AIBU?
DP's brother came round to cook himself dinner
BornIn2000 · 02/07/2015 11:03
It went like this... I had cooked dinner for DP and I, we finished eating and I cleared up, the kitchen was nice and tidy.
DP's brother came round with a meal and said 'I'm gonna put this meal in the oven I'm starving!'
That's ok, I was a bit annoyed that the oven had to go on twice, we have to watch the electric metre.
Once he had finished he just chucked his plate and oven dish with his cutlery into the sink and left them there.
He didn't even bother tidying up after himself!
AIBU to be annoyed?
I told DP I don't want him coming round cooking his own dinner unless he tidies up after himself or at least puts his food in the oven while it's already on.
BornIn2000 · 02/07/2015 11:16
He's round ours most evenings. I usually offer him a meal if I have enough going spare. He's never brought his own food round to cook before though. He has a perfectly working oven at his own house.
I tidied the mess up, like he obviously knew I would.
ActiviaYoghurt · 02/07/2015 11:24
So he and his brother were going to the pub, he hadn't had time to eat first so he bought a ready meal around?
That wouldn't bother me in the slightest tbh. A single plate, one knife, a fork and a dish being left wouldn't either.
Do you want your BIL to not come around so much?
EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 02/07/2015 11:25
Well, now then, that's another issue. If he is coming to you most evenings, he should surely make some sort of contribution? For example, come along a little earlier to help peel some potatoes, or clear up the kitchen completely, AND bring some food items for the meal.
If he starts off behaving this way and you don't nip it in the bud, it will only get worse!
Gruntfuttock · 02/07/2015 11:35
Why on earth would someone with a home of their own take a ready meal to someone else's house, and cook and eat it there? It's such bizarre behavior. To then leave the mess for someone else to clear up just adds insult to injury. Why is he spending most evenings with you? 
helenahandbag · 02/07/2015 12:12
Notso
There's no junk food deterrent like a small child! My friend's 2yo DD was on me like flies on shit when I was trying to eat a piece of cake, hand extended and saying, "bit? Me bit? Please?"
I ended up shoving the last 3 square inches in my mouth just so I'd get some peace 
Topseyt · 02/07/2015 14:47
That's very rude and presumptuous of him. I would tell him.
Also, I don't get why he would have come to yours to cook his dinner unless there is some reason why his kitchen cannot be used (perhaps he has left too many dirty dishes all over it).
Put your foot down. At least set some ground rules. Some years ago I once called my DD1 back from a friend's house because she had left her washing up in the sink. She never did it again.
and give thanks that I don't know anyone rude enough to do this. What does DP say about it and do you stand up for yourself or just accept having a non-resident lodger?loveareadingthanks · 02/07/2015 15:58
Let me guess. You normally do the cooking and washing up?
So in his head...washing up...2000 does that....leave it here. Same as usual just that his was a bit later than everyone elses?
Still not polite but I can understand the lack of thought process about it.
If not, cheeky fecker, why did you do it? You should have left it for your DP as it's his brother. Bit pointless being a housework martyr and then moaning about it - just don't be a martyr in the first place. I know that doesn't sound very sympathetic but they can only take the piss if you wear that doormat sign on your head. Your choice really. Do it or don't do it. Don't do it and moan about doing it.
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