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Non-EU immigrant to the Netherlands here. Like the UK, the Dutch government doesn't extend the EU rights of family law to its own citizens. So someone from the UK or France can come to the Netherlands with their non-EU partner and it costs €40 and an hour to secure their partner's residency permit. If my partner was Belgian or Spanish we would have been fine.
Instead we have paid thousands for the privilege of being able to stay together in my Dutchie's country of birth, where he has a mortgage/family/friends, and for me to pay into the local tax system as well as the mandatory €100 monthly cost of basic health insurance. We paid the bills ourselves when our son was born as my residency application was delayed, meaning i couldn't buy local cover and no private insurer would cover pregnancy unless the policy was bought before falling pregnant. My travel insurance didn't cover it so another €6000 was billed.
yes, when I am hit with the extra hundreds of euro health 'surcharge' each year it does feel like i'm a cash cow. If I lose my ID card it costs €250 to replace. For everyone else it's €40.
The irony is... if we'd upped sticks and moved anywhere else in the EU the whole process would have cost us €40 and we could have sponged off the local health system. I don't begrudge anyone else the ease of immigrating here, I just wish the disparity wasn't so insultingly obvious.
But any hint of negativity is met with "go back to where you came from then."
Well, ok, i'd like to leave as I really don't like this country after being ripped off at every turn. But we can't afford to as our savings have been poured into the health and immigration departments.
It's a sad thing to become so bitter about an adopted country that every spare cent is being saved to get the hell out of it.