I'm 33,lifeless and single so there's nothing ahead for me! I don't think there's anything wrong with fleeting thoughts and wibbles as you get older,it's probably more to do with things being different/later than you wanted/expected more than anything else

Funnily enough I was looking at a friend's wedding photo recently and thought, "that is the best wedding photo I've seen". The bride and groom looked so cool, sorted and happy.

They are age 50 and 49.

Sorry OP, but you sound very shallow.

Not RTT. Don't need to.

All brides look fucking fabulous. It's not even a nice lie or anything. You can't help but be bloody gorgeous.

Don't people nowadays have photos taken almost all the time? . If you're worried about your grandchildren looking at your wedding album in years to come and thinking you look old, op, what will they make of the fact that you apparently look completely different far younger (if photoshopped) in those photos than you do in all others??
They'll think you hired a stand-in for your own wedding...
We all look how we look in everyday life anyway, and those close enough for their opinions to actually matter will actually see you all the time in real life.
There's nowhere to hide...

Will the photos be taken by a professional wedding photographer? I have two friends who are professonal wedding photographers and they have both said to me that they subtly photoshop the pics to make the bride and people in the bridal party pictures look good what they are photographed next to the bride. Subtly done

*when they are photographed

Can't see the point in farting about with photos, really. Everyone you know can see you in the flesh any time they choose. If the photographer done his job well, you're going to have a hell of a lot of people telling you you look "tired" in the weeks following the albums viewing, op.

Your only 28. I'm 28 and get married this year, I have the same lines as you but people tell me I look around 21. I used to be a bit paranoid but now I don't care. They are only lines!! Maybe you just need makeup that doesn't sit in the lines

I think pink squash has it. I got with him at 18. If we married at 24 I would have looked happy and young.

Maybe I'm bitter I'm not even engaged yet.

We spent our money through the years having children and buying a house...maybe I'm being spoilt and just want it all!

You are shockingly old, wrinkly and past it at 28, tis true.

28 is young to get married in many social circles anyway! My friends were no where near ready to get married at that age and still looked bloody fabulous (with age not even something we thought of) when they got married around their mid 30s, myself included. Really, don't even think you're old.

I've had two weddings.

For the first I was 26 and had been up all night before the wedding (for a variety of reasons, none of them pleasant!). I think I look okay in the photos.

I got married again 2 years ago at the age of 51 and (if I say so myself), I was absolutely glowing.

I was 42 (52 now)and a bit overweight and I look fabulous. There is a close up photograph of me laughing, you can see every wrinkle around my eyes and my neck is a bit fat and I look like the happiest and loveliest person alive.

I look like that because I was so incredibly happy and in love and I was committing to spending the rest of my life with a man who I know thought that I was the most sensational woman in the world - luckily he still does.

When you find someone like that to marry you will look beautiful on your wedding day, the happiness you feel will just radiate out from you;don't go into marriage for the wrong reasons.

And yes - I look better than EVERYONE else in my album regardless of their age (apart from my bridesmaid, but she's my daughter so she doesn't count! )

I got married at 24. I was thin and beautiful

I absolutely hate my wedding photos. They're bloody awful. Not because I didn't look good ( I bloody did)- but because the photographer was shite.

Couldn't give a shit. My husband and I had a nice day and 8 years on we're still married with 2 kids. The photos don't make the wedding. The wedding doesn't make the marriage.

If you want to caprure your youthful beauty go and have a photo shoot. You don't need to get married to have nice photos- but you don't nec get them from a wedding.

lilibet Perfect .